Big row with DH over my weight

[Prickleitch]

Hi

last night I had a huge argument with DH about my weight loss. To give you some context, I am 5‘8“ tall and five months ago I was over 16 stone. I’ve always been quite a curvy girl and when I met DH I was probably around 12 stone so not slim but not massive either. having children and getting a bit older saw me put the pounds on and I decided last year that I had to do something about. Obviously some of this was vanity driven but also my blood pressure was a bit high and I didn’t want to just keep getting bigger. I have been taking Mounjaro which I have paid for privately and when I got on the scales two days ago for my most recent weighin I weighed 10 stone and 12 lb. This is the latest I’ve been in my adult life and I feel happy with this weight.

last night, DH made a comment about me looking too thin. He kept on about it so I asked him if he still found me attractive. He said that he didn’t find me unattractive but that he definitely thought I was sexier when I had a bit more weight on me. He then made a comment about how he thinks the weight loss has made me look a bit older. They sent me into a rage. Whilst we all have our personal preferences but he seems to be forgetting that I was 16 stone with high blood pressure.

It was at this point that all hell broke loose and I said some pretty nasty things to DH. I’m not proud to admit this but after the comments to me I screamed back at him “well I would like a husband with a 10 inch cock but here I am getting on with things with your chode”

he thinks I’ve crossed a line. AIBU to feel that his comments to me were unfair ?

for everyone saying he told OP he didn’t find her attractive any more, that is not what happened either

He said that he didn’t find me unattractive but that he definitely thought I was sexier when I had a bit more weight on me.

FFS, can you not read? It never fails to shock me the length some people will go to to comment without comprehending the OP first.

Once again from the OP:

last night, DH made a comment about me looking too thin. He kept on about it so I asked him if he still found me attractive. He said that he didn’t find me unattractive but that he definitely thought I was sexier when I had a bit more weight on me. He then made a comment about how he thinks the weight loss has made me look a bit older. They sent me into a rage. Whilst we all have our personal preferences but he seems to be forgetting that I was 16 stone with high blood pressure.

16st with high blood pressure and not likely to be attractive to most other men or be thinking about other men.

But now in the healthy weight range she has to be too thin, not as sexy as she used to be, and look older just so her husband doesn't start getting paranoid.

Bloke feels threatened because OP now looks more attractive and he no longer feels like he is cock of the walk.

Exactly.

Whatever size his cock is...

Okay, no one over the age of 16 then 😆

To be honest he may have a point about looking older with weight loss. I know quite a few woman in there 40s who have lost lots of weight with monjurno and all have aged a lot since they lost the weight. Monjurno weight loss isnt always healthy if users are not eating much so the body goes into starvation mode which is damaging.

Anyway that being said it sounds like you are slim now not skinny. Your comments to dh were pretty mean.

Tbf what was he suppossed to say? Because if you did put the weight back on you could throw at him that he likes you better thin! And then you would feel like he didnt find you attractive because of you being bigger.
hes a lose lose whatever his response is. You should be wanting to lose weight for YOU not for others impression of you.
i do thing his comment stung and you wanted to hurt him back thats why you snapped back with the comment about his anatomy. I think youve got some apologising to do.

He's trying to crush you back down to where he feels you should be relative to him OP.
Best if you just dont react, laugh it off, but that's not easy when you're angry. Especially now you have mocked the essence of his masculinity, that worm wont go back in the can now!!

Maybe he should have thought about all this being for “keeping going on about it”, naturally prompting OP to ask the question.

I don’t think OP will be back.

No one needs a ten inch cock, op. Just saying 🤪

no, shes busy sucking up to her fella after this evenings spat

She’ll not be sucking much if what she said was true.

Agree with this.

😂😂😂

he doesn't have a leg to stand on! he criticised your appearance first.

“well I would like a husband with a 10 inch cock but here I am getting on with things with your chode”

😂😂😂😂😂
wow he won’t be mentioning your looks again.

Yeah, in my late 30s I'm 5'8" and weight 9 stone 6, and I'm a size 10 to 12 and don't look particularly thin, just unremarkably slim. And I've always been thin-faced, but it hasn't made me look old all my life. I think good health, including healthy skin, and sun damage, has more impact on how old someone looks. And genetics, of course.

I'm sure OP looks fantastic, and isn't worryingly thin – definitely nowhere near a weight where her DH would have genuine reason to be concerned. He was being an arse. Unfortunately, it can be difficult to come back from penis comments. Perhaps best to apologise, whilst pointing out meaningfully how unpleasant unwanted commentary on one's body is.

Sorry, what? Me no understand.

Your husband has let you know that he prioritises his own sexual preferences over your health. I would find that pretty bad. I wouldn't worry too much about his feelings.

It was spiteful because she knows it’s not something he can change like losing weight.

Can you imagine if a man insulted the size of his wife’s breasts on here.

Wow, you were really vicious!

I dont think think you'd look thin or haggard at almost 11 stone and 5'8, though. Do you think your weightloss has made your husband feel insecure?

I d an eating disorder when I was younger and my mum kind of approached it in a similar way. Making comments about how thin I was then saying, I was always pretty and still was but actually looked much healthier a few pounds heavier. I don't think we have anyway of telling exactly what the husbands intentions or motives were.

I definitely don't think he deserved the awful comment made to him.

I do also generally find that a sudden and dramatic weight loss is aging on most people.

Goodness me, haven't heard the word chode in many years.