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Would you accept a lift from a nice man in the middle of nowhere?

354 replies

Angelic999 · 06/12/2025 16:06

Out on a remote countryside walk alone as a woman, it starts raining. A man stops in his car to offer a lift. Would you say yes?

This happened to me recently. I said no thank you. He then proceeded to question me about where I was going. He seemed nice enough but I wasn't willing to take the risk to get in a car with a complete stranger (Ian Brady anyone?!)

Part of my female conditioning has been to then feel guilty that I have offended him! But then surely he should have more awareness. Although maybe it's just friendly country folk being genuine!

OP posts:
GingerBeverage · 06/12/2025 16:08

Nope

snoopythebeagle · 06/12/2025 16:08

Definitely not.

RealMember · 06/12/2025 16:08

No way. YANBU

herbalteabag · 06/12/2025 16:08

Definitely not! That's potentially very dangerous.

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2025 16:08

Fuck no. And any man that offered and didn’t understand why you said no is either delusional or stupid (or a predator).

BTW I have been places where I would accept. But in the UK, hard no.

Waitingfordoggo · 06/12/2025 16:09

Of course not.

How can you possibly know if a stranger is ‘a nice man’? Sometimes a man you think you know well proves himself to be not ‘a nice man’ so you definitely can’t make that assessment of a stranger.

The idea of getting into a car with a strange man just makes me think of poor Sarah Everard and the horrendous final hours of her life.

TheNightingalesStarling · 06/12/2025 16:09

Definitely not.

ImThePr0blem · 06/12/2025 16:10

I would but then I’m able to defend myself if he tried anything.
EVERY woman should do a police self defence course and strength training.

If I was a weak woman with no idea how to subdue a potential attacker then yeah, I’d run a mile instead of getting into the car.

Waitingfordoggo · 06/12/2025 16:10

@Angelic999The fact that this man didn’t immediately take no for an answer and asked questions about where you were going rather suggests he had the potential to not be a nice man at all.

Arlanymor · 06/12/2025 16:10

Not in a million years. Nor give him any information about where I was headed to. There are loads of nice men out there - far more than horrible ones - but women have to be safe rather than sorry.

TheNightingalesStarling · 06/12/2025 16:11

ImThePr0blem · 06/12/2025 16:10

I would but then I’m able to defend myself if he tried anything.
EVERY woman should do a police self defence course and strength training.

If I was a weak woman with no idea how to subdue a potential attacker then yeah, I’d run a mile instead of getting into the car.

How exactly do you get out of a moving car?

ThisMintSwan · 06/12/2025 16:11

Absolutely not. If a man really just wanted to be nice he'd offer a brolly or something, not ask where you're going.

dairydebris · 06/12/2025 16:12

No!

Waitingfordoggo · 06/12/2025 16:12

@ImThePr0blem It’s great that you have self-defence skills, and I would never discourage anyone from learning those. But (genuine question) might they be of limited use inside a locked moving car?

HoppityBun · 06/12/2025 16:12

No. And that’s sad because I think that most offers are innocent and well intentioned. But I wouldn’t take the risk.

snoopythebeagle · 06/12/2025 16:12

ImThePr0blem · 06/12/2025 16:10

I would but then I’m able to defend myself if he tried anything.
EVERY woman should do a police self defence course and strength training.

If I was a weak woman with no idea how to subdue a potential attacker then yeah, I’d run a mile instead of getting into the car.

Wow.

What if he wasn't alone? What if he had a knife or drugged you?

khfippjjj · 06/12/2025 16:12

Nope not a chance in hell. Wouldn’t matter how strong or safe I felt in my own ability. There are other ways to get power over someone.

buffyajp · 06/12/2025 16:12

ImThePr0blem · 06/12/2025 16:10

I would but then I’m able to defend myself if he tried anything.
EVERY woman should do a police self defence course and strength training.

If I was a weak woman with no idea how to subdue a potential attacker then yeah, I’d run a mile instead of getting into the car.

That’s awfully close to victim blaming there. No woman should have to do anything she doesn’t want to. It’s men that need to change their behaviour.

evtheria · 06/12/2025 16:13

Nope!

Holluschickie · 06/12/2025 16:13

No way.
Would not care if he was offended.

khfippjjj · 06/12/2025 16:14

ImThePr0blem · 06/12/2025 16:10

I would but then I’m able to defend myself if he tried anything.
EVERY woman should do a police self defence course and strength training.

If I was a weak woman with no idea how to subdue a potential attacker then yeah, I’d run a mile instead of getting into the car.

You might be strong but you don’t sound very intelligent (or humble), that is a weakness.

ChristmasinBrighton · 06/12/2025 16:14

No. How do you mean “nice man?” Like how would you know?

Hendersso · 06/12/2025 16:14

No way.

beAsensible1 · 06/12/2025 16:14

No and the extra questions would get my guard up. I’d probably re route

Purplevelvets · 06/12/2025 16:15

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2025 16:08

Fuck no. And any man that offered and didn’t understand why you said no is either delusional or stupid (or a predator).

BTW I have been places where I would accept. But in the UK, hard no.

I'm curious to know where in the world getting in a car with a stranger is less risky than in UK?