I don't bloody want lasagne

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Due to things going on at the moment for me, I am in a foul/sad/unhappy/miserable mood today. I am due to go to my friends house tonight, but:

1. she is making lasagne. I don't want bloody lasagne - no dinner put in front of me right now will cheer me up, I want dinner but couldn't tell you what I would want .. if anything
2. she has told me her 2 teen DD will be there for dinner too. No disrespect to her DDs, they are lovely, but I can just as well sit at home with my DDs and have dinner, which I might as well do if her DD will be with us ? why would I want to sit with her DDs when I can play happy families at home with mine? no malice or sarcasm intended by that

I probably sound ungrateful for her inviting me and offering dinner. Imo, my friend just wants the adult conversation/company, rather than spend the eve with her just her DDs who just sit on their phones all eve, if not in their rooms - but that is not my problem.

I think this is perfectly normal. I’ve been to many friends houses and done the same. It would be more weird if the DDs were sat at the table on their own and you and friend eating separately.
You need to call off going. You’re likely to upset your friend with your grumpiness rather than have a nice old catch up.

Will it be a nice homemade one lasagne is my goto meal for guests

Grow up and cancel.

I'm having an absolutely awful time of it at the moment and I'd absolutely LOVE to spend a few hours out of the house eating a meal a good friend had cooked for me, but I have literally no friends so I can't.

If I did and felt like you, I'd explain to that friend how I was feeling and postpone/make plans to see her just the two of you at some point soon.

Hope you feel better soon OP 💐

It’s a very normal thing to do and lasagne is a good offering (assuming you eat meat) would it be less weird if your kids were invited?

It's really not weird. I've eaten with my best friend and her daughter loads of times. It's what happens when you go round at dinner time and the kids are home, in a house where the family eats all together. It's nice.

All of the problems you list are you problems. Because you're not feeling great, and I'm sorry about that. I hope things change for you soon.

But your friend is making lasagne and the fact you don't want to eat it - or anything - is a you problem.

She's invited you over full stop and the fact you don't want to go is a you problem.

Her kids are home and the fact you don't want to hang out with them is a you problem.

She's hosting everyone around the same table at the same time and the fact you think this is weird is a you problem.

She fancies some adult company at night and the fact you don't want to play that role today is a you problem.

As others have said, just tell her you're not feeling it.

But I think you should go. Company and getting out of your own head might make you feel a bit brighter. But if you really can't face eating a meal someone cooked for you and a change of scene without being an ungrateful grumpy cow about it, don't go.

I also think just tell her you’re unwell and could you postpone to next Friday.

I’d love to have a friend that invited me to dinner at their house. I’m geographically far from my old friends who may have done this. I miss those easy girlie evenings.

……I think that’s definitely just you being weird, picky and moody.

Tomorrow will be better.

Don’t go then

It’s not your friends job to mould her whole evening (and her children’s) around you or your mood. It’s not all about you

Stay at home then until you’re in a better mood!

I would rather a friend cancel because they’re in a bad mood than turn up and moan about everything and ruin my evening.

I don’t want Lasagne tonight either. And I don’t want lasagne with kids. Don’t go. 💪🏻

I mean, it’s an invitation not a hostage situation - just don’t go if you don’t want to. 🤷‍♀️

I want lasagne so much that as a result of this thread I've just made one to have tomorrow night.

Roast butternut squash with butter beans and sage, spinach and ricotta, bechamel, pasta. I love autumn food.

Because she was labouring under the misapprehension that you're her friend?

Do her a favour and stay home.

Your poor friend. Do her a favour and cancel. Maybe she's looking out for you and that's why she invited you over? Sounds like a nice caring thing to do. Apparently not.

I don't understand how you are not able to read the room. It's because she doesn't want to spend time with you alone.

Fine for OP (or anyone) to not to want lasagne or go to a friend's, but why be unpleasant and start a thread basically slagging someone off for inviting you for dinner?

why not take your own daughter and then the kids can entertain themselves while you two chat?

Weird post, but anyway, don't go.

Well, given she has a family who live with her, where would you expect them to eat, if not with you?

I mean totally fine to not be in the mood for going. You don't sound like you like her much anyway. But no it's not weird to invite a friend to join you for dinner, it's totally normal and very nice thing to do.

Because it's completely normal, that's why.
It's not weird at all.

As a French person, I find that the most normal/natural thing in the world 😁😁
Fwiw what do you exoect your friend to do with her dds? Kick them out first the evening? Having a sit down meal with your friend but Theyre not ‘invited’?

Ok, appreciate it’s not helping you.
But I suspect you’re just in a bad mood today and I’d just cancel saying you’re not good company.

That would be a pretty normal thing to do in my world too…..