Hen weekend …guests can’t wear white except bride ….bit silly ?

[luluxxx]

We are going to Spain next month for 4 nights for a hen do.
We have been sent a message in the WhatsApp group that no white allowed except bride.
At first I thought she meant no white outfits for the night outfits (which is totally fine ) but she’s said no white at all.
No white vests /trainers /bikinis/cover ups /linen trousers etc etc
Now most of my vests I wear under jackets are white and my trainers are white.
Shes specified no white at all
So I’m gonna have to rethink loads of outfits as a lot of skirts for day time match with a white vest.
My linen trousers for pool days are also white etc
Do you think this is a bit ott?
I mean trainers …I only own white trainers 🙈

She can’t a really do anything though can she if you do wear white!

Id tell her she other refunds you in full or pays for your entire new wardrobe of clothes and a different colour pair of trainers if she is insisting on the not even a trace of white ridiculous rule! The photos thing?!?! I’d have just laughed at her and said grow up bridezilla we aren’t doing that!

God. She sounds egotistical but I guess you have to go if you're a bridesmaid and you've paid for it.

I'd probably buy coloured laces for your white trainers to take the edge off the white. Only a few quid. I'd buy a few non white vests as they can be bought for a few quid in places like Asda.

However, I'd be having a gentle word that this sort of shit has the potential to ruin the holiday that people have paid a lot for.

Dear god! I'm dying on her behalf!

Is being asked a dress code stressful though?

Yes being asked to buy a whole new pair of trainers to avoid a glimpse of white in pics is unhinged and OTT. But saying "hey we're all wearing black" or whatever, most people would be happy to go along with that surely?

In my world they would be anyway. And if for some reason anyone was unable to, it would be understood.

Oh god that's so ridiculous

I'd be really pissed off

Right.

Would you go along with it?

What do you mean by 'Right.' honestly why bother replying!

What does "right" normally mean? I was taking your point - the dress code is, in your words "unhinged".

Just wear what you want. If she goes full on Bridezilla, she's no friend.

This is the sort of thing a bridesmaid or friend organises to surprise the bride not for the bride to do herself! What’s the point?

In would stay away from white clothes because that is pretty standard for a hen do. I wouldn’t give up my white trainers though. I love my white Nikes I wear them day on day out so I would be travelling in them for sure!

Can you not just wear whatever clothes you choose and tell her that you'll stay out of the photos/shorts/feature length videos?

With a bit of luck everyone will do the same and this ridiculous 'all for social media' nonsense will die out.

Kinda of a shame you have asked her about it, otherwise you could have just worn all white and say sorry you misread the email, thought she was asking people to wear white.

I wonder what she would think if you all cancelled 🤣
absolutely ridiculous request, especially after you’ve all paid for the trip.
what does everyone else think?
her poor fiancé is going to have fun with such a controlling wife.

Well I wasn't sure as 'right' can be said in different ways with different meanings. And because I've said all along that this specific hen is unhinged and you replied to me arguing with my point it's reasonable to assume you thought differently.

Now you have used more words, I understand.

Thank you.

Since when had avoiding white clothes been standard for a hen do?

It’s ridiculous and no way standard!

I've never heard of it.

"In would stay away from white clothes because that is pretty standard for a hen do."

Perhaps in Instaland. Meanwhile, back in the real world it's a made-up load of rubbish.

Telling someone they couldn't wear white shoes to a wedding would be ridiculous enough. White has nothing to do with hen parties.

I think it would be better if people were actually communicating face to face about this stuff because then these stupid ideas would be kicked into touch. Instead people end up divorced from reality thinking this is normal because they aren't getting any feedback from people's expressions or tone of voice when these demands are made.

Jesus Christ people are nuts

Three things with this post:-

1. we should have the laughing emoji back
2. this should've been the 1st post and then the MN classic words “1st post nails it” could’ve been replied.
3. it’s bloody spot on

It's not Kate Hayes hen do is it? (IYKYK)

If you like her and want to go on the hen do then I would respect the colour scheme as far as clothes go but trainers are expensive and I would wear whatever I have.