What is an experience you never want to experience again in your lifetime?

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The most stressful time in my life started about 7 years ago and went on for 2 years and my mental health took an absolute battering and im still not over it. And now im super paranoid about it happening again.

I had bedbugs and a rat problem under the bath at the same time and pest control were useless.
i had a toddler at the time and their was 7 of us and I was advise to put everything we owned (twice) in the garden while they tried to get the bedbugs under control. I had to wash every soft furnishing and beds, draws, wardrobes had to be emptied and placed outside in bags in the sun. Only thing that was allowed in the house was furniture. I had postnatal depression at the time and I just remember sitting in the garden with everything we owned (twice). With the rats they were running around under the bath and were huge. My bathroom is downstairs and they’d chewed from the outside in, the smell was not normal and the noise all day from them scurrying around 🤮
It finally got resolved after 2 years but at that point I was shot to bits. I don’t think people realise how traumatic it is the live with a bedbugs. I’m so paranoid about getting them again I try and stay away from public transport and hotels or I will research the shit out of them before booking and even then I’m hyper vigilant and can’t sleep.

What is something you never want to go though again?

Receiving a phone call from my elderly mother telling me she had found my younger brother dead on his bedroom floor. Simply horrendous for her and not something I would wish anybody to experience ever.

I nearly choked to death on a cadburys mini egg when i was 12. This was early 90s and very few people had been trained in what to do. The sweet got completely lodged, couldnt breathe and i just thought, I am dying. This was in a shop and a customer had just entered who had just been trained in the heimnech manouver and he saved my life! If he hadnt, I would have died. I literally cannot look at those eggs without it bringing back the memories.

Childbirth, I nearly died, massive haemorrhage. My ds is here now, that waxc16 years ago.
Some of these stories are horrific.

About six years ago someone accused me of doing something horrific. It got spread around and before long my neighbours stopped talking to me, half my family sided with the accuser so I lost them and I also lost half my friends. People would stop and stare at me in the street, ignore me if I spoke to them or do that dramatic thing where they pretend they haven't seen you even though they were looking right at you!

I started getting messages on social media from complete strangers telling me I was going to get what was coming to me, that I was an evil bitch, that I needed to watch my back, Almost daily threats for months. Had to either leave or set all my social media to private/friends only etc, I generally don't accept followers on things like X/instagram, I barely have any followers at all on anything but that is how I want it to be. I had my name and address posted online, my number was also posted as well as my email address. I had to change literally everything and start again.

I moved 600 miles away in the end as I couldn't take it anymore.

I almost had my life ruined overnight based on nothing but a rumour. The worst part of it all was I had literal proof I didn't do it and people still chose to believe I did it, I found once it all kicked off it didn't matter if I was guilty or innocent as people had already made up their minds.

This experience has made me look at everything in my life differently, and also taught me not to believe rumours about other people so easily.

Being robbed at a knife point by a drug addict
Seeing car blow up (car bomb) about 50m away from me
Finding out my husband of 13 years (who I thought was my soulmate) having sex with a wife of his mate and several other women
My kid being very ill
Getting cancer diagnosis out of the blue

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Lockdown
Ds attempting suicide
C-section

Debt.

A huge fucking amount of debt.

Being trafficked, institutionalised, and abused as a child.
My ex-partner's behaviour and how seemingly inescapable the situation was.
Loads of other things which I hope are now kept safely in the past.

Dear me! I promise I'm fun at parties...

DH dying at 39, I was 35.
My dear dad being seriously ill in ICU and dying less than a week later last year
3 miscarriages

So many of you have gone through such terrible experiences. I'm so sorry.
I've had a few horrible times (bereavement - which all of us will go through - it's terrible for everyone.) Backache labour was agonising. Having a colonoscopy was worse. I wasn't given enough pain relief, but given too much sedation. It was beyond painful, but I couldn't even scream. I remember the consultant saying to top up the midaxolam (?). I woke up sobbing during the next few nights, reliving it all. If I ever need another one, it will have to be under a GA.

After reading some of these, it makes me realise how ridiculous I can be sometimes! Sending love to everyone who has been through an awful time 🩷

OMG nearly wet myself 😆😆😆😆

Childhood. No matter what happens to me as an adult I feel like I have some control, some choice. The utter hopelessness of a childhood at the mercy of certain adults who had no business having children forces me to appreciate every day now. Things can get hard but I never feel so utterly trapped and bleak as I did then.

The day our daughter died - waiting for my husband to come home to tell him she had died. He was travelling over the moor in bad weather and I didn’t want to ring him and tell him the news. So I waited 45 minutes at home, after the police had left, just dreading his arrival as it made it all so real. Of all the horror of her death, those 45 minutes waiting for him was about the worst.

Suffering a huge pulmonary embolism and deep vein thrombosis at 18 years old. I vividly remember lying in my hospital bed hearing the laughter of others outside going to nightclubs and I was in complete agony, wired up and surrounded by very elderly patients.

Getting a phone call telling me my good friend has passed away suddenly from a heart attack.

Watching my teenage son dying of cancer, nothing in my life will ever compare

Omg so sorry. May i ask what happened?

Childbirth

Omg so sorry. May i ask what happened?

A community GP wrongly diagnosed my son with muscular dystrophy (he’s fine, just a benign motor delay) and hands down it was the worst experience of my life so far.

Family court and watching my DC spend time with a Man I knew to be dangerous but had no evidence until he committed a violent crime 18 months later.

SA as a child and narc parents. Narc siblings too. It was a little bit like growing up as a Duggar but with fewer kids. Obsessed with how things looked, misogyny, narcissism and abuser siblings.

Never, ever again to any of them.

Exactly. I know someone who was able to escape her abusive partner with her two young kids when lockdown was announced. There was a limited window of time for her and she quite rightly took it.

It’s not as black and white as saying anyone who found lockdown a positive thing in their life is heartless and lacks empathy for those who suffered. Both things can be true.

Being told my friend had died by suicide aged 18 when I was also 18.

4th degree tear during labour & delivery.

Watching two people i loved very much dying 💔