What's the worst hospitality you've ever had?

[Arniesaxe]

Not a TAAT but I was on a thread recently where a lot of people were saying they wouldn't expect any snacks, if they'd visited a friend for the afternoon 90 mins drive away, and that just one cup of tea would be sufficient. Many disagreed, saying that if they were the host they'd have at least biscuits/cake or savoury snacks and plentiful drinks for their guests.

I have a very recent example where I travelled for around 40 minutes to visit a friend who was having a gathering and me and other guest I'd come with were not even offered a drink at all! It was fine, I was obviously driving and other guest I brought doesn't drink alcohol but even a glass of water would've been more considerate than nothing at all.

Also I once visited friends in order to go out for the day for food/drinks/trip around the town. Planned to stay over as longish drive and we'd likely have wine with dinner. When I got there, they'd changed their minds and decided to just stay in, watch TV and drink wine. I love wine, but sitting about at home drinking it in the middle of the afternoon is not my idea of fun and I wouldn't have visited them had I known that was their plan, not my thing at all. That was also about an hour and a half's drive. It really affected our friendship.

I am the opposite, anyone visiting even to drop something off or such will at least be offered a tea/coffee even if they're only coming in for five minutes. If I have guests I make sure I have what they want and I fulfil expectations with very little exception. If I am having a proper gathering I try to cover all eventualities, I'd rather have ample leftovers than anyone leave my house hungry/cold/sober thirsty!

I remember when my Mum had relatives visiting and I went over for the afternoon. They all decided to have fish and chips and someone went out to get them. I don't eat meat, so I went home and got some food for myself and made it to coincide with their fish and chips. Then once it was being served up, I walked through to the dining room with my food and there was my parents, auntie and uncle and adult children, sister and bro in law etc etc all just starting to eat. No place had been set for me and there was no room. I ate in the kitchen by myself until eventually the youngest member of my family (my young teen niece) came through and said 'Come and sit down Aunt Arnie, I'll sit on the floor for a bit'.

I didn't let her of course, but there's a poor show when the only person who realised that wasn't a great thing to do, to leave someone out completely, was the only child present!