What is an experience you never want to experience again in your lifetime?

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The most stressful time in my life started about 7 years ago and went on for 2 years and my mental health took an absolute battering and im still not over it. And now im super paranoid about it happening again.

I had bedbugs and a rat problem under the bath at the same time and pest control were useless.
i had a toddler at the time and their was 7 of us and I was advise to put everything we owned (twice) in the garden while they tried to get the bedbugs under control. I had to wash every soft furnishing and beds, draws, wardrobes had to be emptied and placed outside in bags in the sun. Only thing that was allowed in the house was furniture. I had postnatal depression at the time and I just remember sitting in the garden with everything we owned (twice). With the rats they were running around under the bath and were huge. My bathroom is downstairs and they’d chewed from the outside in, the smell was not normal and the noise all day from them scurrying around 🤮
It finally got resolved after 2 years but at that point I was shot to bits. I don’t think people realise how traumatic it is the live with a bedbugs. I’m so paranoid about getting them again I try and stay away from public transport and hotels or I will research the shit out of them before booking and even then I’m hyper vigilant and can’t sleep.

What is something you never want to go though again?

With you.

My baby having a seizure

But I’ll be gone…. Sorry I don’t see how that would help? Open adoption is so that the birth mother can still see the child

Hi. I've had two abortions and it took me many many years to get over them but I did get over them eventually. I still think I made the wrong choice but I think I have mostly learnt to live with that. Just wanted to let you know that even if it seems impossible there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Op I was going to say bed bugs as well before I read your op. I'm still terrified of getting them again. So many heart breaking experiences on this thread. Strength and hugs to everyone.

Miscarriage
The pain of having a coil fitted- for me genuinely more painful than childbirth without drugs. Never again.
Sexual assault
On a lighter note, I’ll never do another parachute jump. Absolutely bloody terrifying.

I really don’t get this one!!

All in the space of 18 months

1. my dad having a stroke and watching him slowly and brutally turn into a vessel and shell of a human
2. Dealing with my half sisters blaming my mother for his stroke (batshit) and shouting at her (80 yrs old) when she was grieving her husband. Cunts!
3. The business I have spent 10 years building and put all my savings in collapsed and I was left with life changing debt. It never recovered after Covid.
4. My supposed best friend and business co founder being the reason for the final business collapse due to sabotage and trying to take it from under my nose.
5. My husband deciding that this was the time to treat me like a cunt because I obviously wasn’t paying him enough attention due to part 1 & 2 & 3 sending me into mental turmoil. He decided it would be a great idea to write a list of all my failings as a wife and mother. Oh and then took our kids away for a week without informing me.

However I am through to the the side and life hasn’t looked better. Shedding cunts from your life and going through hard times really makes the good times oh so sweet!

It's because a lot of people after a still birth want to try for another baby. A C-section delays that plus adds complications for future births. I had a still birth but also a c section as they tried to save my daughter. I then had to wait 3 months minimum before we could try to get pregnant again. It made the next C-section more difficult because of all the scar tissue. X

My 6 year old telling me about SA

I guess it’s so you could see her settled but still get to see her?

Sepsis terrible pain and feeling I was dying
Hysterscopy have had this 3/4 times without any pain relief and it’s absolutely horrific

This. Utterly hideous. I had it twice before the gallbladder that was spawning roaming gallstones was removed.

Husband's suicide. Having to tell my step-son.
Working hard for nearly 40 years, only to have everything overturned by an insurance company (has cost me all my 250k savings so far) but this will go to the Ombudsman.
Being treated as an adult by my parents from birth - children are children and actually need to be taught/learn certain things. As a result everyone thought I was a fully-rounded person, but the total opposite is true.

My partner being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer & enduring treatment for two years most of which made him very unwell and aimed to prolong life not cure him. Then the last few months when treatment was stopped and watching his decline and death. I was only 36 when he died and though it was 15 years ago thinking about the last couple of weeks is still so painful. He went through so much and was so desperate for more time.

Pregnancy and the first year of a newborn and the depression

My daughter caught sepsis at 19 after a c-section 2 years ago. She lives 2.5 hours away and i went up just before she had the baby to help thinking I’d be there a week until she was able to cope. 4 days after giving birth she felt unwell and within a couple of hours she was screaming. Ambulance couldn’t get there for 5 hours so I took her myself and she screamed all the way there. Nurses were in the lobby and they got her in a wheelchair and I’ll never forget the terrified look on my daughters face as she was screaming that she was dying and to tell her baby that she loved her. At the time I didn’t know what it was and to stop being silly but I could see from the nurses face how serious it was when they ran off with her. I ended up being there for a month until she was better and home and I knew she was going to be ok. It’s such a scary thing.

I’ve genuinely cried at some of these comments. What some of you have gone through is heartbreaking 💔

Someone jumping in front of the train I was driving.

Having a hysteroscopy. It was like medieval torture.

Stevens Johnson Syndrome after an allergic reaction to medication I shouldn't have been put on. The worst pain of my life (up there with x2 'back to back' child births) and learning my parents and husband had been told I had a 50/50 chance of surviving.

Missed miscarriage, I've never been so sad in my life.

Being betrayed by friends and colleagues and having my reputation smeared publicly for years and years. It’s still ongoing

Endoscopy
Seeing a cat killed by a car
My dad's constant bullying when I was a child

The whole period of time from the end of 2022 up until the end of 2024.

DP and I were accused of NAI (non accidental injury) - child abuse - following our child having an accident. Child was removed from our care and put into foster care, we were arrested, I fell pregnant mid court proceedings and had that child ripped away from me in hospital after birth. Literally laboured our child and had barely half an hour (supervised) before baby was taken away from me.

Almost a year and a half of fighting to prove that our child WAS hurt in an accident as we had maintained from day one, and that we weren't abusers. Medical experts brought in - hired by the Social Services - who backed us and did not agree with it being NAI. We were completely exonerated in court and both children returned home almost immediately.

I had a brain tumour too. Had the surgery to remove the tumour approx 6 weeks after the children came home.

Two days after returning home from the surgery I found out I was pregnant. I had been pregnant when I had the brain surgery but had no idea.

It went the way you can imagine.....baba could not have survived all the anaesthetic/morphine etc.

Got made redundant from my job of 7 years a few months later.

Tried for our rainbow baby. Fell pregnant around Christmas time. The best Christmas present.

Another miscarriage a few weeks later.

I cannot - in any way - accurately convey how traumatising those few years were. From start to finish.

I can barely even think about it all.

Sorry for trauma dumping

It was not as awful as it sounds... but it was at the time.
I was a young teen, and our local police force used to run activities for kids in the summer holidays. One of them was caving, so my mum signed me up.
We went into the centre of the earth (well, it felt like it), and at one point, we had to lie down on our stomachs and shimmy through a tiny gap to get into the next bit.
I was the last person to go through, and the battery pack (which was on a belt) got caught and I could not get through. I panicked like hell and got into an almighty state. At the time, I was convinced I was going to be left to die and rot there. The instructor, and everyone else bloody laughed at me when I eventually got free. Not one fucker tried to help either. Just watched me struggling to get through a hole. I can empathise with babies who have a difficult birth... it was like that 😆
I will never do it again. And of course, I have since read about the chap who got stuck upside down and died (Nutty Putty caves) and had to be left there because his body was too stuck, and I think anyone who goes spelunking must have a death wish.

I also worked in the health service during the pandemic, as a clinician and later, as a vaccinator. I had a lot of positive experiences, and my home was calm. Peoples' experience is their own, and I understand that some benefits came from the enforced isolation. I'm sure no disrespect was intended.

Witnessing my mum having 2 nervous breakdowns in my very early teens - both times she tried to kill me. (I managed to overpower her as she was so weak and skinny from her illness), I always knew it wasn’t my mum doing those things, it was her illness.

Missed miscarriage at what I thought was 16 weeks - scan showed foetus had died at 9/10 weeks. I still grieve for that baby nearly 39 years later.

My husband of 20 years (teenage sweethearts) having an affair but denying it telling me I was paranoid and stupid, we had children aged 9 & 8 - I took him back but I then ended the marriage 2 years later.

My mum dying 11 years ago, just 3 months before my first grandchild was born (she is 11 today and is named after my mum). I miss my mum every day.

Our house being flooded due to storm damage, was out of our home for 8 months.

My second husband dying suddenly in hospital 8 months ago, 3 weeks before our 19th wedding anniversary, totally unexpected, I’d been told less than 12 hours before that he was ‘heading in the right direction’. I don’t think I’ll ever get that awful phone call out of my brain.

I’m thankful though for the loving and supportive family I do have, in my case it’s really true…..what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, and I’m grateful for all the good times.