Anyone have any idea how I can stop my neighbour from doing this when I have already tried talking to him?

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My neighbour keeps doing something and it's got to the point where he's actually doing my head in now because he doesn't need to be doing it and two he won't explain why he is.. I have spoken to him but it's still happening..

Family came round to my flat once and knocked on the door, As I was walking down the stairs to answer I heard my neighbour come out of his flat and say 'She never answers her door can I give her a message?' Thought it was odd as I opened the door but didn't really think anything of it, Until it happened again. Basically if he ever sees anyone knock at my door he will go out and tell them I never answer the door.. I do answer the door and I'm not sure why he thinks I don't so I spoke to him about it and he refused to talk to me about it and closed his door.

Now over the last month I have not been getting any parcels delivered, ALL of them have been delivered to neighbour, I have never ticked the box to say deliver to neighbour and I am always in as I work from home, I just get notification that parcels have been delivered then when I check he has them.

Managed to catch dpd driver today handing neighbour my parcel so I asked in front of neighbour why he keeps delivering my stuff to my neighbour when I'm at home and he's not even knocking on my door, dpd guy said my neighbour always comes out and either tells him i'm not in or I never answer the door.

Anyone have any ideas on how to stop my neighbour from saying this? It's gone passed being strange for me and it's now starting to piss me off. I have lived here with zero issues for ten years, he moved in a year ago. We live in flats but each have our own front doors so I have no idea why he is even near mine at all to be doing this in the first place, it's not a communal entrance.

for the record I do answer my door when people knock and I have no idea why he thinks i don't.. It's at the point now where family think I'm not in and don't bother knocking sometimes..

Ok. So I will caveat I am not a lawyer or police but I work in safeguarding.

from what I have learned the bar for harassment without violence is about how it makes you feel. Key word is “in fear”.

i would report it. As stalking and harassment and I would also make the point that you are living in fear of this escalating and becoming violent, and you are concerned he is developing an obsession with you.

i am sure there is something about preventing “reasonable enjoyment” of your property as well.

probably worth a call and asking for an appointment to talk it through.

Yes this. At the least it’s causing you a nuisance, at worst it’s a form of harassment or even slander, and theft as he is taking your parcels.

Are the people in your life aware of what's happening?

Have you spoken to the police?

I think you need to take this really seriously. Men are statistically dangerous unfortunately, and this one is escalating his harassing and inappropriate behaviour. He lives next to you, knows your comings and goings.

Agree with contacting police. Tell everyone to ignore the neighbour and message you instead when they arrive. For the post and parcels arrange a collection point pick up. Get a door wedge for your front door so the door can’t be opened when you’re at home. Get cameras inside to monitor your place when you’re out. I’d say to check for hidden listening devices/cameras etc if you have a connecting wall or if he’s ever had access. I know this sounds OTT

Is it worth contacting SS/police and asking them to do an adult welfare check?

If he has personal circumstances that mean he could use their assistance, all to the good; and if he isn't vulnerable at all but just horrible, it might just give him a long pause for thought that what he's doing is really not normal or acceptable.

Not wanting to be ageist, but I could maybe imagine a well-meaning but overbearing elderly neighbour potentially doing this kind of thing; but at 30, it's very likely either MH issues or otherwise a nasty person with sinister intent.

Does he not work, if he's around all the time with nothing better to do than lie to your visitors and delivery people and steal your parcels?

I don't suppose you have a glass panel in your door or an adjacent window, do you, OP?

I agree that he will just tear down any sign that's stuck on the outside, but I presume that he wouldn't go as far as actually breaking your windows?

Even if he did go that far, it would then become a police matter and his stalking and harassing behaviour would come to light and (we would hope) action taken - it's not like there wouldn't be enough witnesses to it if he intercepts and tells everybody who comes to your door the same lie.

It is an offence for a person, intentionally and without lawful authority, to intercept any communication in course of its transmission by post (section 3(1)(a(iii) of the Investigatory Powers Act 2016(‘IPA’)).
Print out the law, and drop it through his letter box
That does mean that should you ever need someone to take things in, it won't be that neighbour of course

My bad!! 666 was what I meant 🙈

Good suggestion.

I don't think he would be top of OP's list for taking in parcels if actually needed, mind!

”or with the police.”
Reading is fundamental.

Notice on the door stating
I am home! DO NOT listen to my neighbour, DO NOT leave parcels or messages with him, he does NOT have my consent to act on my behalf.

This is pretty worrying behaviour. It's stalking, harassment, theft of parcels, coercive behaviour, intimidation etc. He's either mentally unwell, or trying to control you (which is abuse). I would call the police and inform whomever he is renting from. You can also inform the local authority of his behaviour and ask for a safeguarding referral. He will then be given a mental capacity assessment to find out why he is doing this.

You need a wireless mesh system or wifi extender - will sort you out

It’s weird behaviour, and if you report it to the police in an ideal world they would help you, but in my experience they are so hit and miss. As bad as it sounds if this was me I’d send in a man. DH if I wanted a diplomat, my dad if I wanted to scare him. My dad wouldn’t hurt a fly, but sometimes a scary looking man having a polite word is all it takes. Either way, make people aware. Your friends, family, delivery drivers (sometimes you can add a note for delivery instructions). Also keep a log in case he escalates.

If you could pay someone, Ring doorbells can be hardwired into your electricity so you don't need the Wi-Fi signal. Hopefully that will help. Your neighbor sounds very creepy.

I didn’t know that, thanks.

But I don’t understand why your family and friends believe him when he says you’re out, surely you’ve told them about this behaviour and to ignore him?

Yes this is the part I don’t understand

Same.

Would be good for the OP to enlighten us.

I'm a former police officer (retired 18 months ago after 30yrs)

This is harassment under The Protection From Harassment Act 1997

Yes, there are things that you can do to lessen the effects such as Ring doorbell, wi fi extender, message on parcel deliveries etc but there is NO WAY that you should be amending your lifestyle because of this man, such as using delivery lockers. You've tried to speak to him but now it's time to call on the law.

Report via 101 or online. First stage harassment warning would be police speaking to him, explaining that his course of conduct is harassment and should stop.
If he carries on he can be charged

I don't agree that "Police will do nothing" and if that's the case then you instigate the police complaints process. In my experience they'll take it seriously because it's an easy crime for them to deal with and, as others have said, it has overtones of stalking, intimidation etc which are key focus areas.
HTH

What’s your suggestion if he is a lonely old man? Is there a special way of talking to people who have become abusive because no one visits them that will stop them harassing their neighbours?

It gets trotted out every time. So annoying.

Hardwiring into the electricity supply only provides power. You need to hardwire into an Ethernet cable that runs to your wifi hub in order to get the data connection. I believe only some of the Ring doorbells allow this.

So the WiFi would still be connected then?

They may be a bit intimidated by him.