Very short boyfriend

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My boyfriend is very short, really short, about 4 in shorter than me and I'm not exceptionally tall.

In every other way he is perfect for me and he loves me in a way that makes me feel secure like no one else ever has. His height doesn't bother me when we're alone together, but in public or with friends it is all a bit uncomfortable. He likes to show affection and will put an arm around my shoulders or hold my hand and it's all feels a bit awkward, because he can't reach or it feels like holding a child's hand. Even a quick peck is weird because he can't really reach.

Alone together on the sofa, or in bed it couldn't be better!

What's the solution?

Then you just have to accept him as he is and deal with it. Or he's not right for you.

Yes, thanks. I was asking for experiences of how that might be achieved.

Well what solutions has he suggested?

It can't be if you're embarrassed by him in public.

That's all about you and your attitude.

What do you want people to say? Have him stand on a stool or not touch you in public because you're embarrassed?

My son is 6’1 and he prefers tall girls as he likes to be around eye level to talk to them when they're walking around together.

I think there's something quite hot about it when both people in the couple are comfortable in their skin and really into the other person.

Lean into it and own it!

Dh is 5.7 and I’m 5.5. Height never bothered me although my ex was 6.4 but recently he’s lost weight and looks tiny I don’t like it.

all you can do is say you are not keen on PDA?

I can think of three short men I know who are probably shorter than they claim (5’4’’ - 5’6’’) and it doesn’t matter as they are all big characters, sure of themselves and quite sporty and manly.

Personally I’m not keen on skinny or effeminate types so a small man would put me off more than a short man although your guy sounds particularly short.

I’m not sure how you get past it tbh as he’s not going to grow and as he gets older he will shrink (my dad did!)

Maybe you could stretch him or make him wear heels? Seriously, you don't like him, let him go. There will be other women out there who aren't ashamed to be seen with him.

Honestly, it's something you either have to work through yourself or you end the relationship. He can't help being short, it's something that's completely out of his hands. I am 5ft 2 and I like tall men, over 6ft ideally! An ex of mine is 6ft 5 and lean, we used to get comments from strangers due to the height difference.

My goodness, if he's great in bed got a decent length AND girth and treats you well, you'd be crazy to let him go! I've just looked up Bob Hoskins RIP and his height is quoted between 5'3" and 5'6". To me he was a perfect looking man. So cute and sexy. I like bald too.

I don’t think there’s a way around it. You just have to get used to behaving in the appropriate way for your respective heights rather than your gender roles. He puts his arm around your waist, not your shoulder. You lean down to kiss him. You put your arm around his shoulder.

I don’t think you should only be physically affectionate when sitting down!

Or lift him up and give him a great big kiss. Get a bit of weight training as a bonus.

If the hand holding doesn't work while you're out and about, maybe try using a lead or something?

🤔 is your boyfriend Woozi from seventeen? If so lucky 👌

My friend went out with a guy shorter than her and never wore heals whilst she was dating him. She also got a bit funny if they were standing on a slope - she would make sure she stood on the lower side of it. Not an everyday problem tbf but happened more than you would think lol

Find a way to embrace it!

The number of decent men around is decreasing by the minute! Don’t end up regretting getting rid of a great man due to his height - because he’s probably gold dust (albeit a smaller piece than usual 😂)!

Imagine him being with someone else (who’s also taller). How do you feel? Relieved…? Or kicking yourself for letting him go?

If you find him attractive then I can’t really see why it is a problem.

I'm not going to let him go, I absolutely recognise this as my problem.

I've tried putting my arm round his shoulder, so he has to go waist, but he doesn't seem to like that, maybe for the same reasons, as it draws attention to the height difference.

I'll have to have a proper chat about it.

I've got a DP who's 4 inches shorter than me. Yes it is a bit awkward in public but honestly he is the best thing to ever happen to me relationship-wise so I am glad I didn't let it put me off. Nearly 30 years together now, it really doesn't matter!

Get rid of him.

Be sure to book your thread on here for 10 years time to moan about it when his replacement although ticks the vital box of being 6 inches taller turns out to be a crap life partner.

My son is 6’2 and his girlfriend 5’0. They look quite comical together.

I agree with all of this. You like what you like. I am also tall and it made me very miserable in my 20s and early 30s because it meant there were a lot of really nice, kind, clever, attractive men who I just could not generate any kind of chemistry for. I did find my big spoon eventually.

I never thought I could do short men but my new fella is 5.6 and I'm about 5.8. I can tell I'm taller than him but it doesn't bother me at all. He's yum