What is an experience you never want to experience again in your lifetime?

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The most stressful time in my life started about 7 years ago and went on for 2 years and my mental health took an absolute battering and im still not over it. And now im super paranoid about it happening again.

I had bedbugs and a rat problem under the bath at the same time and pest control were useless.
i had a toddler at the time and their was 7 of us and I was advise to put everything we owned (twice) in the garden while they tried to get the bedbugs under control. I had to wash every soft furnishing and beds, draws, wardrobes had to be emptied and placed outside in bags in the sun. Only thing that was allowed in the house was furniture. I had postnatal depression at the time and I just remember sitting in the garden with everything we owned (twice). With the rats they were running around under the bath and were huge. My bathroom is downstairs and they’d chewed from the outside in, the smell was not normal and the noise all day from them scurrying around 🤮
It finally got resolved after 2 years but at that point I was shot to bits. I don’t think people realise how traumatic it is the live with a bedbugs. I’m so paranoid about getting them again I try and stay away from public transport and hotels or I will research the shit out of them before booking and even then I’m hyper vigilant and can’t sleep.

What is something you never want to go though again?

Me too

Poverty. I grew up in poverty and experienced it in early adult hood. Doing ok now (national average) and can't believe the life choices having money brings. I'm terrified of going back.

When the doctors told me my son had a viral infection then 48 hours later rushing him to hospital and going through not even 12 hours of hell for him to die of streptococcal toxic shock. Worst day of my life and a severe anxiety of any illness with my other children moving forward 🩵

2 adults with bad tummy bugs trying to fly home with a healthy energetic toddler.

I’m sorry for PP’s terrible experiences and losses.

Mine is : Fitness to Practise investigation from my professional body. The case was later dropped with no disciplinary action and no warnings.

The worst thing was having to go to work during the investigation with the ensuing loss of confidence and Impostor Syndrome that it triggered. I learned a lot about myself from it but if it were to happen again I would probably look at my early retirement options ( I am that age) or take an extended leave from work.

I knew this would be on here 😂.

I quite like it tbh.

I’m so sorry.
I can’t imagine, especially the still birth.
ive always hated how they make women go through a natural labour knowing their baby has died.
even more traumatic xx

Setting the doctors choice towards me with a sad face, pull out the tissues and tell me that my toddler had a huge brain tumour and needed immediate blue lighting to a major hospital for emergency surgery, and at that stage we didn't know whether she'd survive that, whether the tumour would kill her or whether and to what extent she'd be disabled by it all. A few years later we are tentatively out the other side of it with a child that has her challenges but is doing amazingly well. But life just stopped and it was like there was a before and an after in our lives.

Anal sex defo.

Gastroscopy. I will likely have to have more of those but would definitely rather not.

Also, having both parents ill with cancer at the same time and dying within ten weeks of each other. Very glad there’s no way that can happen again!

My youngest DS disappearing. Been 6yrs now.

Weirdly, OP, I read your title and thought of my experience which, when I read yours seems not hugely different.
The most stressful time in my life was when we had a moth infestation and the advice to get rid of the moths included washing and drying everything but the only way of drying everything was to put it outside, but that was where the mothy fuckers were (we are surrounded by trees. We’d not long moved in and had unwittingly been enjoying windows wide open etc)

At the same time, my mum was unexpectedly extremely ill in hospital so I was visiting her as much as possible. We were supposed to be going on family holiday so I sent DH and 2 DCs off camping, leaving the 6 month old puppy behind, whilst I dealt with moths, mum and never being out of the house for more than three hours at a time and walking the dog twice a day.

Horrific. Ultimately my mum died, which was awful in its own way but that ten days of dealing with everything on my own is the most stressful time of my life.

God @DinoLil- how awful. I can’t imagine just how awful that is to experience. I’m so sorry you’re in that situation and I hope you get some answers one day. 💐

A birth like my first followed by paragliding.

Same as OP mental health related. Psychosis, section & PICU. Dreadful unit full of abuse.

Not sure id want to experience any kind of hospital again but that's got to be the worst.

So sorry for your loss.

Oh God how awful
May I ask the age of your child?

Getting CRPS following an ankle operation, I’ve never known pain like it. Would rather have another recurrence of breast cancer than suffer than pain again.

The death of someone I love. Sadly, at my age, it’s going to become more frequent, unless I go first.

DH threatening suicide repeatedly.

Scabies.

Toxic workplace.

Hi, would you mind saying which airline?
im due to fly this year, and your post had made me nervous 🤦‍♀️

Third. Once was enough.

Non consensual sex

OMG did you actually type this!!
so much pain and trauma came from Lockdown.

It’s a toss up between the loss of all my close family in the space of a year, the time I had 3 miscarriages within 8 months and personal life threatening illness, probably.

I’m 53 now, so will never experience this again thankfully - hearing my younger brother being beaten with a belt by my father when we were children.

The reason for the beating was that my mother had found religious magazines in my brother’s school bag that he had been supposed to deliver to neighbours of ours (our primary school used to get pupils to deliver these magazines to neighbours that didn’t have any children of school going age). He hadn’t delivered them because our neighbours had several large and aggressive dogs, and he had been bitten by a large dog a couple of years before while out cycling and was understandably afraid of big dogs.

I will never forget how helpless I felt listening to him plead and cry.