Very short boyfriend

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My boyfriend is very short, really short, about 4 in shorter than me and I'm not exceptionally tall.

In every other way he is perfect for me and he loves me in a way that makes me feel secure like no one else ever has. His height doesn't bother me when we're alone together, but in public or with friends it is all a bit uncomfortable. He likes to show affection and will put an arm around my shoulders or hold my hand and it's all feels a bit awkward, because he can't reach or it feels like holding a child's hand. Even a quick peck is weird because he can't really reach.

Alone together on the sofa, or in bed it couldn't be better!

What's the solution?

how’s the length and girth downstairs tho

Tom Holland and Zendaya - haven’t they just got engaged after being a couple for quite a few years now?

I'm 5 11" and find a lot of men are put off by my height, even the tall ones!

I am 5’ 3 and DH is the same height. Society is so weird about men’s height. As a short woman, I have never really paid that much attention but even when I was younger if I said I liked a guy who happened to be short, someone would say ‘he is short though’ and I did have some random comments when I first started seeing DH.

I don’t really care what others think when it comes to who I find attractive and I think everyone is entitled to their own preferences in who they date. But people then projecting that onto other people (so judging others for dating short men) is weird, like any man under a certain height doesn’t deserve a relationship.

Anyway, it seems like you’re embarrassed to be seen with him in public/uncomfortable with him. So I’d say not a good relationship and best to end it!

He's a fine specimen, with staying power too 😆

Shallow of me but I can’t date short men
my DH is 6ft 3 and I love that he is tall

shortest would be around 5ft -10 - 6ft if I was dating as with heels I’m around 5ft 8

but I don’t think it’s any different than men saying they won’t date fat , skinny tall women

we are all allowed our preferences and we can’t help what we like

I think you’re possibly using the word ‘uncomfortable’ when you actually mean embarrassed? Or if not, what - precisely - is uncomfortable about it? (So that you can analyse your own thoughts)

if it is embarrassment, then I don’t think it would be fair on him for you to continue the relationship. What if it slipped out that you’re embarrassed to be seen with him? That would be so horrible for him.

Cuban heels?

Maybe, but I'm not embarrassed to be seen with him, not at all, I'm actually very proud to be out with him, he's someone with much more presence than his height suggests and he's warm and chatty with all sorts of people.

I feel uncomfortable/embarrassed when the physical contact is uncomfortable. For example in a photo of us with his arm around my shoulders, he looks uncomfortable and unnatural and that's how it feels at the time.

A good friend of mine's DH is 5'1". She's around 6 inches taller. It doesn't bother them or their friends - why should it? I'd hope that you will get more comfortable with it as time goes on.

But if you really don't think you will then I would end it now.

It's ok to find it a turn-off. It's not shallow to find tall people more attractive than short.

all those guys are super rich / powerful or both
none of them are particularly attractive Tom Cruise is probably the exception but I don’t find him attractive myself

Super rich men don’t get a problem dating anyone
a super rich man could be as ugly as a donkeys ass - 4ft 11 inches tall and obese and have a vile personality and will still get women throwing themselves at him because he’s rich and powerful

if those men above were not wealthy and or powerful they would have far far less success with these “gorgeous” women

My DP is only 5ft 5". He's just the right height to cuddle, especially as he's a cuddly physique as well. 😜 I don't mind as I'm only half an inch taller anyway.

You thought it was significant enough to make a thread about it.

You said in more than one post how it was bothering you in making you feel awkward about his height in public.

Not sure why you're getting pissy at someone suggesting you dump him if you're so bothered by his height in public where YOU feel awkward aka embarrassed but you feel fine the rest of the time - where other people don't see you both and the height difference.

Dump him or get over it.

I'm not sure where you're getting "pissy" from. I came here to discuss one small aspect of an otherwise good relationship, that is bothering me.

Yes, I need to get over it, that's what I wanted to talk about.

I do tend to agree, but the women involved are often wealthy and successful their own right and could have their pick of other successful men.

It is a personal thing and I am not sure how you can get over it. Maybe instead of trying to avoid it you embrace it and try to get any cringe out of the way and then you might find in the future it doesn't bother you as much.
I am a short arse but have always gone for men 6ft plus - I think the shortest I have gone for is 5ft11 - you like what you like. That said, hearing Tom Hardy is short - would possibly persuade me . Is Rod Stewart short or is that Penny is very tall?

Edit Rod is 5ft10 so not particularly short and she is 6ft1

Can you get him interested in 1970s men’s fashion footwear?

The only solution is to do him a favour and leave him. How would you feel if he did the same to you about weight or glasses or hairstyle. Yeah yeah you love him but can't deal with him touching you in public.

Grow the fuck up.

Sophie Dahl is much taller than her husband Jamie Cullen(?) and Tina Fey is inches taller than her husband. I know it may be different for rich celebrities. It’s one if those things we haven’t quite de-stereotyped (men must be taller). I have though seen big height differences several times in my own home city.

I did go out with someone for several years who was the same height as me (5’6”) which is quite short for a guy but had he been shorter, well I honestly don’t know how I would feel.

You are not bothered by his height? You bloody are. You are awkward in public and say holding his hand feels like a child’s! If thats not being bothered by his height, I dont know what is.

You should tell your boyfriend and see how he reacts. That’ll probably solve the problem for you.

No one is queuing up for Elon Musk so there’s always an exception 😆

Well he seems to have plenty of women willing to have his kids....

He knows.

I'm not bothered by his height alone, but we don't fit together physically in the way I'm used to. I'm looking for a way to overcome that, is all. At home it's by sitting or lying down.

I think they’re mostly made in a lab.