How do I not have the biggest ever fall out with my cousin

[thetallfairy]

Hello all

I'm in such a pickle

D dad passed away a few years ago

We inherited his 100 acre farm
Cows and lots of sheds

My two sisters and I are clueless
Never had money
We know nothing about what to do really

So I asked my cousin if he was interested in some land
This land is in a great area good quality
I got it valued
He offered half the price it was valued at
Didn't want a fight I said ok if that's all you have

He came to me a few months later with 1/3 of the price he offered
Paltry amount

This was 18 months ago
Since then he has been making changes to this area of land
It's obv not his
So I messaged him
Told him the final amount is now due

Nada

No word
No mention

Wtaf

So
I am trying to muster the courage to hand the money back and say we have now changed our minds

My sis thinks I'm over reacting

I think he's a cheeky so and so

But we all have n bloody clue

She thinks there will be a huge row now

Aghhhhhhhjhhhhhhhhh

Surely to God you had a legal contract written up?

You need legal advice asap

What's the legal situation?

Legal situation is that I had told him this is my solicitor
My solicitor wrote to him at the start

This is the land
This is the price

He claims the solicitor will only screw us over

Wtaf

So he has just come to me with cash and I assumed the rest would follow

He now thinks he owns this land

At about it 15 per cent of tue price it really should be

And the rest of my family think if I give the money back there will be a huge fight

I’m trying to be kind here but honestly op, if this is how you handle legal and financial matters, it’s not really surprising you’ve never had any money! I think you’ve probably made this more complicated by accepting any money at all (why would you?! Such a low amount and not what was agreed??) but the best thing you can do now is take legal advice.

Give him the money back & take back the land.

So you don't actually have a legal contract about who owns the land and how much he is to pay?

Also! Who cares if there’s a fall out? He’s making an absolute mockery of you , why would you want someone like that in your life?

Jesus Christ

you need to take all of the documentation and find a contentious private solicitor.

Well absolutely

None of us had a clue

And he knows this

I thought the original amount was a deposit and he would bring the rest when he could

I guess what I think now is

Should I just get the money back and say nothing from there on?

This will cause a huge fight but you need to look after your own interests now. Put the land up for sale and get your solicitor to tell him to remove all his stuff from it immediately. Then sell it on the open market and start looking after yourself. This is nuts.

Well that's what I have said to the rest of my family

I think that is probably the best option

The road to hell is paved with good intentions

Wanted to keep it in the family etc

Ffs

You need proper legal advice I'm not sure you can just give him the money back and expect him to walk away from the land without pursuing it.

Flip

He knew what he was at

He handed the money to us 18 months ago

He said the solicitor would take too much in fees
Keep them out of it

You've not handled this well, seek legal advice ASAP.

Spoken like a true con artist. Not sure why you ever trusted him or went along with it.

See a lawyer and kick him off asap and return the cash. What a piss taker.

I mean to be honest family or not this should have been a huge red flag. You really do need proper legal advice before you do anything.

What on were you thinking . You might not know how to farm but why on earth wouldn’t you put it on the open market and get its true value .

Exactly @MyAcornWood

Kicking myself

Will get the money back to him

Really we are the ones who should be royally kicking off obvs we won't

Total walkovers 🙄🙄😬😬😬😬

Strangers would come in then and he lives beside it

Seemed the best

Darn crazy

Option

Ughhhhhh madnesssssss

You need to speak to a solicitor. As a matter of extreme urgency. Do not do anything, including giving the money back, or contacting him in any way, until you have done so.

I can see you potentially making this 100 times worse by inadvertently saying or doing something else if you do anything at all without legal advice.