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Anyone have any idea how I can stop my neighbour from doing this when I have already tried talking to him?

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zingerdoot · 03/07/2025 22:28

My neighbour keeps doing something and it's got to the point where he's actually doing my head in now because he doesn't need to be doing it and two he won't explain why he is.. I have spoken to him but it's still happening..

Family came round to my flat once and knocked on the door, As I was walking down the stairs to answer I heard my neighbour come out of his flat and say 'She never answers her door can I give her a message?' Thought it was odd as I opened the door but didn't really think anything of it, Until it happened again. Basically if he ever sees anyone knock at my door he will go out and tell them I never answer the door.. I do answer the door and I'm not sure why he thinks I don't so I spoke to him about it and he refused to talk to me about it and closed his door.

Now over the last month I have not been getting any parcels delivered, ALL of them have been delivered to neighbour, I have never ticked the box to say deliver to neighbour and I am always in as I work from home, I just get notification that parcels have been delivered then when I check he has them.

Managed to catch dpd driver today handing neighbour my parcel so I asked in front of neighbour why he keeps delivering my stuff to my neighbour when I'm at home and he's not even knocking on my door, dpd guy said my neighbour always comes out and either tells him i'm not in or I never answer the door.

Anyone have any ideas on how to stop my neighbour from saying this? It's gone passed being strange for me and it's now starting to piss me off. I have lived here with zero issues for ten years, he moved in a year ago. We live in flats but each have our own front doors so I have no idea why he is even near mine at all to be doing this in the first place, it's not a communal entrance.

for the record I do answer my door when people knock and I have no idea why he thinks i don't.. It's at the point now where family think I'm not in and don't bother knocking sometimes..

OP posts:
Middlechild3 · 04/07/2025 07:57

You can add comments in the delivery notes for online orders. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LEAVE WITH MALE NEIGHBOUR WHATEVER HE SAYS etc

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 04/07/2025 08:00

I feel he is doing this for two reasons:

  • to isolate you
  • to force you to contact him to retrieve your parcels and have an excuse to talk to you

OP I would be very wary of him and I would report him to whoever is his landlord.

Can you make a Claire’s law request?

LemonNLime · 04/07/2025 08:00

zingerdoot · 03/07/2025 22:33

i have tried a few different ones but unfortauntely I can't get a connection to any of them, the wif doesn't seem to reach down my stairs. i wish I could have one because it would solve this isuue

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If you have a plug at the bottom of your stairs or near your front door, you could try a WiFi range extender. It should solve this issue.

xhines · 04/07/2025 08:01

@Cherrysoupyour apology is not enough! They want blood! Mistakes are not allowed on MN! Didn’t you know? Have a lovely day and ignore this lot x

MsPug · 04/07/2025 08:03

@RandomMess i hate that we have to resort to this kind of thing but also glad that we can - what a quandary 😂

Spanador · 04/07/2025 08:06

Cherrysoup · 04/07/2025 05:21

Why don't you rtft? I already said I was sorry for missing that. Ffs.

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I like that you are getting annoyed at people not reading the whole thread, when you couldn't even be bothered to read the title and one post before making a sarcastic comment

DancefloorAcrobatics · 04/07/2025 08:09

This can be classed as harassment. Please report to the police. Even if they do nothing, having it on record can be useful in the long run. I would also tell him that you have reported him for theft and harassment - once you have done it.

I agree, it's creepy, theft and totally out of order! I also think it's highly possible that he uses your name & address for fraudulent/ illegal activityes.

Imisscoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 08:12

Maybe ring doorbell even if it doesn't work he thinks it's there so might amend his batshit behaviour, and a laminated notice on your door saying parcels not to be left with any neighbour and to please wait for a moment and door will be answered.

He sounds like he wants micro interactions with you on his terms.

W0tnow · 04/07/2025 08:12

Strongly worded note under his door.

IAmUsingTheApplauseReactionSarcastically · 04/07/2025 08:13

xhines · 04/07/2025 08:01

@Cherrysoupyour apology is not enough! They want blood! Mistakes are not allowed on MN! Didn’t you know? Have a lovely day and ignore this lot x

In many circs I’d agree but if you can’t get your facts straight while being a keyboard warrior I’m afraid this is the inevitable consequence…

DeemonLlama · 04/07/2025 08:22

As others have said you can pre-warn any expected visitors to ignore him. You could add clear delivery instructions to anything you order DO NOT deliver to neighbour next door please. As others said big clear laminated note on door! You could get a booster for your WiFi to see if that helps with a signal for Ring doorbell? You could also try putting together a polite but firm and clearly worded letter asking him to stop and explain this is stressful for you and is having a negative impact on your life. If he won't talk to you he might read a letter if you put it through his door? You could call the police and make a nuisance complaint, they might not do anything but you never know they might come and hav a word? Especially if things get worse it might be good to have it on record anyway as he sounds like he might have mental health issues perhaps? Might not solve all the issues but might get most of them?

Utterlyconfusednow · 04/07/2025 08:24

ScreamingBeans · 04/07/2025 01:44

Use your eyes. She wrote that she has already done that.

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Right? ‘Use your words’ is so patronising and should only be used from an adult to a child.

Rosscameasdoody · 04/07/2025 08:26

Cherrysoup · 03/07/2025 22:46

Here’s an idea: go speak to him and ask why the FUCK he keeps intercepting parcels and talking shite about you never answering the door! Use your words.

Here’s another idea. Read the thread. He refuses to discuss it when she tries.

Chocolation · 04/07/2025 08:26

It sounds to mw like dementia if he’s repeating the exact same line to wveryone that comes to the door. He’s stuck in a loop and trying to be helpful but not remembering it isn’t helpful. I would try writing a note so he has it in writing to remind him not to do it. Or to pin instructions not to answer the door on the inside of you communal door.

mildlydispeptic · 04/07/2025 08:29

This is creepy AF, OP. I think the best thing is to do a bunch of admin (1) as pp said make sure your delivery instructions are super clear (2) tell close friends and family about the situation to make sure they’re aware (3) yes to the sign on the door saying please knock loudly, do not leave parcels with neighbour (4) keep a log of dates when he does this (5) potentially send a printed letter to him, tracked so he has to sign for it so he can’t deny receiving it, saying ‘you have done the following, (dates, actions). I did not ask or authorise you to do this. I am asking you to stop intercepting my deliveries and to stop interacting with visitors to my home. Then you have a record. Possibly rinse and repeat, at which point it might be easier to follow up with police.

SunDash · 04/07/2025 08:34

Sounds like stalking behaviour or harassment.

Rosscameasdoody · 04/07/2025 08:34

zingerdoot · 03/07/2025 22:33

i have tried a few different ones but unfortauntely I can't get a connection to any of them, the wif doesn't seem to reach down my stairs. i wish I could have one because it would solve this isuue

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OP we had similar issues - Ring and a couple of others wouldn’t connect. We were recommended a Blink doorbell - we have a plug socket in the hallway, a few feet from the front door and plugged in a WiFi extender and the Blink doorbell works perfectly with it. Maybe this would solve the problem.

Alternatively, maybe a cease and desist letter from a solicitor would be appropriate as it would send the message that you’re serious and will take things further if he doesn’t stop.

pipkinsatlunchtime · 04/07/2025 08:38

FumingTRex · 03/07/2025 23:11

I would be concerned that he is ordering illegal items in your name. So he is intercepting the parcels to intercept those ordered by him.

Oh that’s a thought..

JustFeedMeCake · 04/07/2025 08:38

That’s awful and very controlling. I would put up a laminated sign along the lines of ignore the (crazy) neighbour.

PulchritudinousLycanthrope · 04/07/2025 08:39

I would go to the police and report it as theft & Harassment and let them deal with him.

SprayWhiteDung · 04/07/2025 08:42

If what he is saying were true - that you never answer your door, even to friends and family whom you are expecting - what on earth would be the point in them leaving your parcels with a creepy neighbour?

How would he ever get them to you, unless he breaks in or something?

I second the suggestion about a laminated sign, warning people to ignore him. He seems to think that he's LARPing the second troll in the old riddle where one of them always tells the truth and the other one always lies.

diddl · 04/07/2025 08:45

dpd guy said my neighbour always comes out and either tells him i'm not in or I never answer the door.

Hopefully you told him that you are there so ignore neighbour & knock on the door!

Perhaps you just need a note saying that you are in & please knock!

Flyswats · 04/07/2025 08:48

@Wildhorsesdraggedme That story has made my blood run cold. Can I ask you, was there a trigger event or conversation between you and this weird neighbor that started him off by any chance?

It sounds like he is completely obsessed.

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 04/07/2025 08:52

What a weirdo. I can sort of understand if he's doing it thinking this is a classic rom-com way of getting to talk to the neighbour he fancies but at the point where an interaction with the neighbour is actually happening and said neighbour says "why do you keep intercepting my parcels and visitors?" , things are not going in the right direction, are they.

So. Note on door "Please DO NOT deliver to neighbour. Any parcels delivered to neighbour will be reported lost / stolen"
In the delivery instructions, depending how much space they give you "I am in. DO NOT deliver to neighbour, he is a thief" (or stalker, or weirdo, or scares me, or whatever you like)
All visitors primed to expect the weirdo neighbour and his weirdo ways. Bonus points for anyone willing to say to him "I just got off the pbone to her, she's definitely in. What business is it of yours anyway?" (Fantasy reaction:"Oh thanks, would you give her this note?" and they pull out a piece of paper, write "yeah you were right, the fucking weirdo DID stop me to say you weren't in. Go to plan B!" and fold it in half 😁 )

Tomatocutwithazigzagedge · 04/07/2025 08:53

Send yourself an empty package, slightly too large for your door. Write a message on the outer packaging saying "Dear XXX, Stop ignoring my requests on Intercepting my packages, it's creepy and invasive!"

You've lived there for years, he's lived there for one, I don't think you should be the one to upend your life and move.