Very short boyfriend

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My boyfriend is very short, really short, about 4 in shorter than me and I'm not exceptionally tall.

In every other way he is perfect for me and he loves me in a way that makes me feel secure like no one else ever has. His height doesn't bother me when we're alone together, but in public or with friends it is all a bit uncomfortable. He likes to show affection and will put an arm around my shoulders or hold my hand and it's all feels a bit awkward, because he can't reach or it feels like holding a child's hand. Even a quick peck is weird because he can't really reach.

Alone together on the sofa, or in bed it couldn't be better!

What's the solution?

If you were really into him I don't think you'd be embarrassed about it. I don't know what kind of suggestions you're looking for. He either stops showing you physical affection in public or you get over it. He can't change his height.

I genuinely think there is something quite sexy about a couple where the woman is taller... Like I think the bloke must be really rich or amazing in bed! Like big dick vibes!

If you are embarrassed to be seen with him in public then he's not the one for you. He can't do anything about his height so I can't see this working long term.

I have found that short guys seem to have fabulous voices, which for some reason is attractive to me

Oh, interesting because you should hear him sing!

Yes, I'd like to get over it.

It's a weird thing where men are accused of all kinds of misogyny for having physical preferences in a partner.

But for women, it's not judgement but some kind of emotional turmoil they're being subjected to.

If you're bothered by his height then dump him. There's no need for hand-wringing about it.

This makes me so sad. DS is very small and the thought of him really struggling to find a partner because of it is really upsetting.

He sounds great but it would be easier if you were both short :)

I would just lean into it. Accept him for what he is, do the PDA and you’ll either get used to it or it will be so intolerable that you’ll have to end it. It wouldn’t be a problem for me and I’m taller than you.

I'm not bothered by his height, I'm bothered by some awkwardness in certain situations.

I'm not going to dump him and I'm not handwriting.

Same, yes incredibly shallow but I wouldn't look at them as a partner. I'm 5'4 and would look tall especially in a pair of heels next to them and it would give me the ick.

just looked at photos of Penny and Rod, looks like she embraces it ? Maybe you have to double down on the situation

It shouldn’t matter, but for the vast majority of women it does.

Also Bernie Ecclestone and Slavica what's her name.... Tom Cruise & Nicole Kidman.... Nicolas Sarkozy & Carla Bruni, the king of Jordan and his wife. most very wealthy men & their model girlfriends.

Yes it's not ideal, but surely you can see beyond height. It's like when men go bald, most people don't PREFER a bald guy, but you can overlook this for the right person!

I just think keep PDAs to when you are both sitting down - eg hand on knee, kissing when sitting on friends sofas etc. The height difference will be less then.
Don't wear heels... and maybe if he holds you round the waist?

Arm round waist rather than shoulders? Tuck your hand into his arm rather than holding hands? (Although most men seem to be fine holding women's smaller hands without worrying about a childish aspect.) I think if you place his hands and arms where you want them you can be physically close in a comfortable way.

If you are uncomfortable with PDAs say so. But if you know that it's more about his height, then focus on why you like/love him.

It's not about how you look to others. What other people think is none of your business and should not be a reason to end a relationship IMO.

Here is someone who has your attention for right reasons. That's the important thing. Make sure you enjoy the relationship.

Op if you really liked /love him none of this would matter to you.

However i kinda know where your coming from in a way i once dated a man that was lovely but he was small.
Not as in short as every one is taller than me im 4foot11.
He was to skinny i like big men its my type big proper burly men not skinny or jym freaks just normal manly man a bit of stubble on the face hairy chest.
I had to end it with him so he could find someone that really loved him thank god it was just a few months with him 3 months all together.
Id role over in the nights and it was like oh where did he go i wanted to role over and know that hes there.
Tall but tiny if you know what i mean tiny head hands far to skinny for me and hated a hairy chest and stubble.

The only things I can do are short and/or bald

Hand-wringing by definition is excessive display of concern or distress.

You made a post on an Internet forum about it because you're concerned about feeling awkward about your apparently lovely BF being shorter than you and you feel awkward and mentioned his small hands making you feel even more awkward.

So my advice stands. Dump him or stop hand-wringing about his stature and small hands and how it makes you feel.

I didn't mention his small hands, that was a PP. I said how good he is with his handson response!

There are 100s of threads a day here that aren't about anything very significant.

To be honest I'd be more turned off by too much taller than me, or a smoker, or who wasn't clean, or who didn't have a straight nose.

Your DS might have less choice but attraction is so arbitrary he's not going to be without love.

Wow. Can see from the replies here that when I've told young men that Andrew Tate's stuff about women insisting on tall men is rubbish, I've been wrong. There are women out there who are that shallow.

Everyone has personal preferences when it comes to who they fancy. And they aren't chosen, they're innate.

Just make sure he's athletic. I think a small man who is manly/muscular or just generally athletic is fine, and sexy. What you want to avoid is small and weedy.

Yep unfortunately true
I was watching one of these internet dating shows . Many of the woman turned down a perfectly lovely , handsome man because they said he was ‘too short’ .
He was 6 ft