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..if your kid lost his NEW wallet with his birthday money in and gift cards

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 14:59

he is 11
i am times 2 million
would you reiburse as lesson learned
or let him learn hard way

there was NO reason for him to have had his wallet with him

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 21:04

we had the "put your phone numb er in it " chatjust beofre he went out

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ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:07

Have asked.

He says - and I kid you not - 'If she gives him the money back he'll NEVER LEARN. And what if when his mother isn't there? What's he going to do then? He won't have learnt how to look after his things. Life is like this'

after he said 'life is like this' we looked at each other solemnly for a bit, and I thought perhaps I'd been a very bad parent indeed.

Then he said (removing spectacles) 'however, I suggest, because it was his birthday you see - she buys him a new wallet but not the money. Then he can start again, and he'll be pleased about that.'

Hand on heart, swear to god, this is what he said. Have I told you he wants to be a lawyer? Frightening, but true.

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 21:07

ok

update
dh thinks the pretending someone found it idea is a " fine idea" ( he is so FORRIN sometimes)
BUT it will be LESS money and not for a while.

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 21:08

god i love him
now YOU lot go and ask your kids.

this is like when you do Sentencing excercises with teenagers - they want to flail and torture. Fascists the lot of em

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bigchris · 15/08/2009 21:08

how far is your corner shop from you and how busy is it?
is your street full of bored teenagers waiting to pounce on dropped wallets? someone might have it for safe keeping???

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:10

I think the same as ds1 now. I think don't give him the money, but do give him a new wallet because shit happens sometimes. He can fill the wallet by doing the ironing.

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 21:10

no it was deserted apart from two other boys( relatively trustworthy and hung around for ages after we had finished looking so obv not scooting off to look at ££) and a 7 year old girl.
its like the Graff theft in a way. it will be on its way to russia to be melted down.

we even looked in the bins

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PinkTulips · 15/08/2009 21:10

100x.... i'm a checker too, compulsive to the point of it being ocd. I have the refrain 'wallet, keys, phone, wallet, keys, phone, wallet, keys, phone' running through my head every second i'm out the door. I have set places in the house where every item has to be placed so i know where it is. I do all the things you're supposed to do to avoid losing things.

Yet in the recent months i've;

  • Dropped debit card by car at garage and driven off (i know exactly where i dropped it as i checked my hand for it 10 seconds before, got distracted by a cute kid in the next car over waving at me and forgot all about it)
  • Lost tweezers on 2 night stay in hotel, found them amongst jewelery a month later despite having ransacked jewelery 1000 times
  • Lost the prepaid pre-addressed envelope to an inportant form despite form and envelope living in the documents drawer the entire time they were in the house
  • Forgotten to bring the changing bag out about 30 times despite having a very young baby
  • Walked off from counters in shops leaving the item i've just paid for on the counter repeatedly
  • Gone to shops for one item, forgotton to buy that one item... weekly occurance.
  • Let several plants die by forgetting to water them
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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 21:11

and if this gets i in the DM then MIL will KNOW its me

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ChookKeeper · 15/08/2009 21:12

I'm just a mean cow then. My DDs (then 14 & 11) lost a bag containing two computer games and a new top in a shop last year (after putting it down and leaving it unattended whilst they tried on shoes). I told them it was their own tough luck and that as my employer wouldn't pay me twice then there was no way I was going to give them more money if they didn't have the sense to look after one carrier bag between them.

Funnily enough they haven't lost anything since

sherby · 15/08/2009 21:13

Just asked DD and she said "how many chocolate frogs is £50" (this is how she measures money) she is 4 so not much good to you sorry

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 21:14

thanks to sherbette

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ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:15

Right, I asked more of them.

ds2 (who loses things all the time) He pulled a face and said 'oh that's AWFUL. £50. Was he robbed?' and I said no it just fell out his pocket. 'Poor him' he said, with rueful shaking of his head. 'His parents MUST give him the money back. That's such bad luck. I feel really bad for him you know?'

dd: 'it's his fault. He was stupid. He should be punished by his parents'. She is a fascist though.

sherby · 15/08/2009 21:17

lol at 'he should be punished by his parents'

yes get your cane out

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:19

Can I also just share that earlier today ds2 said to me very seriously, 'you know what, I have this feeling, like, that I'm just right about everything ALL THE TIME'

and I said, 'yes, I have that too. It's awful isn't it?'

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 21:21

ds said 'he should look with torches till it's dark and then shouldn't get anything back because it was his fault for taking it in the first place when he didn't need to' {policeman in waiting}

dd said first 'someone would pick it up and hand it in to a shop or police station' and she said if no-one handed it in of course he should get the money and wallet from his parents because it wasn't deliberate, wasn't his fault and these things happen

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:24

lol at my ds2 and FIS's dd being so empathetic. They could lose their feet those two

PinkTulips · 15/08/2009 21:27

Just explained entire scenario to dp as if it were one of our kids, being quite blunt about child's lack of sense in the matter, and asked him 'Would you consider replacing the money?' and his response was 'Oh god, of course I'd replace it... it's their birthday money!'

Frightening to think but i'm actually the hard ass in this house

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 21:27

lol

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:28

Oh pinktulips I lose things and forget things all the time. The specs, wallet, keys checking is the bare essentials. If I add anything to the list - it's gone. If I take an umbrella with me for instance, you may be sure I shan't return with it.

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 21:32

yes dh very like that

he frequently goes to the cash machine, types in that he wants cash, takes his card then walks away before taking the cash [cries]

then again, if you walk into our house, you're bound to find something like the milk where the plates are and a spoon in the fridge

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:36

On holiday two weeks ago, we arrived at the beach. And all got out the car and dh and I looked at each other and said 'where's the dog?'

We'd left him behind. That's quite bad isn't it? He was still sitting by the garage four hours later when we got back.

I left ds2 at a swimming pool once. We'd driven about a mile before ds1 said, 'erm, excuse me but ds2 isn't in the car.'

BUT glasses, wallet, keys - sorted.

Bleatblurt · 15/08/2009 21:38

Oh dear, there must be something wrong with me ahundredtimes - I feel sorry for your poor dog but laughed at you leaving your DS2 behind!

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:43

I know. We all felt awful about the dog.

foxinsocks · 15/08/2009 21:44

lol poor ds2

I like the way the dog waited though. Almost makes it worse .