Anyone have any idea how I can stop my neighbour from doing this when I have already tried talking to him?

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My neighbour keeps doing something and it's got to the point where he's actually doing my head in now because he doesn't need to be doing it and two he won't explain why he is.. I have spoken to him but it's still happening..

Family came round to my flat once and knocked on the door, As I was walking down the stairs to answer I heard my neighbour come out of his flat and say 'She never answers her door can I give her a message?' Thought it was odd as I opened the door but didn't really think anything of it, Until it happened again. Basically if he ever sees anyone knock at my door he will go out and tell them I never answer the door.. I do answer the door and I'm not sure why he thinks I don't so I spoke to him about it and he refused to talk to me about it and closed his door.

Now over the last month I have not been getting any parcels delivered, ALL of them have been delivered to neighbour, I have never ticked the box to say deliver to neighbour and I am always in as I work from home, I just get notification that parcels have been delivered then when I check he has them.

Managed to catch dpd driver today handing neighbour my parcel so I asked in front of neighbour why he keeps delivering my stuff to my neighbour when I'm at home and he's not even knocking on my door, dpd guy said my neighbour always comes out and either tells him i'm not in or I never answer the door.

Anyone have any ideas on how to stop my neighbour from saying this? It's gone passed being strange for me and it's now starting to piss me off. I have lived here with zero issues for ten years, he moved in a year ago. We live in flats but each have our own front doors so I have no idea why he is even near mine at all to be doing this in the first place, it's not a communal entrance.

for the record I do answer my door when people knock and I have no idea why he thinks i don't.. It's at the point now where family think I'm not in and don't bother knocking sometimes..

I would contact the police too. It's creepy. At least have them log it in case it escalates. Do you know the other neighbours to talk to? Does he do the same to anyone else or just you? I wouldn't sleep well at night with him around! Surely your family should take notice of you not him. I would also make sure my curtains are closed at night when you have the lights on. As someone suggested have you got a male relative / friend who could have a word. Wait until he has one of your parcels so they can knock for it rather than a confrontation on its own? It's not normal behaviour!

I was thinking this. My elderly ndn has early dementia and often waits for me, when he hears me arriving home and wants to interact.

Big sign saying:
Neighbour is batshit. I am home. Do not leave anything with neighbour please?

3rd person to pick up on this. Aren't you bored?

As the thread gets more traction today they'll be loads of posters giving you a telling off for your lack of reading comprehension

Best put your hard had on

This ^

Just put a note on your door saying not to leave parcels with neighbour. And tell family to always knock regardless.

Or get the post deleted 😆

this seems at least something to stop parcels being delivered there. also are the courier drivers regulars ? if so just chat to them one time and say please never drop at no xx.
otherwise not sure what else you can do, maybe a formal letter ?

Nah, where's the fun for us watching the poster getting more and more annoyed in that?! 😂

Edited as there's been an apology

It literally says in the OP that they've already done this...

You’ve tried reasonable and it has not worked.

I’d fight fire with fire. Set up scary male relatives to visit and when neighbour talks shit they confront him, “She’s not in? Interesting! She just called and explained that she is in but she has a weird neighbour who claims she is not. Why would you do that? “

Deliveries - go out with your phone camera on record and say , “Hi there. I’m just collecting evidence of neighbour harassment- what has he told you?”.

If it doesn’t stop I would take video evidence to the police.

Personally, I would opt for having parcels delivered to a collection point, I could not be arsed with having to ask the neighbour for anything he had taken in nor would I want to converse with him based on what you’ve described in the OP.

As for family and friends…….surely they know what he is like by now?

We have a doorbell ( not a camera type ) that has a range of 50 metres. The push button is on our door permanently but the chime unit can be anywhere in the house or garden………so we hear when visitors call. Your neighbour is obviously a curtain twitcher with nothing better to do……..perhaps a chat with your local neighbourhood community policing team is called for. The neighbour might be lonely but he is making a bloody nuisance of himself and does sound rather overbearing in his attitude to you.

Perhaps try not to be so condescending in future ?

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Do you have space for a parcel box? Put on delivery instructions "do not deliver to number xx, he does not give me the parcels"

Is he elderly? Does he sit and curtain twitch or does he just come out when he hears knocking?

She has.

I agree with note in your door saying you are in and knock and wait as you are WFH.

Also I think you can get WiFi enhancer things which may help you get the WiFi down stairs or you could buy an extra long Ethernet cable and another router and connect them?

Did you even at least read the TITLE of this post? Fucks sake.

OP he’s a nosy fucker at best, total creep at worst.

Very bad advice. Contact the police.

Yes definitely make it clear on the “where can we leave your parcel” section of any orders that they’re categorically not to leave with neighbour due to harassment. You need to tell him again (maybe verbally and in writing and keep a copy of the letter with the date on) that you are feeling harassed by him and that you don’t want him to speak to you, your visitors, or take in your parcels. I’d also start a diary and record everything going forwards.

Get a wifi extender. That should solve the problem.

As for your neighbor, put a sign on the door or perhaps get legal advice. What happens if the parcels get delivered to him, does he keep them? In that case you can report him for theft.

If you order stuff on Amazon you can get it delivered to an Amazon locker nearby.

Lose your shit at Neighbour. Tell him that it has to stop immediately or you will report him to the police for stalking and coersive behaviour. Make notes on all parcels that they are to be delivered to you only or to parcel lockers only.
*Neighbour probably doesn’t like noises upstairs like ppl going up and down stairs. I think you should start walking in heels up and down to check your mailbox.

Yeah, note one the door, delivery note on all orders 'Do not deliver to Weird Neighbour'