Hen weekend …guests can’t wear white except bride ….bit silly ?

[luluxxx]

We are going to Spain next month for 4 nights for a hen do.
We have been sent a message in the WhatsApp group that no white allowed except bride.
At first I thought she meant no white outfits for the night outfits (which is totally fine ) but she’s said no white at all.
No white vests /trainers /bikinis/cover ups /linen trousers etc etc
Now most of my vests I wear under jackets are white and my trainers are white.
Shes specified no white at all
So I’m gonna have to rethink loads of outfits as a lot of skirts for day time match with a white vest.
My linen trousers for pool days are also white etc
Do you think this is a bit ott?
I mean trainers …I only own white trainers 🙈

I give it 18 months.

Omg she's a bridezilla then ffs id be wearing white vests linen trousers and trainers,bridesmaid or not and would be telling her this,youre in a hot country ffs,the crazy bitches need help or taking down a peg or 2 or 3 or 4 fgs ..go enjoy yourself

What utter stupidity. That's ridiculous and I'd want very badly to ignore completely or just not go, but as you've already paid and want to go, I guess I'd try to avoid wearing white, but if it's all I had, then too bad for them. I'd just tell them exactly that and have a staring competition to see who breaks first.

This kind of thing makes me hate (some) people. Do they have nothing better to focus on in their spoilt little lives?

I’d tell her that you have no other shoes and you’ll wear another colour if she buys you new clothes.

Have you spoken to others going? Safety in numbers. She might sulk but that’s her choice for being silly.

It's extraordinary, isn't it? It speaks of a bewildering level of privilege and entitlement.
It's all for the SM as well, and particularly her TikToks.

Exactly what I was thinking! It’s so narcissistic. I bet she acts all gushing and surprised in her TikToks though

Kinda makes me wonder if the poor groom really knows what he is signing up for... a whole lifetime of this drama..
But you dont have to answer to this madness.. wear your white trainers and anything else you want to wear.
The whole ' hen weekend ' is just a farce anyway.. attention seeking nonsense.

Utterly ridiculous - why are you friends with someone like this? Tell her you'll invoice her for your new trainers and vests or she can stop dictating what her nearest and dearest can wear.

If you survive this, please report back with all the drama 🍿

More fool you, I’d be saying as I didn’t know these “rules” before agreeing, I won’t be coming.

Im not on top of the already high costs, buying new clothing.

Stop pandering to this nonsense!

I'd be tempted to get the hens to scour charity shops and each buy a wedding dress for the evenings 😁

Has payment by all the hens included paying for the bride-to-be as well?

OP, PLEASE come back and tell us what demands she makes of the wedding guests!

That would be brilliant! 😂

If you go along with this, you're as crazy as she is.

Ffs, whatever happened to things being about the experience rather than the photos?

Having the temerity to try and police what clothing your friends wear so that you can look better and stand out is top tier narcissism. It’s scary how normalised this kind of behaviour has now become.

Indeed! This is bridezilla behaviour on another level, isn't it?

Definitely OTT. I mean just why?

I have to say, whilst I originally did comment saying this particular request is batshit- I do think these hen do posts bring out some of the vipers on MN who think anyone wanting to do anything to celebrate themselves means they're 'cringe' and 'self centred'.

Of course you're going to be the main character of your own wedding, its your wedding!

Personally I'm happy to celebrate my friend's choices and if that means going along with a theme or a request for a childhood photo then so be it. Asking people to buy new trainers so as not have a glimpse of white in photos is too far, but it feels like a lot of people on MN are quite grumpy about the idea of being asked to do ANYTHING to celebrate a loved one.

@sweetpickle2
No.
It's about excessive demands. It's supposed to be a laugh, not a test.

I actually find it hard to believe there are people alive who go along with this s**t.

I've been to many hen dos where there has been a theme to follow, they've all been a laugh and not one has felt like a test.

Right.
Let me try again.
It should be a laugh, not stressful because you can't match a random dress code.

I've seen hen dos many times out and about and have never had any trouble picking out the bride-to-be - she's the one wearing one or more of: a sash, an L plate, a veil, an inflatable knob.

One word springs to mind and that is pathetic.
I can imagine the photos and videos for this and then the wedding, the baby shower etc etc.
I couldn’t be arsed with any of this and would not participate no matter who it is for.