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..if your kid lost his NEW wallet with his birthday money in and gift cards

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 14:59

he is 11
i am times 2 million
would you reiburse as lesson learned
or let him learn hard way

there was NO reason for him to have had his wallet with him

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MarthaFarquhar · 15/08/2009 18:41

I'm with 100x

You can learn to be more careful, even if it's harder for some than others. It doesn't mean that accidents won't happen ever, but being careful helps.

I am finally learning to keep things safe now I'm on my 4th ipod .

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 18:44

you lot are funny
ok have offered him £5 for a weeks extreme laundry putting away( are post hol so is lots)
then will give grandma permission to buy him the game he wanted

tehrefore US not giving in

ker ching

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 18:44

btw
we had already fashioned the chain but was a slight fit issue so were going to get a GOOd one today
shop no good
Grandpa came over to look too

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bigchris · 15/08/2009 18:56

poor ds
on the upside he will never lose anything again....

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 15/08/2009 19:19

I think you should cut him some slack. Presumable he has never had a wallet in his pocket before so wouldn't know to make sure it is really in the pocket and won't know the feeling of it falling out of the pocket..

MamaG · 15/08/2009 19:28

Ah poor boy

I go between "ARGH I'm so angry you wil learn a lesson"
and "oh God, her little face, she's gutted, I must make her feel better"

yo-yo

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 19:31

Yes i agree

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differentID · 15/08/2009 19:34

Have you told him yet what you've decided?

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 19:35

well SO far dh has pronounced,
have MIl lined up to recompense indirectly by getting him a game " for something else"

am employing him as laundry wallah

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Podrick · 15/08/2009 19:39

If he has learnt the lesson you can reimburse/ partially reimbirse according to affordability

If not then don't reimburse and let him earn the money instead - or not, as he decides.

Greensleeves · 15/08/2009 19:39

I'd give him more than a fiver for a week's hard labour though, Arse

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 19:41

he is always affable tbh = he never sulks or strops he is a most amenable boy

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bodiddly · 15/08/2009 19:45

could you replace some of the rest of it on the condition that it is put in his savings account for use in a month or two? so he benefits long run but also helps him learn to be careful/save?

whomovedmychocolate · 15/08/2009 19:46

Please don't put him through the humiliation of having to tell his friends/gift givers he lost it - a simple 'thank you for the money and I'm hoping to get X with it' is vague enough.

Ah Badgers kids are always losing stuff - that's why I'm stapling dd's lunchbox to her plaits frenetically labeling everything that will go with her in September

I remember when I was his age someone bought me a silver chain and I loved it so much but the first time I wore it out, it must have slipped off and it was snowing and I lost it and I cried for weeks because I just felt so cheated. At that age, you don't really get that it's because you were stupid, the world is still fluffy at the edges and bad things don't happen really.

Poor you, you have lost too because you'll be paying some money. Mind you, the grandparents get to look like conquering heroes so at least they will be happy

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 19:46

oh that is an idea but he is a good saver - has over 2k of birthday money and money from godparents etc

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 19:47

..do you think the grandparents clause is a good one?
what are my kids always losing then?

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sherby · 15/08/2009 19:49

£5 for a weeks hard labour? -gang--master-

sherby · 15/08/2009 19:49

gang master even

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 19:50

oh god oyu lot.
I want TWO lines - one of " no let him suffer" and one of " aw poor guy"

and you must declare yourselves

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hunkermunker · 15/08/2009 19:53

I would put a poster up asking for the return of the wallet, promising a reward and hope for the best. Maybe get the sweet shop owner to put one up and stick them up on the route he took too. SHAME the swines into giving it back.

bodiddly · 15/08/2009 19:56

aw poor guy (is that what you wanted to hear?) ... we've all been there!
at his savings! If he has that much in savings then I would let him take the equivalent out of his savings to pay for the game etc .. that way he still gets what he wants but he has to pay the cost of losing it. If he had nothing in savings then I would probably offer to help more to be honest.

geordieminx · 15/08/2009 19:56

Poor ds. He's only 11.

I was going to buy ds a new craft set today, on the way to the till he threw a complete strop for no reason, and nipped dp's face so we put aforementioned craft set on the nearest shelf, told him he wasnt getting it as he had been naughty and left. Hes 2.3

I feel like a very bad mummy now, and will no doubt be at WhSmiths tommorrow morning

If you can afford it - do it. You know you want to.

If you bought yourself something nice - ipod for example and lost it the next day would you replace it? I would.

hunkermunker · 15/08/2009 19:56

Make him write an essay about why it's important to take care of your possessions.

Then give him the money.

[soft touch]

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 19:57

I'd just let him wallow a bit then probably subsidise the whole lot (if I could afford it)

would also ask him to make a poster for sweet shop and ask owner to put it up

and perhaps on a lamppost

he will feel bad enough and he'll NEVER forget

if you can afford it, he doesn't need to suffer more I think

we can all be silly arses sometimes

geordieminx · 15/08/2009 19:57

Also, I hope that whichever scumbag nasty person that pocketed a kids wallet gets piles so big that they can be seen from space.