Things that people bang on about on here that you never hear discussed in real life

[hardshoulderr]

I'll start:

travel trousers. - just put some jogging bottoms or leggings on for God sake and stop being a twat
Wills - Maybe nobody I know inherits any money, but wills seem to be a big deal on here

Pronouns are the business of the person using them, not the person who is the object of them. Very disconcerting to have to remember someone who looks female is 'he'. Also linguistically improper, removing the certainty of reference and interfering with the coherent meaning of a sentence. In their earshot name and bloody pronoun if absolutely must. Out of their earshot, truth.

No, I meant how do you know people "couldn't give two hoots" if they've never discussed it?
Perhaps it really does matter to them, one way or another, but they're too anxious to raise it?

My local MP here in Australia is a arsehole he wouldn't help anybody and the whole town knows it

Yes, it is the same here in South Africa.

No one really cares how much you earn. And I would never ask someone as you say, it is looked at as really rude.

And then what is the cut off in UK to go into middle class bracket? 😀

( we don't use the term working class either. In fact I am not sure what it even means)

That's because some of the opinions can get you cancelled, cost your livelihood if discussed in real life.

Absolutely. A Will is essential, and can be critical.

I agree. I am not eligible for antivirals, and was housebound for 4 months after I had covid 2 years ago. I couldn't walk, and I couldn't ride in the car as it made me severely dizzy, carsick, and would leave me bedbound for days after. So people who refuse to test, isolate, or who make fun of people wearing masks don't realise how lucky they are that they don't have to worry about it, but I do wish culturally that they remembered the same people they were trying to protect during lockdown are still out here trying to live a normal life while they deride our choices we make to try and protect ourselves.
I hope your son can stay well 🙏

I ring the bell at any house I am visiting, expected or not. Don't go to places where I am unexpected very often or at all, in fact.

Were they really welcomed? Or was everyone pretending in case they were outed as GC - social and financial death in some places. No-one will say because they are afraid of the TRA mob turning on them and they don't know they are not in a ladies sex segregated space that is not full of TRAs.

Some people are immune suppressed and have to be careful not to pointlessly die ...my goodness

My friends are "obsessed" their daughter has had a transplant...what evil parents for caring about their little girl 🤦‍♀️

Thats like moaning people talk about cancer

TBH most things.

However, I discuss things with friends and family that people on MN seem to be afraid to do in real life.

If I can't afford to do something
How to split a bill with friends before a meal
Saying no to requests that I either can't fulfil or don't want to do

I refuse to be guilt tripped into things, and everyone I know must sense that. Either that or I just have reasonable friends and family.

Everyone was afraid to say 'why are there men in here?', because everyone was treating blokes who think it's a turn on to violate women's boundaries with kid gloves because they were there violating boundaries and men can be unpredictably violent - especially those who are mentally unstable (i.e. TiMs).
There is also the likelihood if a woman complains to the bar owner that it is she who will be told to leave the pub and that she is banned.

Being "treated like celebrities" and "everyone was excited"? That's a strange one, isn't it? I've never come across such a toilet celebration.

Lucky then.

Ohhh I need to see these travel trousers

Harry and Megan
At least among my circle, you'd be seen as a right weirdo for having strong opinions on H&M because the only time we discuss the Royals is when we are discussing Prince Andrew/Epstein. And we are not 'celebrity gossip is stupid' people in the slightest.
Everyone who has hate for H&M ive ever met IRL have been to be totally honest, not very bright and completely oblivious to the idea that these stories are hyped up for £££ by certain news outlets, the sort of people who think there's certain rules in life and not following these made up rules is WRONG!!!!!! And H&M are WRONG!!!!

Right, so... you have heard it discussed in real life?.

Rightly or wrongly, I don't actually know any unmarried parents IRL who gave DC their mother's surname

I don't know anybody IRL whose kids are at private school

I don't think I know anyone on a £100k salary but IRL no one I know discusses their salary.

The people I know who are anti UPF food don't 'bang on about it' they just politely decline it if offered and everyone moves on.

I thought of another one, and before reading it here I have never heard the term being used...

Autumnal

Autumnal clothing
Autumnal candles
etc. etc.

The only time I have come across travel trousers was on a group trip which included Americans. One of the woman there thought I had "fabulous travel pants".

They were a pair of elasticated harem trousers I'd bought for £5 on a market stall. Comfortable, weirdly warm and cool and no creases. I never really liked the way they looked, and didn't wear them much at home but they were indeed great for a hiking trip where I had to carry all my luggage.

LTB because he did something slightly irritating.

Definitely all the trans talk. I've known trans people all my life, they've all been perfectly pleasant people and I've just treated them as people, I've never really thought about their sex. I have a good friend with a child who changed gender as well - also fine. We're all quite used to calling them by their new name.

Also cleaning - I do not know any people who clean their houses as much as some MNers do. I haven't mopped my floor in a month. The world will not end.

Harry and Meghan - never talk about them to anyone. An american once asked me what I thought of them and I cheerfully said I never think about them. I am just not interested (like a lot of other people).

Surrogates - I have a casual friend who was unable to have children and whose daughter was born to a woman in England. The kid is now 10 and has always been aware that they have 2 mums and is perfectly well adjusted. It works well for them and who am I to judge??

That’s something I just say in my head most days when I talk to friends about their other halves.

“Accidentally misgendered” ie spoke the truth which your eyes and ears told you.

I agree with a pp who says MN is the space to discuss what we often can’t talk about in real life.

#nodebate being a prime example.

How awful men are. Absolutely some men are bad. But there are also a lot of lovely men.