Anyone else ruin Christmas because they were drunk?

[Newyearnewmewoooop]

Officially hit rock bottom. Ruined Christmas for
my children due to my behaviour when drunk. Full of self loathing and I have finally got to the point of realising that I can’t drink alcohol again.

Day 1 of being sober.

Yesss! Great to hear!

Well done @Newyearnewmewoooop💐

Please don't hate yourself because that won't help you stick to your plan.Love yourself for having made this decision. Get help.

Well done @Newyearnewmewoooop, you can do this

Well done. You are doing brilliantly. We had family over for a big get together last weekend and I realised I hadn't really noticed not drinking. There was a moment, when G&T's were being mixed and wine offered, but I just stuck to my favourite soft drinks and sparkling water and it was fine.

Well done. Having several alcoholics in my family.I know the pain and destruction.It causes children into their adult lives. You are breaking the cycle. That is massive. You superstar.
Don't start thinking you can drink moderately though. If you start thinking about having the odd glass stop it will not work.
Keep it up. Will look back and realise you have done the best thing ever for you and your kids.

Well done OP :) Keep going.

My XH was in hospital last week. He fell off the wagon (a few weeks back). I finished my shift and went to try and find him in A+E. I literally walked past his cubicle as I didn't recognise him - drinking ages him terribly. I think the doctors gave him a stark warning (lord knows I had done the same over the years). He has now got himself back on the wagon and working with AA etc to carefully reduce intake (from a large bottle of spirits a day). It's nuts.

Now I'm sure you/others maybe don't drink to that extent, and maybe not even daily. But recognition of problem drinking is key (which you've done/recognised), and addressing the problem is also key. So keep going with it. XH did so well last year - honestly it was amazing to see him doing great. But I always know when he has been drinking and when he falls off the wagon, and he knows to stay away from me and the DC if he has been drinking. I hoping this year, he manages to wean off it completely (he managed it last year), and then properly address the issues and triggers that caused him to start drinking again. I know for certain that - for him anyway - he will need to continue with complete abstinence.

Brilliant to hear that @Newyearnewmewoooop ❤️

Been thinking of you and wondering how you were getting on. My DM had a drink problem all my life, and it really affected us kids in ways we didn't fully realise until we were adults, and then parents. I'm so happy for you that you're still going x

Go you OP. My alcoholic friend who used to be my drinking partner just dropped dead 10 years ago in her 50's leaving her son all alone in the world with no other relatives. I met him recently and he was so sad.
I went teetotal 10 years ago and life has never been better. I have no doubt I would also be dead if I hadn't given up.

you’re doing so well OP. Be proud of yourself.

Brilliant to hear, well done.

Just popping on to give a quick update! I’m Still sober! I have managed to remain sober since Christmas Day, and have celebrated my birthday and Mother’s Day in that time without falling off the wagon! I’m worried about a big party over Easter that we are having, but on the whole I have been ok and coping well ☺️

Amazing! Well done! Keep your focus and strength for Easter. Remember why you're doing this!

Congratulations, that's an amazing achievement and I'm sure you will cope well with Easter as you have with other big occasions. Change is so hard, you should be very proud of yourself.

That’s amazing, well done. Forging new habits is so hard to do, and especially ditching old bad ones is even harder.

absolutely brilliant you should be really proud of yourself!

That is fantastic! Well done!

Well done @Newyearnewmewoooop

Take toothpaste and toothbrush and clean your teeth a few times through the Easter party. It worked for me.

You can absolutely get through the Easter party! You've done so well, you should be really proud of yourself. Each new sober experience is another one in the bank, and eventually all those banked experiences become the norm, and you won't even think about drinking at these events. Well done. Keep going.

Amazing! Well done..Just keep on keeping on, one day at a time and then you'll find they all just start blurring and you have a few days where you dont even think about it and then a few weeks and so on.
Im 5 years sober in may and its been the best thing ive ever done.

That's brilliant OP, remember you can do it (Easter) because you've done it before while at the same time not being too complacent. Great update!

Brilliant achievement. I wish more people would follow your lead. It's such a waste of time, money and energy. The more people that can realise this the better 💕

I'm stopping drinking. I'm not an alcoholic or anything, maybe drink once a month but I drink too much and act like an annoying arsehole to everyone, and I don't want to be like that. I don't like to lose control of myself like that

That's awesome!
Are you starting to enjoy sobriety? Because spoilet alert: It's very very enjoyable.

you must be feeling so proud of yourself! That’s absolutely brilliant, and I hope you’re feeling healthier too. Every sober day is a huge success. Keep going.