A thread for those who don’t have friends in real life.

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Hi everyone,

I don’t know how to start this thread, so we’ll just go with being plain honest! I’m in my 30s and I don’t have any friends in real life! Of course I have acquaintances/people I can chat to if at certain events - but no real life friends 🙈

It’s really hard to feel accepted for who you are sometimes, and so many of us have to alter our personalities to try and fit into the work environment (or even to fit in with our families). So, I wanted to start a thread for all those who don’t have friends in real life. A place where people can come and leave updates on how their day has gone, how they are feeling, what their interests and hobbies are, and just have a good chat!

So, a little about me:
Im married and have a teenager.
I have a gorgeous cocker spaniel.
Ive almost (one year left) completed my degree in psychology and counselling.
I have just written my first children’s book and am currently in the process of self publishing it.
Im starting a new job in a school this Friday.

Please feel free to join and let’s keep this thread a safe place where we can (hopefully) begin to make some friends and not feel so alone. ❤️

@deepermining , Thanks for asking. Had a 2nd interview and I'm not hopeful.

A second interview is good. Sorry to hear you are not hopeful though. Did it not go as well as you would have liked?

I once turned up to an interview and 5 mins in realised from the questions that I had not applied for the job I meant to. They had been advertising two jobs and I must have pressed the button to fill in the application for the other one. 😐

No. I liked the interviewer but I wittered too much.
Not heard anything. Thanks for asking.

Ah well, good luck with it anyway.

Any plans for the weekend?

Do you have any? I have relatives coming to stay soon and so need to clean up to guest standards. Doing a lot of postponing. Just off to the shop to buy crisps and Prosecco…

I am in my forties, single no children or close friends just acquittances. I always look forward to Friday and then wonder why as I have no one to spend the weekend with.

I know how you feel.

Not yet, but I wish I had some wine in the house

@Hazelnutwhirl , that's me too. (OK maybe a few, ahem, months older)
No friends, no family, currently no job.
It is up to me to address it, but I am currently decluttering, which is much needed.
It's not as miserable as it sounds.

Hope you are all ok.

I went out this morning to a coffee meet up group, which was nice. Glad I went.

Then came back to do more decluttering and sorting. I'm really pleased with the progress I am making. Sorted out the downstairs hall cupboard yesterday and finished sorting my bedroom. Its much better now and I can now see all of the carpet : ) . My garden has a least a dozen large bin bags full of rubbish I have cleared out, waiting to go to the tip. As well as stuff around the house sorted ready to try to sell or go to the charity shop.

I've not left the house for a week. I'm going to go to the supermarket later.
Persuaded myself that I deserve a glass of wine as it's a bank holiday weekend.

I'm not a regular poster but this thread spoke to me. The person who mentioned looking forward to the weekend then wondering why spoke for me. It's not so much the day time but the evenings and feeling I'm the only person without plans and people to meet up with. New friends are hard to make.

May I join in please? I have only just found this thread (late to the party, as always!)

Male, 62, autistic and also a very quiet, private, introverted and reserved personality and, thus, have always found making and keeping friends very diffiult - I have been on Mumsnet for years, mainly focusing on 'gardening', 'history', 'rural living' and 'autism' threads as these are some of my particular interests and it gives me the opportunity to engage with, and have vicarious friendships with posters who share my passions!

Live alone with my chickens, bees and all the birds, animals and insects which share my house and garden with me. At my happiest doing quiet things, with quiet people, in quiet places, quietly! And preferably in wide open spaces, surrounded by green and living things.

Also very interested in languages, words, etymology and have taught myself a couple of East and Southern African languages as a challenge. Also love Latin and would like to learn more. One of the great joys and simple pleasures in life, for me, is listening to or reading well constructed, properly enunciated, punctuated and grammatically correct English.

But, yes, life can be very lonely and I often crave conversation with cultured, intelligent, educated and articulate people - I struggle with my work colleagues, due to the nature of my job and the demographic it tends to attract as employees. I know I probably sound intense and, possibly, pompous which, I suspect, is one of the reasons I find difficulty forming friendships

Good for you. Its nice weather here so hope you get to enjoy your wine in the sun!

I had a glass last night whilst watching comedy show dvds. Quite regret it now as my alcohol tolerance is so low!

Went for a nice cycle this morning and found an open charity shop and got a couple more dvds.

Welcome to all the new people!

I enjoyed it a bit too much last night and am having the 'I hate myself' hangover today.
It's sunny here and I'm trying to do more decluttering, or I was earlier.

You are not the only one!

I do try to join groups though when I can, as that is a way of getting out and having social contact with people.

Hi and welcome 🤗 Being around all that nature/animals sounds wonderful ☺️. I totally understand what you mean regarding quiet places/people. I currently work in a very busy cafe and my introverted self is just hating seeing/talking/being around so much noise and chaos 🙈

Hello everyone and all the newbies! Honestly you all sound like lovely people to me with really nice interests and hobbies, who just struggle, like myself, to connect easily with people. It's hard to throw yourself out there in RL but on here a bit easier, so BillieNoM88 please can I join you in that glass of wine, I'll bring a box of chocs too! DracunculusVulgaris
you sound like my ideal neighbour/friend, quiet, interesting and thoughtful. I love words too and I am (very slowly) trying to learn Italian. Yes the comment about the weekends spoke to me too and I wish I had more people to meet up with.
I've had a rubbish week this week so coming on here and just seeing the thoughts of like minded people is calming.

Sorry you had a rubbish week and glad you find it calming here.

I have had a horrible evening and morning and feeling really shaken and upset.

I keep hoping for a Deus Ex Machina event. I realise I need a better plan but I don't think there is one.

Thank you@deepermining ah dear, I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope you are calming down and something/someone turns up to help. On a slightly plus side you have educated me this evening as I had never heard of that phrase so I looked it up. I always find it fascinating to know where words and phrases come from, so thank you for the enlightenment!

@shadypines Thanks for your kind words. And glad I have expanded your phrase knowledge by plus 1 : ))

@shadypines

Have you seen this little book?

Lost in Translation: An Illustrated Compendium of Untranslatable Words Hardcover – 4 Jun. 2015
by Ella Frances Sanders

If you are interested in words you might like it. Its a really nice ' gift' type book and really interesting in terms of words that exist in other languages but not English.

@deepermining I just googled it and it's delightful. One of my favourite types of quiz question is one where you have to analyse the word to help get the answer. Studying Italian is helping loads with this as there are obviously tons of Italian words that have morphed into English.

Glad you liked it!

How is everyone doing as we move into Autumn?

@deepermining it's funny you mention Autumn as for the first time since March I felt a nip in the air yesterday! I don't mind Autumn and Winter, I like closing the curtains and switching on a cosy lamp. I've had a busy and stressful week at work and I'm glad it's over. I'm looking forward to a few days off. How about yourself?