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Would you accept a lift from a nice man in the middle of nowhere?

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Angelic999 · 06/12/2025 16:06

Out on a remote countryside walk alone as a woman, it starts raining. A man stops in his car to offer a lift. Would you say yes?

This happened to me recently. I said no thank you. He then proceeded to question me about where I was going. He seemed nice enough but I wasn't willing to take the risk to get in a car with a complete stranger (Ian Brady anyone?!)

Part of my female conditioning has been to then feel guilty that I have offended him! But then surely he should have more awareness. Although maybe it's just friendly country folk being genuine!

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Tipsy75 · 08/03/2026 21:45

Doone22 · 08/12/2025 07:02

I am the mother of a young man however and I'm disgusted with how women constantly demonise the opposite sex: they are told at school, on social media, on tv that THEY are the problem - for everything apparently.
They are not allowed to look at women, talk to them, try to ask one out, not allowed to be anything except the slightly stupid dad in adverts or the murderous villain on tv.
It sickens me to see society tell men they are all problems and it sickens me just as much to see how women oppress themselves - you don't have to move to Saudi you can just stay in the UK and live with the constant hysteria about the opposite sex and pretty soon no woman will dare to leave the house alone after dark, then it will become at any time, then it will become a defence in law because a woman left the house alone, then it will become law and before you know it you will oppressed yourselves into total subjugation because of irrational fear of everything.

And no I am fine with accepting the statistics that men are guilty of more violence than women but don't forget most of that violence is suffered by other men.
I am also fine with accepting the statistics that men are guilty of more attacks on women than women are but that does not mean its healthy for society to treat every man as a threat.
I brought my boy up to the understanding that while in general its not a good idea to accept lifts from strangers its fine to ask for help when you need it and use your own judgement and intuition about that.
You might choose to live your life shutting yourself off from all possible forms of risk but I can assure you - accepting a lift from a stranger carries a higher risk of injury from crashing than anything else.

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"They are not allowed to look at women, talk to them, try to ask one out, not allowed to be anything except the slightly stupid dad in adverts or the murderous villain on tv."

LoL you're ridiculous & making things up. How are men allowed to be stupid dads if they can't even look at women or ask them out? Just kidding, don't answer. You know very well men look at women, talk to them, ask them out, go on dates, get married, and become all kinds of things other than stupid dad types or murderous villains from TV.

Also, since when do men only do things they're allowed to do?

Frumpitydoo · 09/03/2026 05:48

Fuck no.

Livpool · 10/03/2026 21:41

Not a fucking chance!

Timeforabitofpeace · 11/03/2026 07:48

God no.

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