I dont have to be a grand-nanny.

[WaryBlueFish]

I dont feel obligated to provide full time childcare to grandchildren and here is why. I am a 110% mother. I devoted my life to my kids. I worked full time but still managed to run a clean, happy organized home with family dinners every night despite the multitude of activities my kids were in. I did it all and I completely lost myself in the process. I have zero regrets, but that doesnt mean I am now willing to sign the rest of my life over to the next generation. I am happy to be the back up, to show up for their sports and events, to cover emergencies like snow days and holidays. I may even consider being "summer camp". But no, I am not doing a FT care job. I did my time. I am tired. I deserve to look forward to an actual retirement in 7 years.

Is this another thread about disinterested grandmas'?

… is anyone asking?!

You don't have to justify anything. Who are you justifying it to?
Sounds like a happy medium to me.

Fair enough. There are quite a few of these threads at the moment.

Well done for repeating the same thread that’s been repeated multiple times over the last few weeks on here. You could have just read or joined in with the other's but whatever

Aren’t you supposed to tell your dc this?

Have you been asked?

Congrats? Is anyone actually asking you to be?

Well don't, no one can force you.

Can we have a separate board for grandmothers who don’t want to look after their grandchildren? So many threads over the last week

This isn’t a thread about disinterested DGM’s.

I want parking threads without diagrams and tales of CFery!

Yes there have been several of them. Same OP I suspect.

OK? So don’t 😂

You can choose to give as much or as little support as you like, as can your DCs.

Thank you for this vital PSA op <solemn face>

Has one of your adult dcs asked you to do FT care for their dcs?

was on the other thread, yes being the back up is great, so many are not even the back up! Good job.

Why are there so many of these threads just lately? Anyway, isn’t this how it should be? Grandparents have already done their bit bringing up their own kids, it’s not on them to be full time childcare 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why are there so many of these threads?

How many people actually ask their parents to provide full time childcare? I don’t know of any - I certainly know other mums whose family give more help in that respect than others, but don’t know any that have - or would ever expect - full time childcare from family members.

Fuck me. The 8th post on this in a week.

exactly we dont need full time, we just need extra support. We need interested grand parents and we need to know they have our back and care. We do the rest full time. Its a FAMILY lol

It’s like one of those open letters, which are always annoying.

😭Is this some kind of sick social experiment? Please make it stop! 😫

What is going on? Why are there several threads a day on this? 🤔