Anyone have any idea how I can stop my neighbour from doing this when I have already tried talking to him?

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My neighbour keeps doing something and it's got to the point where he's actually doing my head in now because he doesn't need to be doing it and two he won't explain why he is.. I have spoken to him but it's still happening..

Family came round to my flat once and knocked on the door, As I was walking down the stairs to answer I heard my neighbour come out of his flat and say 'She never answers her door can I give her a message?' Thought it was odd as I opened the door but didn't really think anything of it, Until it happened again. Basically if he ever sees anyone knock at my door he will go out and tell them I never answer the door.. I do answer the door and I'm not sure why he thinks I don't so I spoke to him about it and he refused to talk to me about it and closed his door.

Now over the last month I have not been getting any parcels delivered, ALL of them have been delivered to neighbour, I have never ticked the box to say deliver to neighbour and I am always in as I work from home, I just get notification that parcels have been delivered then when I check he has them.

Managed to catch dpd driver today handing neighbour my parcel so I asked in front of neighbour why he keeps delivering my stuff to my neighbour when I'm at home and he's not even knocking on my door, dpd guy said my neighbour always comes out and either tells him i'm not in or I never answer the door.

Anyone have any ideas on how to stop my neighbour from saying this? It's gone passed being strange for me and it's now starting to piss me off. I have lived here with zero issues for ten years, he moved in a year ago. We live in flats but each have our own front doors so I have no idea why he is even near mine at all to be doing this in the first place, it's not a communal entrance.

for the record I do answer my door when people knock and I have no idea why he thinks i don't.. It's at the point now where family think I'm not in and don't bother knocking sometimes..

He’s insinuating himself into the OP’s life and yes, definitely in a sinister way.

It's a huge overstep of boundaries.

Firstly, OP is an adult - what of it if she were out all night for any purpose, anyway? She doesn't have an ankle tag and a curfew.

Secondly, if he is telling all and sundry that her home is empty overnight, that puts her at greatly increased risk of burglary - with terrifying and potentially life-endangering results if a criminal breaks into what he believes is an empty home and OP is actually there.

This is definitely a police matter; he isn't just a bumbling busybody, but a very sinister character indeed.

This is quite disrespectful for the station officers who are actually skilled at taking reports

Glad to see the last few posts, he could be dangerous. I like @AlphaApple of sending the letter. Keep safe OP x

It’s a flat so either you both own in which case you can raise it with the freeholder as an issue or with your landlord to speak to his landlord if you rent.
people nicking others parcel from communal area is probably against general codes of conduct listed in your lease agreement (ie not impinging on others quiet enjoyment and could lead to that leaseholder losing the lease if they don’t stop the situation-ie similar to a noise nuisance/leaving items in common areas which is generally considered fire risk and not allowed per the insurance policy)

I’d also ask the police for advice.

cba to read the title, let alone the post!

Yes I agree they are skilled at taking reports. I didn’t say they weren’t.

however they do not sit around twiddling their thumbs waiting for people to walk in off the street to make statements. The ones physically in the station will be booked with appointments.

if you turn up at a station you will be sent away with an appointment to come back. Better to phone and make the appt, save everyone’s time.

i can’t see how it’s disrespectful to suggest a better way of making a report. It’s more disrespectful to think you are so important you can rock up with a non emergent issue and instantly see an officer.

Please be very cautious of this man, he is unstable.

Find some dog poop, put in a box, the poop wrapped in rice paper to prevent the mess stinking until its opened. Leave it for the snark neighbour to take away etc.

Don’t do this OP.

So childish and solves absolutely nothing.

Inspired by another thread, OP could order a dozen packs of Always.
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Same here!

And if they had just turned up unexpectedly wouldn't they phone & ask if you were nearby?

What’s weird is how quick he is to intercept the delivery drivers like they don’t even get a chance to ring your bell suggesting he’s watching the street comings & goings or surveilling things. Does he see deliveries going past his property before they pass/pull up to yours? I don’t understand like if you’re wfh & get an update that a delivery is on its way, how he intercepts it before it gets to your door?? But v unsettling behaviour. I’d def report to police & agree this is harassment/stalkerish.

I can’t imagine my friends or family actually taking any notice of what a neighbour said about me to them.

I would also speak to the Police, loitering in a public place, interfering with mail, watching the person are all elements of the act
at the very least start keeping a detailed record

@Wildhorsesdraggedmesorry, not read the full thread but could you get an indoor ring camera for your kitchen window to pick him up there?

It's harassment..report to police

Not sure, but as she hasn’t been back for a while, maybe the OP is ok with things now she decided to have her parcels delivered to the local collection point. Perhaps that’s stopped his interference. Hope so.