Husband just walked in after stag weekend

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He left Friday lunchtime for a weekend around 3 hrs away. Young DC whom I’ve looked after all weekend doing swimming, play dates, party, nature walk, baking etc. We agreed husband would get up on Sunday and come straight back, and we realised he’d need to book a minicab to the train station as the stag do was in the middle of the countryside. I kept asking if he had booked the mini cab and he hadn’t but said he was aware.

Then this morning at 9 he texts he’s going for a shower and that he’s going for brunch at 11. I was like WTAF?! To brunch!

He said he couldn’t find any local cab companies able to come out earlier. I sent him some links and eventually he found one , so got picked up at 11 (skipped the brunch I presume) and finally arrived back home just now.

He asked how I was and I said cross. He is now refusing to speak as he said I’ve misunderstood his text messages but when I ask for clarity he says I’m not speaking now as I’m too cross to explain.

He’s now playing Xbox with DC who are allowed 2hrs on a Sunday afternoon. So I’ve done all the ferrying and hands on activities with them he gets to come home and chill out on the sofa playing Xbox and DC think fun Dad is back.

What exactly is a 'nature walk'? Or do you just mean a walk in the woods but dressed up to win some kind of parenting award?

I didn’t say anything about being a single mother? Yes the OP should be able to cope with her kids by herself for a weekend but then all parents should (husbands included). The OP said my husband and I agreed he would come straight home but I do wonder if it really was a “we agreed” or she told him too. Has my husband come home later from things than planned? Yes. But so have I. I know when having fun with friends you don’t catch up with you can feel like you want more time but then I wouldn’t have asked for him to come back first thing (unless something was planned). When in the trenches of having small children a bit of light relief is welcome. Both parents should do it. She should go out more herself.

Your comprehension skills are very poor, please read more carefully.

My post clearly refers to a number of posters with regard to the point about single mothers. It’s clearly a separate point. Referring to many. Not you.

And again, it’s not that she ‘should’ be able to cope she CAN and HAS coped. She is not posting that she failed to cope.

I am starting to wonder OP if the lack of empathy being shown is actually more just a lack of comprehension.

Nope nothing to do with comprehension, I just think it’s ridiculous that such a fuss is being made over 48 hours of solo parenting.

OP instead of saying to her DH, it’s fine solo parenting, you’re doing in next weekend when I’m away has made a big fuss over nothing!

It’s really not a big deal, it’s 48 hours of which the children were likely asleep for 20 of them. I mean throwing the McDonald’s wrappers and pizza box in the bin may have stretched OP, but as you say she coped!

I have no empathy.

Can I ask, what your need is to put upper case letters in the middle of your post? Do you think it is going to make readers think you’ve got a better point than anyone else?

Because upper case or not, I still think k you’re wrong!

Thank you but there’s nothing wrong with my comprehension skills. I understand what the OP is saying I just don’t agree with her. Plus I don’t agree with you grouping me with others when I didn’t mention single parenting which you pointless said on the quote of mine. You should have written a separate post quoting who you were replying to.

Still can't address the issue....classic SDE. Give up the soy milk.

OK, I’ll cancel the soy milk of my shopping list immediately!