A thread for those who don’t have friends in real life.

[Showmethefood]

Hi everyone,

I don’t know how to start this thread, so we’ll just go with being plain honest! I’m in my 30s and I don’t have any friends in real life! Of course I have acquaintances/people I can chat to if at certain events - but no real life friends 🙈

It’s really hard to feel accepted for who you are sometimes, and so many of us have to alter our personalities to try and fit into the work environment (or even to fit in with our families). So, I wanted to start a thread for all those who don’t have friends in real life. A place where people can come and leave updates on how their day has gone, how they are feeling, what their interests and hobbies are, and just have a good chat!

So, a little about me:
Im married and have a teenager.
I have a gorgeous cocker spaniel.
Ive almost (one year left) completed my degree in psychology and counselling.
I have just written my first children’s book and am currently in the process of self publishing it.
Im starting a new job in a school this Friday.

Please feel free to join and let’s keep this thread a safe place where we can (hopefully) begin to make some friends and not feel so alone. ❤️

Hi there,
Male mid 50's married, but no freinds to speak of. Again I have Acquaintances/ work colleagues. This due to felling socially awkward even around family so I just find it easier this way.
I have 3 Border Collies and compete with them at Flyball comps.
Well done for starting this thread.

Hi @Slawit 👋 Nice to meet you. My husband and I considered getting a collie before we had our spaniel. There was one who needed rehoming - he was a sheepdog but was scared of sheep!! ❤️ We thought he sounded lovely but he was too far away from us. Dogs make lovely friends, don't they? 😊

Hello!
I’ve done bugger all today- just lazed around my now tidy bedroom! Read my book, baking some bread. Lovely 🥰

Hi @notnorman What kind of genres do you like to read? Personally I love the classics, and reading children’s books I used to read when I was young. I tell myself it’s ok because I like to write for children, but really it just makes me feel lovely and nostalgic 😊

Yes, they are hard work though, specially around feeding time.

Genuine question: how do people who don’t make friends meet a husband/partner?

Hi @ArcticBells Good Question! I met my husband at a church event. We liked the way each other looked, had a brief chat, he asked me out on a date and the rest is history 😂

Hi Showmethefood
With all your activities it doesn’t sound like you have time for friends.

@Slawit Good point 😂I do have the odd day where things are a little quieter ....I'm one of those people who are quite shy until I get to know people.

I have a few friends but two live 100s of miles away and it’s rare I see the other so day to day I do feel very friendless. We text and call everyday but it gets lonely having any friends to do things with day to day.

My teen is always out living her life. I met my partner on Tinder but he works a lot.

Hi @BlondeMummyto1 welcome to the thread. I hear what you're saying about teenagers. My teens social life puts me to shame 😂

Late 50s, no partner, no children, no friends. 1 sibling who hasn't spoken to me in decades.

Hi @BillieNoM888 , welcome to the thread. Sorry to hear things are difficult. Do you have any hobbies that you like to engage in?

Thanks, but things aren't difficult. Happy in my own company, but I do wonder what is wrong with me.

I have a question, please. If you are married, is your husband or wife not your friend? My husband is genuinely my best friend, my closest companion.
This is not a criticism, it's a genuine query. Thank you.

There's nothing wrong with you. It's probably just circumstances. I'm glad you're happy in your own company though.

I'm 43 with no partner but 2 children and a lovely dog. I don't have any other family nearby. I love the gym and walking my dog.

Mid 50s, I have some friends but they’re far away, with sporadic contact really.

That combined with a tough 18 months means no job, no interactions really at the moment.

🎻

Hi @RanyaJerodung welcome :) Yes my husband is my friend and technically he is the closest person to me emotionally. We get on well and enjoy spending time together. Unlike me though he does go out to hobbies groups etc and meets others there. Whereas, I find going out to groups really hard - I get nervous and struggle to go to places with new people I don't know. Hence why I find making new friends difficult. 😅

@BillieNoM888 I’m sure there is nothing wrong with you , I have very few friends , happy to chat to people I see at activities but rarely socialise outside of these. Happy with immediate family or my own company, and find big social occasions uncomfortable. There are probably a lot of us about

Welcome @Somertime and @ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself. 🖐

I see, thank you, @Showmethefood . Would you be able to go to a hobby group with him? You met at church, is there a church group you are comfortable with?

@RanyaJerodung , I don't have much choice.
I could make more of an effort to join clubs and the like, but when I have, I either just make acquaintances or have people I don't want to be friends with latching on to me.
I WFH, which is ok but I find myself on MN a lot, because it is company.
Not while working, obvs.

Hi @TheOliveFinch I know what you mean about social situations. I always find myself feeling awkward or saying something stupid. I've always been like it. I really struggled at school and work hasn't always been the easiest.

I'm sorry to hear that you've had such a tough time. 💐
How do you like to relax, do you have something that brings you joy?.