Very short boyfriend

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My boyfriend is very short, really short, about 4 in shorter than me and I'm not exceptionally tall.

In every other way he is perfect for me and he loves me in a way that makes me feel secure like no one else ever has. His height doesn't bother me when we're alone together, but in public or with friends it is all a bit uncomfortable. He likes to show affection and will put an arm around my shoulders or hold my hand and it's all feels a bit awkward, because he can't reach or it feels like holding a child's hand. Even a quick peck is weird because he can't really reach.

Alone together on the sofa, or in bed it couldn't be better!

What's the solution?

And you should tell him you're feeling awkward so he can find someone to be with who isn't. He can't help this.

It’s the usual MN double standard. If a man posted about his partner being overweight, or not pretty enough, or too short, for that matter, there would be hell to pay.

He can't help his height, but he could help find ways to be affectionate that feel less awkward. E.g. putting his arm around my waist or kissing my shoulder, which actually he does do sometimes.

Two of my friends were very firmly in the "I couldn't take a man shorter than me" camp.

Then they both met their husband, two of the nicest guys in the world. Fell in love and no longer care.

If his height is your only problem, your doing well.

This sounds like it might be a worrying about what other people think problem?
I am one of those women who is attracted pretty much exclusively to tall men. I’m very average height and every partner I’ve ever had has been at least 8 inches taller than me. I don’t worry too much about trying to analyse why that is. But you know what? I think there’s something really quite sexy about a couple where she’s taller than he is and they are clearly super into each other. Maybe it’s just that it’s obvious there’s something a little bit different about their attraction? It’s not playing on the old dynamic of the man being physically bigger and stronger. The attraction is based on something else. Maybe they just exude confidence?
What I’m saying is, if you are both into each other then people will see that and think ´they look good together’ and not ´she’s too tall for him’.

I didn't say he was too short, I said there are some things that feel awkward because of his height.

I'm completely smitten in a way I haven't been for 30 years. He's not unattractive to me at all, there are just some movements that feel a bit odd because it's not what I'm used to, and yes, I guess I'm wondering if we look odd together to others. (Which many here would think we do)

Yes, I think that's probably true. We are an odd couple, for a number of reasons actually, and I suspect people are saying it won't last, but I really do think we're good together, except this slight awkwardness in public.

I'm a shy person who doesn't like attention generally and being "different" draws attention, which is probably one of the reasons I feel uncomfortable.

I'm 5ft 11, 6ft 1 or even 2 in heels. I've dated morr men of average height (5ft 8/9) than I have men taller than me, because there are more of them than there are men taller than me But I don't care what other people think or how we look to anyone else. You do, OP. That's your only problem, and it's a sign of insecurity.

You're not a tall woman, so average height men will be taller than you.So, theoretically, should be easy to replace your lovely bf with someone taller. But only taller..Not as good a match for you in amy other way, possibly.
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Either work on your insecurities and caring how you two look in photos or in public ( that's extremely shallow and insecure,to me)
Or end it with him and risk being treated badly by one of the many taller,but much less decent,men out there.
Huge risk, but that's often the price of superficiality based on out dated , patriarchical gender rules that are easy to discard if you're a mature, secure , aware adult.

How do you feel about PDAs in general? Lots of people don't like them, so that's not wrong necessarily. But, if you are in any way ashamed of being with this guy, have a word with yourself. If you imagine you've broken up with him, and someone else has him - how does that feel?

You might feel awkward but honestly most people don't care about you. They're too busy thinking about themselves.

Fair enough, but a man saying the same thing couldn’t hope to get the same proportion of supportive comments that you have.

lol he’s not that short like Kylie Minogue! He’s 5’5”

This has been supportive? 🤣

The bulk of replies have been supportive, or at least agreeing with you, yes.

@LasciviousGoogle images of him and Taylor swift together 😅 one of my favourite pass times

Remember to say this on a thread where a man is struggling with same issues for his GF 🙄

I just did. Then I googled ‘does Bruno Mars have dwarfism’ as the photo made him look like he does. Anyway, he doesn’t.

Exactly.

My DH is 5 ft 4. It bothered me mildly for the first, ooh, week but then I got over myself and never give it a second thought. Been very happy together for 15 years.

Poor wee man

Maybe men should just stay off these threads on a predominantly female platform instead of winding themselves up then. Women are allowed to have double standards you know, it’s not the worst thing a person can do or anything, and if they want to discuss these things, they have every right to. If you don’t like it, maybe try a forum that isn’t mainly women. There is so much of this double standard bs on here now, it’s getting really tedious.

Women are allowed to have double standards
Not sure how this approach is ever going to help women resolve issues but go off 😳

I'm 5'8" so in heels would look like a giantess next to a man of 5'2". People would call us little and large 😂

I'm 5'8" so in heels would look like a giantess next to a man of 5'2". People would call us little and large 😂

I'm 5'8" so in heels would look like a giantess next to a man of 5'2". People would call us little and large 😂

I'm 5'8" so in heels would look like a giantess next to a man of 5'2". People would call us little and large 😂