I don't bloody want lasagne

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Due to things going on at the moment for me, I am in a foul/sad/unhappy/miserable mood today. I am due to go to my friends house tonight, but:

1. she is making lasagne. I don't want bloody lasagne - no dinner put in front of me right now will cheer me up, I want dinner but couldn't tell you what I would want .. if anything
2. she has told me her 2 teen DD will be there for dinner too. No disrespect to her DDs, they are lovely, but I can just as well sit at home with my DDs and have dinner, which I might as well do if her DD will be with us ? why would I want to sit with her DDs when I can play happy families at home with mine? no malice or sarcasm intended by that

I probably sound ungrateful for her inviting me and offering dinner. Imo, my friend just wants the adult conversation/company, rather than spend the eve with her just her DDs who just sit on their phones all eve, if not in their rooms - but that is not my problem.

You sound like a miserable cow. I wouldn't want you in my house.

But surely this is absolutely normal — if I invite anyone for a meal it won’t be just me and them, DH and DS (grown up) would be there too. I’m not cooking twice!

She wanted company. Isn't that why anyone ever invites anyone over? You aren't in the mood, so just tell her you're too tired/whatever tonight to do anything but crash at home.

Omg . While I agree having teens at the table rather alters the dynamic but are they going to be with you all evening? Where else would her kids be?
As for not wanting lasagna - that’s totally your problem. She is cooking dinner and can cook what she wants.

You do sound hard work. Your friend has done a nice thing in asking you for dinner and all you can do is complain about the food and her DDs, who probably will only be in the room for the meal anyway by the sound of it.

You actually don't sound like much of a friend, so I would cancel if I were you. She deserves better.

She absolutely said she was in a horrible foul mood and nothing will satisfy her, its a chat forum, in chat, its not meant to be taken literally like she thinks her mate is awful

She's having a vent and a down miserable day and finding fault with everything. On an anonymous forum.

pointless comment, then

Well, you're just determined to excuse OP for some reason.

I really do not think this reaction is normal about someone who's been nothing but nice to you.

the (lack of) reading comprehending and understanding
on this thread has been truly disheartening, embarrassing even

I’d be happy if someone cooked anything for me!

Everyone is ‘hard work’ this evening!

Is it one of those things where your mood will turn around if you go?

It's not weird, it's nice. But you clearly don't want to go, so don't.

Not sure what the point is here.

For the sake of your friend, I hope you didn’t go

This. Awful.

My friends are awesome thanks. You sound ridiculously snippy for no reason.

I wouldnt mind a lasagne now. I always crave them but I cant eat pasta. Shame.

What is it you think we have not understood?

What time are we meeting? It's been ages since I've had a home cooked lasagne. (OH doesn't like it). I'll bring the wine and pudding.

Must be you as it seems perfectly normal to me.

None of us know what shit OP has going on atm. Some days, I could argue in an empty room. I'm fortunate though, that the friends I have would totally understand, if I cancelled because I was feeling crap, and vice versa.

You and the OP sound made for each other

It's not about the friend, or the dinner arrangements though, is it? OP has been clear she's got some crap going on, and just wanted to vent. That doesn't make her a shit friend.

Agree. Surely the whole point of seeing another adult is to get adult company 😂

Then she needs to cancel rather than spoil her friend’s night too.

It’s not rocket science and the reason the OP has chosen to post in such a petulant way is because she wants a reaction.