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Putney Pusher suspect found dead, according to reports

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Fartughtyred · 16/09/2026 15:00

Goodness me, wasn't expecting that.

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LizzieSiddal · 16/09/2026 18:52

KatherineParr · 16/09/2026 15:42

I'm a bit shocked we're only a few posts into this thread but there's already so many stories of men pushing women in the streets.

Agree. People saying “oh I wonder if he had PTSD” really angers me. Many servicemen/women suffer PTSD, they don’t go around trying to murder women.

If you have PTSD you get help for it. There’s no excuse.

TerfOnATrain · 16/09/2026 18:54

I’ve followed this from the beginning. I just see an entitled aristocrat who went to Sandhurst. I call BS at the potential PSTD, he was hardly an Infantry squaddie with a troubled childhood from Middlesbrough.

I think he was a shit husband, entitled, arrogant, a coke head and an intolerant and angry misogynist. A nepo baby with a great, but undeserved, career in banking.

And he got caught out. He would have carried on living his selfish, unbothered life if he hadn’t been caught, without any remorse.

When this raised its head again recently, I was pretty sure they had the right man this time. I have zero sympathy for him. You reap what you sow.

I hope his ex wife and the woman he shoved into the path of a bus (rumour has it he paid her off) live happy and peaceful lives.

One less twat in this world is always a bonus.

Redheadedstepchild · 16/09/2026 18:57

Bloodysquirellls · 16/09/2026 17:30

Ewww mummy complex woman hater.

Is there a technical term for that?

Oedipus complex?

dapsnotplimsolls · 16/09/2026 18:58

I hadn't heard he paid her off??

NoWordForFluffy · 16/09/2026 18:58

Contain4 · 16/09/2026 17:54

Was he the actual person who did it?

He was released without charge and so I hope it’s not a case of being hounded for committing a crime he didn’t do.

He was released under investigation. They hadn't charged or NFA'd him.

susiedaisy1912 · 16/09/2026 18:59

Got no sympathy for him. A coward who didn’t want to face his actions and the probable downfall of his career and lifestyle.

tsmainsqueeze · 16/09/2026 19:00

Lexy2345 · 16/09/2026 15:49

If he has died by suicide, and it does sound as if he has, from the wording in the report, then he's an even bigger coward than I first thought. His poor family.

I think you are very unreasonable and thoughtless calling someone who has taken their own life a coward.
I imagine you have seen numerous threads on here concerning suicide and the devastation it leaves behind .
Someone close to me lost someone very young and precious this way do you consider them to be a coward?
If this man was the pusher then he clearly was a despicable man but there are some posters on here who seem to be relishing the fact that he is now dead.

Sewingbeedamned · 16/09/2026 19:02

CrazyMidget · 16/09/2026 18:05

Well, I hesitate to be glad about anyone's suicide; a much better solution would have been for him to take responsibility, take his punishment, take advantage of all the therapy and rehabilitation he could have got in prison, and commit to being a better person in every way, for the rest of his life.

However. There was clearly something very, VERY wrong with him. What he did to that woman was psychotic, and then there was that other incident in traffic, too. I often think that someone like that is just wired wrong.

I feel sorry for his kids, if he has any. He and his wife were separated, I think. I'm sure she has mixed feelings, but in a way this might solve a problem for her, awful as that is to say.

I think it is interesting people have mooted PTSD. Because from my experience, as many veterans as there are out there with this terrible disorder, there are also people who join the army and other services for the opportunity to be aggressive and potentially harmful to other people (thinking of police and prison officers for example). And no, I dont think all people in those roles are like that. But there is a significant percentage who are attracted in because they are naturally sadistic.

Somethinggg · 16/09/2026 19:03

SmallDFartyCarNRG · 16/09/2026 17:14

Interesting choice for HSBC to show him off and City Wealth to interview him in 2026. Even more eyebrow raising is his claim to value "compassion".

It's before he was arrested, so they wouldn't have known. I thought the interview read as a way for HSBC to plug their flexible working parent policies. Happens sometimes in that sort of trade rag.

Fartughtyred · 16/09/2026 19:07

DogAnxiety · 16/09/2026 18:30

Within one page there are people making excuses for this ‘man’, PTSD, blah. It’s much more likely he was an entitled, coked up horror with no fear of the law, He ran back the same way 15
minutes later to have a gander.

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No one is making excuses for him, that's ridiculous and you'd have to be hard pushed to find anything that could excuse such behaviour (if indeed it was him) It was beyond abhorrent and totally outwith the understanding of most people. So alien is it that people will quite naturally try and make some sense of what has happened and why. Whether mentally ill due to PTSD, drugs, a combination of both or born a psychopathic nutcase either way the man was clearly a very disturbed individual. However he is now dead, not even cold and in sad circumstances.When a child is left fatherless, It's not really the time for gloating or sticking the boot in further.

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CandidLurker · 16/09/2026 19:09

guinnessguzzler · 16/09/2026 17:11

I have to say I was wondering the same. My first degree is in philosophy and I find it hard to imagine my career being army captain then director of a private bank. I mean, I understand the concept of transferrable skills but I think I'd struggle to even get an interview. It's really quite incredible but this set of circumstances perhaps shows that putting people in positions they're not right or ready for doesn't always do them a favour. Problematic personality combined with high stress and drug use.

It’s not the degree. It’s the military background. I worked in banking and met quite a few former military people. They generally make good project managers/organisers and dependent on background can do technical roles. Given his family backround not surprising he found a home in a private bank though.

nomas · 16/09/2026 19:11

Fartughtyred · 16/09/2026 19:07

No one is making excuses for him, that's ridiculous and you'd have to be hard pushed to find anything that could excuse such behaviour (if indeed it was him) It was beyond abhorrent and totally outwith the understanding of most people. So alien is it that people will quite naturally try and make some sense of what has happened and why. Whether mentally ill due to PTSD, drugs, a combination of both or born a psychopathic nutcase either way the man was clearly a very disturbed individual. However he is now dead, not even cold and in sad circumstances.When a child is left fatherless, It's not really the time for gloating or sticking the boot in further.

We don't that know he was disturbed at all.

It's frustrating that the mental health defence is pre-emptively rolled out for white, rich, successful men.

DogAnxiety · 16/09/2026 19:16

@nomas ansolutely this, it’s just so predictable and truly insulting to people who have mental health conditions but manage not to shove people under buses.

EstherGreenwood63 · 16/09/2026 19:18

@TerfOnATrain I couldn't agree more. Trash took itself out. World's a better place without this one.

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Westfacing · 16/09/2026 19:19

TerfOnATrain · 16/09/2026 18:54

I’ve followed this from the beginning. I just see an entitled aristocrat who went to Sandhurst. I call BS at the potential PSTD, he was hardly an Infantry squaddie with a troubled childhood from Middlesbrough.

I think he was a shit husband, entitled, arrogant, a coke head and an intolerant and angry misogynist. A nepo baby with a great, but undeserved, career in banking.

And he got caught out. He would have carried on living his selfish, unbothered life if he hadn’t been caught, without any remorse.

When this raised its head again recently, I was pretty sure they had the right man this time. I have zero sympathy for him. You reap what you sow.

I hope his ex wife and the woman he shoved into the path of a bus (rumour has it he paid her off) live happy and peaceful lives.

One less twat in this world is always a bonus.

I hope his ex wife and the woman he shoved into the path of a bus (rumour has it he paid her off) live happy and peaceful lives.

How could he have paid her off? He would have to admit it was him! That rumour doesn't make sense

Butchyrestingface · 16/09/2026 19:20

If it wasn't him, tragic.

If it was him, oh well.

JasmineMac · 16/09/2026 19:22

Coffeeandallthebooks · 16/09/2026 16:53

This was totally different, both women were on a narrow path with poor signage and neither was aware they didn't have right of way.
The pedestrian had learning difficulties and visual impairment, and she shouted in panic and gesticulated, causing the cyclist to veer into traffic where she was tragically killed.

The initial conviction was overturned as it was agreed that the signage and space were inadequate and this was the true cause of the accident.

It is very, very different to deliberately push someone into busy traffic and, chillingly, jog back to see the damage you've done.

It wasn't a narrow path, it was a pavement with plenty of space for the cyclist and pedestrian to pass each other.
The manslaughter conviction was overturned because the prosecution hadn't adequately establish a 'base offence' during the trial.
The footage shows clearly that the cyclist ended up on the road as a result of the confrontation.
There should've been a retrial, but it was denied.

BlessedIsTheFruit · 16/09/2026 19:22

Watching the video again, there's no way the pusher didn't realise a bus was coming up behind him and he certainly deliberately pushed the victim into the road. If it hadn't been for the alertness of the bus driver, the victim's head would have been crushed under the front bus wheel! Horrific!

He had plenty of room on the path to go past her without incident. That was attempted murder.

I don't think it's realistic that someone like that wouldn't have committed other atrocious acts during his life.

I doubt very much that in the circles he was in, a bust for cocaine use would have been much cause for embarrassment, and personal use wouldn't have attracted much more than a slap on the wrist. Easy to come back from when you know the right people.

I would hazard a guess the idea of prison time for attempted murder would have been untenable for someone from that environment used to doing whatever he wanted.

Good riddance.

TurquoiseDress · 16/09/2026 19:22

This is obviously very sad for his child(ren)/family

But how the hell did he evade arrest all this time?

Almost certainly given protection for whatever reasons..wealthy & connected as it turns out

JustAnotherWhinger · 16/09/2026 19:23

ginasevern · 16/09/2026 18:09

Connections pure and simple. No wonder the Met dragged their feet. Like I said up thread, he was first cousin to Prince Philip.

He wasn’t a first cousin to Philip, he would have been second cousin once removed.

His grandmother, Princess Katherine, was Philip’s first cousin as their fathers were brothers.

whatwouldlilacerullodo · 16/09/2026 19:24

SirChenjins · 16/09/2026 15:23

Convicted in that he got points on his license (not the full amount) and a fine of a few hundred points - he thanked the judge and said he'd pay immediately (with a smirk, probably).

It's a shame for his family obviously, but my sympathies lie with the woman who almost lost her life that day.

I don't think people turn out so evil if they are raised in a nice family, with decent people...

JustAnotherWhinger · 16/09/2026 19:24

BlessedIsTheFruit · 16/09/2026 19:22

Watching the video again, there's no way the pusher didn't realise a bus was coming up behind him and he certainly deliberately pushed the victim into the road. If it hadn't been for the alertness of the bus driver, the victim's head would have been crushed under the front bus wheel! Horrific!

He had plenty of room on the path to go past her without incident. That was attempted murder.

I don't think it's realistic that someone like that wouldn't have committed other atrocious acts during his life.

I doubt very much that in the circles he was in, a bust for cocaine use would have been much cause for embarrassment, and personal use wouldn't have attracted much more than a slap on the wrist. Easy to come back from when you know the right people.

I would hazard a guess the idea of prison time for attempted murder would have been untenable for someone from that environment used to doing whatever he wanted.

Good riddance.

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I’d call it attempted murder as well.

He chose not to push the other man he passed and targeted the woman specifically and deliberately pushed her in front of the bus.

shuggles · 16/09/2026 19:26

@ThatCyanCat No women flocked to him, unless you mean the teachers. You were at school; you were all kids, including him and the girls who were drawn to him. Kids/children/youngsters aren't known for their fantastic mature judgement...

I mean when we grew up and became adults.

He was an asshole as a teenager, then we grew up, and he was the same asshole. He did not magically change in any way.

Teens have poor judgement, but I expect 20-something people to be more sensible.

and getting married isn't difficult.

You know that's not correct, so why write that? A very large minority of men have few or no romantic relationships.

nomas · 16/09/2026 19:26

So weird how for years people thought he had got away with it and so many people had felt a helpless anger towards him (most especially perhaps his victim).

And yet with a roll of the dice, everything has changed.

If only every violent attack had a resolution.