What is an experience you never want to experience again in your lifetime?

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The most stressful time in my life started about 7 years ago and went on for 2 years and my mental health took an absolute battering and im still not over it. And now im super paranoid about it happening again.

I had bedbugs and a rat problem under the bath at the same time and pest control were useless.
i had a toddler at the time and their was 7 of us and I was advise to put everything we owned (twice) in the garden while they tried to get the bedbugs under control. I had to wash every soft furnishing and beds, draws, wardrobes had to be emptied and placed outside in bags in the sun. Only thing that was allowed in the house was furniture. I had postnatal depression at the time and I just remember sitting in the garden with everything we owned (twice). With the rats they were running around under the bath and were huge. My bathroom is downstairs and they’d chewed from the outside in, the smell was not normal and the noise all day from them scurrying around 🤮
It finally got resolved after 2 years but at that point I was shot to bits. I don’t think people realise how traumatic it is the live with a bedbugs. I’m so paranoid about getting them again I try and stay away from public transport and hotels or I will research the shit out of them before booking and even then I’m hyper vigilant and can’t sleep.

What is something you never want to go though again?

Child birth and pregnancy

An injection into the bone of my elbow. Never known pain like it (after the numbing injection wore off). Lasted three days.

The time my son was in ICU as a child and they couldn't stop his seizures. He was having 100s a day. They pumped him full of GA and that still didn't work. There was a young anaesthetist sitting at his head (because kiddo had so many drugs in him) who just got up and left. I went looking and the guy was in the laundry room sobbing his heart out. He said there wasn't anything more he could do. I asked him what this was about. He said his dad had recently died from cancer and there wasn't anything more he could do there either and he was a bloody doctor forgodsake so what was even the point. I grabbed hold of him and we held on to each other really tightly. I told him it would be fine. He came back into ICU and didn't leave my son's side for days. It worked out in the end. Kiddo came round. I'll never forget that doctor.

Marrying a narcissist

Ectopic pregnancy which ruptured

Coming home from parent/teacher meeting to find my DH dead from a sudden heart attack. He wasn’t supposed to be home that day so I had hired a babysitter to look after our young kids and they were upstairs in the bath with her minding them. Telling the kids the next day was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and our lives changed forever.

Pregnancy. I've got DS, and that's enough for me. I've been pregnant twice, the first time ended in an early miscarriage and I never want to go through that again. I still sometimes feel sad about that even now.

Marriage/relationships. All my relationships have been a disappointment and I've had enough. I'm happily single.

These stories are so heartbreaking ❤️ I'm sorry you've all been through so much.

For me, it would be when I suffered obstetric violence during my second childbirth and my baby nearly died (but thankfully was fine) it was so traumatic (stressful & the extreme pain) I felt like a different person afterwards.

Seeing my mum slowly die over 10 years due to dementia and Parkinsons.
Seeing my dad dedicate himself to her as a full time carer, and become a shell of a person.

Missed miscarriage.
Secondary infertility.
Emergency c section with the anaesthetic wearing off.

Witnessing DD experiencing anaphylaxis, with colour just draining from her body.

Holding baby DS who was extremely unwell with RSV, struggling to breathe and not responding, and being told the ambulance was delayed.

Never again.

Sexual abuse from an older sibling.
My mum not protecting us even though she knew it was happening.
Learning difficulties/special needs school.
Mother leaving.
Mini over doses as a teenager
Avoiding food.
Eviction of family home as a child Linked to my mother leaving.
My abuser apologising for that he dome.
That triggered a break down. I left without telling anyone. I put myself into a young person's hostel. I didn't eat for 28 days. I eventually agreed staff could contact my sister i stated with her for a couple of month's I put my dad through hell he had mo idea where I had gone why I left or anything. I out him through hell. He did nothing wrong he was an awesome dad. I eventually told him about the SA.

Looking after my dad when he had cancer and dying.

2 Evictions of my own under section 21. Although that was one of the lower stresses.

Dds domestic violence situation.. hearing dd scream down the phone with fear and the phone go dead. heavy socal services involvement. PLO .
Dd had to leave her home and say wity me. The knock on effect. My teenagers were given a photo of dd ex . With a not on it that said something like. This man has hurt my sister he is following me and may ne a danger. Please could you call the police. They were meant to show shop staff etc if he ever tried to approach them.
He did go to prison. But was let out. He managed to find out where dd was living. Made threats etc. She had to leave that flat and stay with me again. Dd couldn't leave the house. Social services paid for cabs for school runs . And other things . Because it wasn't sage to go out.. there stresses camerons and a special alarm put on the house also a type of alarm that uou press and police cone out quickly there was a police marker on the house. Dds house hold and my own house hold had to be rehoused under life in danger..

Ds violence towards me which I spoke about earlier.

Im not friends with food recently.

I was meant to write bullet points bullet points 🙄

My childhood and then in my 30s the mental break down & flashbacks. Flashbacks aren't vivid memories, you're actually back there & it's happening again or just about to. Losing my job because of the breakdown.

Oh god that's awful. I'm so sorry DinoLil.
How old was he when he disappeared?

I can imagine that it has been 6 years of total heartbreak. 💐💐💐

Pregnancy and childbirth. Wouldn't trade my little but truly worst experience of my life. One and done.

This is one of my worst nightmares !
How did you get out ?

Childbirth
Having a camera down my throat and into my stomach
The army knocking on the door to tell me my son had been very seriously injured in Afghanistan

Being a woman and a mother.

I'd give anything to be a man.

Me too. It was an odd time but I rather enjoyed a lot of elements of lockdown.

My grandma telling me, aged 13 that my dad wasn’t my dad just before falling asleep.

Being falsely set up & arrested for stealing. I’m the most honest person you could ever meet. The anger from this still hurts. I asked for an apology from the police and got one.

Finding out my dear, old university friend had been sectioned in peri-menopause. She stopped WhatsApping me from hospital then killed herself. I found out by Googling her name. Missed her funeral as wasn’t in-touch with her family. She had e-mailed her GP for HRT while in hospital but it never got to her.

Chorionic villus sampling / being stabbed in the belly with a very long needle whilst pregnant. No thank you.

For some of us it was good. We did lose a family member from covid, and one of my kids had some depression, I lost half my income and DP was working in a&e. So it should have been shit. But actually day to day I loved it.

How is she?x

Edited as posted twice.

2020

Sepsis.
I developed it six times in five years as a complication of chronic illness and it’s the most horrendous experience I’ve ever had, and that’s just what I remember. The first time I went from feeling mildly under the weather to fighting for my life within 24 hours. I have a vague recollection of begging DH to to tell the children that I love them because I was dying.