I don't bloody want lasagne

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Due to things going on at the moment for me, I am in a foul/sad/unhappy/miserable mood today. I am due to go to my friends house tonight, but:

1. she is making lasagne. I don't want bloody lasagne - no dinner put in front of me right now will cheer me up, I want dinner but couldn't tell you what I would want .. if anything
2. she has told me her 2 teen DD will be there for dinner too. No disrespect to her DDs, they are lovely, but I can just as well sit at home with my DDs and have dinner, which I might as well do if her DD will be with us ? why would I want to sit with her DDs when I can play happy families at home with mine? no malice or sarcasm intended by that

I probably sound ungrateful for her inviting me and offering dinner. Imo, my friend just wants the adult conversation/company, rather than spend the eve with her just her DDs who just sit on their phones all eve, if not in their rooms - but that is not my problem.

Tell you what, I'll go instead of you.
I LOVE home made lasagne, but am far too lazy to make it myself more than once or twice a year.
I'll just pretend to be you dressed up for halloween ( you are bound to be better looking than me and have smarter clothes so it'll be fine).
She'll never know.

Send me the address and I'll do this for you.
Totally altruistic on my part.
Honest.

More seriously, I think this might be the second time this week I've posted this, but I am glad the original poster isn't my friend and I am soooo thankful mine are nice and decent.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 please stay home and cancel 🙈🤣🤣🤣🤣 it will not be good for anyone today

Why not?
I think you're being weird here. Maybe the bad mood or is it usual for you to not see the value of spending time with friends?

Then fill your boots.

But don't be surprised when others tell her she's being nasty and ungrateful about her friend's generosity, when that's exactly what she's being.

Well I bet this thread has cheered you right up OP.

I had a day like this yesterday - I'm chalking it up to a lot of change and phantom PMT (definitely past the really thing!).

Stay home. Have a bath or shower, clean PJs, order a takeaway and watch some comfort telly. It won't fix anything but at least you won't feel like you have to be 'on' all evening.

Then go and see your mate when you're in the right frame of mind to enjoy her company and her lasagne.

It’s ironic how some call OP nasty, when they come across as nasty themselves. 🤣

I’m not surprised. It’s MN, and there are quite a few people who are nasty.

Is this one of those situations where you don’t want to go somewhere but enjoy it once you’re there?

An invite is not a summons, you can say you don't feel like it tonight, but honestly if you are going to a friend's house, who is cooking tea for you, complaining about who else in in the house and what the food will be is just really rude.

Just you.
It is perfectly normal for families to have friends for a meal.

If you are having a shit day and are in a shit mood then it is possible that just getting out and changing environment and talking about anything and nothing might just help alleviate your mood a bit. I usually find that anyway.

Just don’t go. Say you feel unwell and order yourself a takeaway.

We have done this plenty in the past. The DC then leave the table and go do their things so we are only expecting our guests to mingle with them for half an hour or so.

I'd raincheck, tbh. You've obviously, had a bad day, your friend could serve you your most favourite meal ever, and the mood you're in, you'd hate it. Other option, would perhaps, say to her, you know what, I think I'd prefer a drink. Can I meet you at the pub? However, your friend doesn't deserve to be on the receiving end of your bad mood. Hope you feel better soon.

Don't go. Be miserable alone. Let your friend give her generosity to someone who deserves it.

wow … you sound lovely! Glad you’re not my friend.

Arrived about 7 for dinner at 7:30. The trick or treaters should be ending by around then.

Shall I do the rosemary or the onion focaccia to start?

What did you expect her to do? Should she have cooked something else for you? Why did you accept the invitation?

you seem to be in a bad mood. Maybe tell your friend that and offer to take her for a meal another time ,making sure you cancel tonight.

I’ll gladly go in your place OP
I love lasagne and I’ve had a busy day at work and I really can’t be bothered to cook tonight

Can you take your DC too?

I think it depends. Do you normally snap out of it once you're out and about? Is your friend someone who realistically will cheer you up and bring out the person you are when you're not grumpy? If so, go. If you know quite well that you're not going to get over your current mood then it's kinder to both of you (and her daughters) to cancel. Lots of good forms of words already on this thread. Just be honest and say you wouldn't be good company right now.

On whether it's weird to invite friends to a family dinner, I don't think so. When my two were at home I frequently had friends round for dinner with me and my DDs - I was a single parent most of the time, so I couldn't easily go out, or have a partner take my kids off somewhere. I also had lots of friends who would do the same, and I enjoyed spending time with their families. I'm long past the age when most of my friends have children at home, and I miss it; if someone invited me round for a family dinner of lasagna I'd love to go!

Because the kids are there and need feeding too?
I don't understand your thinking. To me, if you want an adult meet-up with a friend you go out or to someone's house who doesn't have kids. If you get invited to the house of someone who does, you expect them to be there.
Although it sounds like her DDs will eat and then disappear behind their phones/to their rooms anyway, so why does it matter?

Message her...tell her you've got a gob on you just now, you don't want "her bloody lasagne" or spending time with her teens.
Best stay away for just now