Holly Ramsay hen fallout

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15275975/holly-ramsay-fiance-adam-peatys-ban-mother-wedding-hen-party.html

Hmm, I have 2 theories:

1. She didn't think his mum fit in her shallow aesthetic, based on the photos I've seen of the guests and the do as a whole.
2. His mum doesn't necessarily approve of the partnership- looking at the timeline described in the article, from when they met to when they apparently got together, I wouldn't be surprised if his mum had sided more with the mother of his child.

Before anyone says, if you don't know who they are, read the article. Yes there are more important things to worry about in the world, I can think about more than one thing at a time.
This is purely my opinion, so hopefully I can't be sued.

Oh FFS, nobody needs to invite their MIL to their hen do. I didn’t invite mine, and I was very close to her (she has sadly passed away). I didn’t invite any of DH’s family. That’s what the wedding was for.

Kicking off about it is what has got her banned from the wedding.

I read this and it has really saddened me. Obv we only have one side of the story but it doesn't look good that both her parents were at the stag and hen do, but his mum wasn’t.

It doesn’t look that simple from the Instagram post.

I feel sorry for AP's mum. There's two sides to every story of course, but it does sound like HR is being a bit of a bridezilla - telling her she can't wear the dress she has chosen and insisting on her wearing one of her choosing.

There is no way Adam's mum's sister should have aired this in public. What exactly was she hoping to achieve?
I agree with PP that hen parties are for friends, not necessarily family and not MILs.
It sounds like there is/has been a rift brewing but this has blown it wide open.

• and I'm sorry but who offers to hand craft name placecards for their son's wedding when the couple have £££ between them?

Reading between the lines (and having seen this played out in other families) sometimes a man/woman's new partner doesn't like the fact that their new or future DMil's are still in contact with the ex & the children of that relationship & feel extremely jealous.
Then the next thing is that the child starts to get sidelined too due to pressure from the new partner.

Wicked Stepmother/Stepfather syndrome

Though it may not be the case here & it's the future/new DMil that's the problem.

Or it may be just the usual wedding stuff that makes everyone go a bit crazy.

Who knows but I'm leaning to my first perception.

Why did his family put all that out there?
What did they think would happen?🤯

I wonder if his Mum knew that her sister was making her post ?

Very sorry situation

His family seems like a nightmare tbh. Did they really think that publicizing this via instagram and passive aggressive memes was a good way to go? The chip on their collective shoulder about Holly Ramsay coming from a celebrity family is apparent too, as is the attempted emotional blackmail. If they’re usually inclined to dramatics I can understand why the couple has had enough.

TBH I was reading between the lines that there’s more to this than meets the eye.

Firstly, it’s often the case that people who push themselves for success have some kind of childhood trauma (not necessarily with a big T, could be parents that fall way less than ideal but not necessarily criminally abusive).

Clearly at least one member of his Mum’s family is unhinged as her sister posting publicly on Insta is batshit crazy. His DM then posting the passive aggressive/attention seeking “U okay hun?” quote meme on her own Insta is also clearly batshit.

His DM offering (pushing?) to craft table settings for the kind of wedding they will be having is batshit.

Also the reason they didn’t make it to the dress shopping is batshit - the train service from Uttoxeter goes nowhere near Huntingdon, it’s not even operated by the same company. So I highly doubt it was impacted by the incident there. Basically I suspect some drama llama tactics of how DM couldn’t possibly set foot on a train because she might be in danger when she clearly wasn’t going to be.

I’m sensing fucked up family dynamics here - and that the new relationship has been the breathing space he’s needed to realise how fucked up and he’s started to push back and put boundaries in. Or perhaps a mix of that and his own issues, I’m sure he’s not perfect but spider senses say it’s not a “poor them for being working class” story it’s being made out to be.

They’ll be divorced within 2 years anyway.

I think its in bad taste to uninvited his own mum.

He was happy enough to have her baby sit his kid during the hen. Of course his aunt shouldn't have posted that on insta.

But definitely think they overreacted. With the ban and saying she'll never see his kid again.

Whole thing seems very sad. I do get the impression that since dating Holly his circle has become more exclusive. She’s the only Ramsey child who is living off her parents name, unlike her siblings who all made careers for themselves. Hope they can work it out, I think not having your family at your wedding would completely destroy any chance of making up. You’d hope Victoria Beckham would try and encourage them to make up, given everything going on with her own son…

It’s in bad taste to run to tabloids in order to publicly shit all over your son’s impending wedding (and of course to blame the bride). I’m not surprised he doesn’t want her anywhere near it, mother or not.

A different viewpoint here. This relationship has shades of Richie Myler. Both him and AP will be puppets for their fathers in law (or not law in the case of Myler). They'll have bugger all autonomy.

Mother in law doesn’t get invited to the Hen. Totally okay, Holly’s prerogative as to who she has there. Mother in law’s sister comments on Holly’s posts ranting and raving, then goes to the press. The mother in law is now posting passive aggressive “woe is me” quotes on her insta page, which her sister is commenting on slagging off Adam and Holly.

clears throat these are grown women acting like teenagers. And they wonder why their toxic behaviour isn’t welcomed? 👀👀👀👀

Maybe they were worried that she would sell stories about it and maybe they were right.

Yup. Apparently she was babysitting during the hen and stag events, which seems a strange thing to agree to if you’re expecting to attend the hen, or so devastated at not being invited. Going public to cause drama afterwards also strikes me as a strategic choice to ruin the couple’s memories of the day, given that they’ll now undoubtedly get a lot of negative comments on the photographs (particularly the ones that Holly has posted, as they’ve framed her as she-devil at fault. Of course the woman is to blame, because a grown and wealthy man has zero autonomy). It’s also now going to overshadow the wedding.

This may be the first public drama, but I doubt this is the first time they’ve had to deal with his overbearing parents. I suspect this is the last straw.

HR has a terrible Instagram - constantly posts pics emphasising how extremely thin she is. She has had an eating disorder so she must know this is triggering. Not surprised there is drama

It’s outrageous to blame Holly’s past mental health illness on this. Deeply, deeply unfair and a concerning attitude imo.

This. It’s traditionally for the bride’s friends and possibly family. Wouldn’t have crossed my mind to invite my mil to be.

Yanbu for alerting me to this important gossip, cant wait to do a deep dive tonight once dd sleeps 🥰👀👀

I spotted this on Holly's Instagram on Sunday and was surprised the tabloids hadn't picked up on it - clearly they have now! The Auntie was completely out of order in replying on Holly's Insta saying how terrible she was for not inviting her MIL to the hen. I wouldn't expect to go to my DILs hen and even my daughters tbh! It's their day. The auntie also said in a later reply that her sister (Adam's Mum) was furious at her for posting her comments. She obviously knew that there was going to be a big fallout because of what she had done. She was going on about how she changed Adams' nappies when he was young and how she bought him a batman outfit - like that had anything to do with Holly's hen!? Bit baffling really.

Sounds like pretty standard MIL/DIL drama with the MIL's sister sticking her oar in where it was not wanted or clearly needed. She said how she loved her sister and would stick up for her. Instead she has caused all of this drama which has (apparently) resulted in Adam's Mum now being uninvited to the wedding. The auntie said she had been invited but had declined due to ill health. All of these comments have now been removed from Holly's Insta.

It's so awful that the auntie has aired all of this in public - what an upset and fuss she has caused! Now a source is stating all sorts and the tabloids are making many assumptions about the relationship and family dynamics.

Who'd be famous eh?

The fact that his family has put it out in public makes me think there's way more that's happen before which has led to them not being invited. Sorry, but no one is entitled to an invitation to a hen do... the fact that he invited Gordon Ramsay is odd, but does not entitle his mum to a similar invite. I feel sorry for celebs in this instance tbh, i feel like their family gets so upset about not being invited to their glamorous events. Whereas if they were poor and the hen do was being held at a weatherspoons I doubt the mum/aunt would be so cut up about not being invited.

We don't know the ins and outs of it.

We don't know if his aunt did this off her own back.

Obviously better for all of this to be sorted behind closed doors.

But I still think it's OTT to uninvite his own mother to his wedding.