Hen weekend …guests can’t wear white except bride ….bit silly ?

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We are going to Spain next month for 4 nights for a hen do.
We have been sent a message in the WhatsApp group that no white allowed except bride.
At first I thought she meant no white outfits for the night outfits (which is totally fine ) but she’s said no white at all.
No white vests /trainers /bikinis/cover ups /linen trousers etc etc
Now most of my vests I wear under jackets are white and my trainers are white.
Shes specified no white at all
So I’m gonna have to rethink loads of outfits as a lot of skirts for day time match with a white vest.
My linen trousers for pool days are also white etc
Do you think this is a bit ott?
I mean trainers …I only own white trainers 🙈

The irony of all this "the bride must stand out" and no white for anyone else is
a) white wasn't a wedding colour till 1840 and Queen Victoria's wedding ...the whole virginity indicator is made up and spurious ...Def not ancient
B) more pertinently, in antiquity brides attendants wore similar clothes/colours to the bride to "distract evil spirits" ie acting like lightning conductors to ward off evil influence from the bride herself. The exact opposite of main character energy.

So getting on for 200 years then ....

Overdue for a change.

I think you missed the part about it only being for weddings.

That's what I would do, although I don't own any white trainers.

don't think you're getting my point!

I'm not bothered about change..history is full.of change.
My point is if you're going to push "tradition" (IE white for bride) so hard as to basically break it, knowing where and when it stems from might be helpful background and a counterpoint to the reach this has become. In other words...break the rules sure but know which ones you're breaking and why

I wouldn’t be buying new trainers. Sod that.

I couldn't tell you a specific date that it began, sorry. But I'm 34 and has been a thing since I've been going to hens, if that helps 😊

Unless you're whole wardrobe is white, then i can't see why you'd need to buy new clothes

I wonder if these bridezillas look back and cringe at themselves, a few years after the wedding.

Or after the divorce, because in my experience people so focused on the “wedding” and not the marriage tend to have short unsuccessful relationships.

It’s standard tradition for a hen do. Have you been on one before?

Yes, I've been on a handful of hen dos/weekends. Approx. 25 years ago. Nobody dictated what the other guests wore.

Yes, do this. I'd humour the bride on a night out (reluctantly - her hen night is not her wedding) but not all day, every day, for an entire holiday.

As if someone walking along the beach at 11am is going to see you in a group of women wearing white trainers and think 'Oooh, that must be a hen party and she's the hen' and give you a round of applause.

The bride sounds staggeringly thick.

I think most people on this thread have been to at least one hen do, often many years ago, when the focus was on making the bride feel special while having fun and laughs. The bride might get a sash or daft tiara. I can guarantee it is NOT tradition to dictate your hens wear no white.

Ok so ‘standard’ for what….at most 15 years?
No I don’t have a huge wardrobe of clothes for very warm weather; not nice holiday wear.

To the extent of not being allowed to wear white trainers or a white vest top? Really?

You need less self absorbed better friends.

I have been to loads of hen dos and no-one has dictated a dress code.

Are you terribly young?

It’s a standard tradition to police the attire of the whole party over several days, @Keepgettingolder81?

I could understand if the bride wanted to be the only one wearing white on a special night out, but to insist on not a shred of white, even trainers, over the course of several days abroad is utterly self-obsessed by the bride.

If it began when I was 19 then yes 15 years... but I'd imagine it was well before then (I didn't create the idea 🤣🤣)