Anyone have any idea how I can stop my neighbour from doing this when I have already tried talking to him?

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My neighbour keeps doing something and it's got to the point where he's actually doing my head in now because he doesn't need to be doing it and two he won't explain why he is.. I have spoken to him but it's still happening..

Family came round to my flat once and knocked on the door, As I was walking down the stairs to answer I heard my neighbour come out of his flat and say 'She never answers her door can I give her a message?' Thought it was odd as I opened the door but didn't really think anything of it, Until it happened again. Basically if he ever sees anyone knock at my door he will go out and tell them I never answer the door.. I do answer the door and I'm not sure why he thinks I don't so I spoke to him about it and he refused to talk to me about it and closed his door.

Now over the last month I have not been getting any parcels delivered, ALL of them have been delivered to neighbour, I have never ticked the box to say deliver to neighbour and I am always in as I work from home, I just get notification that parcels have been delivered then when I check he has them.

Managed to catch dpd driver today handing neighbour my parcel so I asked in front of neighbour why he keeps delivering my stuff to my neighbour when I'm at home and he's not even knocking on my door, dpd guy said my neighbour always comes out and either tells him i'm not in or I never answer the door.

Anyone have any ideas on how to stop my neighbour from saying this? It's gone passed being strange for me and it's now starting to piss me off. I have lived here with zero issues for ten years, he moved in a year ago. We live in flats but each have our own front doors so I have no idea why he is even near mine at all to be doing this in the first place, it's not a communal entrance.

for the record I do answer my door when people knock and I have no idea why he thinks i don't.. It's at the point now where family think I'm not in and don't bother knocking sometimes..

Wait what? Maybe put a sign on your door saying that despite what the neighbour says you will answer

Can you get a ring doorbell - they can alert you if someone is approaching and you can speak through them too.

Tell him you are reporting him to the police for theft

i have tried a few different ones but unfortauntely I can't get a connection to any of them, the wif doesn't seem to reach down my stairs. i wish I could have one because it would solve this isuue

Laminated notice on the door. What a weirdo. Maybe he thinks you don't answer the door quick enough, or has something against WFH.

Is he maybe looking for excuses to talk to you? He takes in parcels, you have to go round to collect them. He tells family you are out and he will pass on a message, he comes to pass it on… creepy…

Here’s an idea: go speak to him and ask why the FUCK he keeps intercepting parcels and talking shite about you never answering the door! Use your words.

I agree.

Does he let you have your parcels ?

OP has tried. Neighbour wouldn’t speak and shut the door. It says that in the OP

What is the layout of the flats? It sounds like you are upstairs and he is downstairs? Can you get a wireless doorbell for your flat (one of the basic ones that doesn’t need WiFi) so it only rings in yours rather than knocking which he will hear?

Here's an idea - read the OP properly

M bad, apologies 😢

I wonder if a large male friend has a word would do the trick.

What a horrible situation.

For family/friends calling round, I would tell them to ring your phone rather than knock.

yes but i have to go and knock for them, he would never bring them to me

Sign on the door “please ignore neighbour in flat 1 - I AM in and I WILL answer my bell”. Laminated preferably.

Do you both own? If renting, could you speak to your LL about perhaps sorting out a better doorbell system so you can circumvent this complete weirdo?

Definitely creepy, I would be scared.

I would be concerned that he is ordering illegal items in your name. So he is intercepting the parcels to intercept those ordered by him.

Could you get a WiFi booster? Plugged into hallway it'll boost the signal to the doorbell

Honestly? I would move. Agree that is seems to be an attempt to force contact with him. Very strange behaviour, I don’t see how you will correct this/I doubt he’ll stop. It would worry me that he had strange intentions.

This is odd, controlling behaviour.
I'd tell visitors in advance to ignore him and include, in any delivery instructions: Don't deliver to creepy neighbour

Most companies have “special delivery instructions” you can add to the order. Make sure you fill that in every time with capital letters saying not to give it to creepy neighbour in flat X, but to knock and you will answer.

Hopefully that will ensure some get to you at least.

He's either believing that he is being helpful or he is using it as an excuse for you to knock on his door so he can talk to you. I would ring your local neighbourhood police team and ask if there is a PCSO who covers your area and arrange to have a chat with them about it. They can then speak to him and spell it out that he should not be doing this. Hopefully, by doing this he will take it seriously and stop intercepting your parcels and guests.

Many delivery companies have drop off points for parcels eg at a local shop, and you collect them yourself from there. Though it wouldn't be as convenient as a home delivery, it would prevent him intercepting your parcels.
Also you could make full use of the delivery information, such as Your parcel is two stops away to get down to your door in good time, so he doesn't get a chance to snatch your parcel.

If you both rent, talk to your landlord about it, and they might have a word with him.

He sounds quite creepy, trying to get involved in your life.