What is an experience you never want to experience again in your lifetime?

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The most stressful time in my life started about 7 years ago and went on for 2 years and my mental health took an absolute battering and im still not over it. And now im super paranoid about it happening again.

I had bedbugs and a rat problem under the bath at the same time and pest control were useless.
i had a toddler at the time and their was 7 of us and I was advise to put everything we owned (twice) in the garden while they tried to get the bedbugs under control. I had to wash every soft furnishing and beds, draws, wardrobes had to be emptied and placed outside in bags in the sun. Only thing that was allowed in the house was furniture. I had postnatal depression at the time and I just remember sitting in the garden with everything we owned (twice). With the rats they were running around under the bath and were huge. My bathroom is downstairs and they’d chewed from the outside in, the smell was not normal and the noise all day from them scurrying around 🤮
It finally got resolved after 2 years but at that point I was shot to bits. I don’t think people realise how traumatic it is the live with a bedbugs. I’m so paranoid about getting them again I try and stay away from public transport and hotels or I will research the shit out of them before booking and even then I’m hyper vigilant and can’t sleep.

What is something you never want to go though again?

Having open heart surgery.

Being so unwell with a bacterial infection in my heart that I had to have open heart surgery.

This is so awful to read and I really hope your brother is doing ok and feels your love.

Getting stuck in an underground cave.

Something in between the death of my Dad from a series of heart attacks and strokes at a relatively young age, watching my brother die of covid and now watching my mum disintegrate with dementia.
But hey ho.

four very long surgeries in my late thirties for scoliosis. First involved the ribs being cut. Pain relief was inadequate and caused hallucinations. Luckily now there is nothing left to fuse as fully rigid with rods and bone graft. So know nothing further can or will be done.Now in late sixties and don’t think I could survive it now. Had to have repeat ops as rods snapped before the bone graft had grown to fuse the spine. Ended up in a full plastic body brace for a few years.
Had two young dc at the time

There are some really bad things I would not like to re- experience; but I will keep it lighthearted and say firstly I will never go horse riding again after an awful experience riding in Mallorca!
2 of my cousins are addicted to riding & I just don’t get it. Horses are moody & unpredictable- like cats but huge. They can cause death & destruction! Just no!

Sorry to hear about your parents.

I was supposed to have a gastroscopy at the end of last year, but went into a complete meltdown at the last minute, so didn't have it done. Have you requested for any future ones to be done by general anaesthetic?

Not to turn this into a lockdown debate, but the tone of the thread is pretty obvious.

Someone saying they wouldn't want to repeat lockdown on a thread about experiences people wouldn't want to repeat really is not the place for some posters to say how much they enjoyed it. Posters are of course entitled to their own views and yes some people benefited from lockdown. However this is not to thread to discuss it.

For me it was the sudden death of my mum. Got a call from sibling to say she was being revived by paramedics and when I got there an hour later (had to find childcare as I was at home with my young kids) I passed the paramedics on the stairs as I went into the house, they hadn't been able to bring her back. They were leaving and my 65yo mum was dead on our living room floor.

I won't go into all the other shit that went alongside her death but it was in late 2020 and we had a funeral in face masks with limited numbers and no wake (Covid rules). My dad bubbled up with my sibling but the rest of us spent the first Christmas without our mum - who had literally dropped dead weeks beforehand - following fucking Covid rules when we should have all been together grieving.

Close second was having youngest DC taken to NICU an hour after birth and not leaving for a month and only then leaving after being diagnosed with a rare genetic condition which means she is disabled, has SEN and has made me a lifelong carer. I adore DC but the trauma of that experience is not something I'll ever wish to repeat.

Missed miscarriage.

Also. School PE lessons. Invented as a form of legalised torture for kids possibly? Every lesson in my entire school career was just dire.

Absolutely.

4 things.

Broke up with my boyfriend when I was 17, then a week later he shot himself. He left a suicide note blaming me for breaking up with him. His family never spoke to me again. Still feel guilty to this day.
Being induced because my baby had died. Went to the toilet, looked down and saw his legs coming out.
Watching my dad's last breath, and then his whole body changing colour from head to toe the moment he died.
And, most recently 2 weeks ago, my son's school calling me to tell me that he is having suicidal thoughts.

It's actually somewhat cathartic just writing this down.

Allowing myself to be led astray by a group of serious whisky drinkers. I lost 6 hours of my life and spent the next day day not knowing how to stop the bed tipping up. 😶

I've never touched the stuff since.

Recurrent miscarriages (6) and years of failed IVF and subsequent mental health breakdown.
Caring for my dad who had metaticised prostate cancer 💔

Death, cancer , life changing illness of my husband. Everything else that happens is minimal

Oh no !
That's sounds awful. I have claustrophobia and that would give me the screaming meenies.

Watching a close family member dying and holding them when they passed .

Lockdown.
Any kind of tooth pain.

I'm lucky enough not to have experienced some of the traumatic things some of you have.

Hearing and seeing my beautiful Mum dying a long and drawn out death.

Was just about to post this

If I ever am told I need another one it will be GA or sedation only. I’d risk my health before having it again without pain relief. So barbaric.

Reading these stories are heartbreaking and I’m so sorry many of you have been through some really awful times.

Being winched up into a helicopter (Training exercise)

Loosing my dad, when I was 23, when my first DC was 8 weeks old.
To me, he was invincible, my brain never even thought he wouldn’t recover, and he never told me how bad things were until the end, to protect me because I was pregnant, bless him.
It taught me a very hard lesson to never take people for granted.

Endometriosis / adenomyosis