Paid over £150 for daughters hair and she hates it!

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What do I do?
my daughter (10yo) has been pleading for months to have her hair in long braids, 7 hours at the salon, lots of tears, and we’ve come home and she’s broken down saying she hates it, I’ve scrimped and saved for this, (single mum very low paying wage just about make ends meet) it’ll take hours to remove too, I just don’t know! What would others do? Tell her to keep it for a bit, whilst she cries her heart out, start taking it out? She’s got added hair, and they’re super long and I’ve no experience removing so god knows how long it’ll take, we’ve spent the whole day at the salon and I’ve had to put away every spare penny! I’m so sad she’s so upset, I wanted her first proper salon experience to be a good one, now I don’t think she’ll ever want to come to one again, I think she looks stunning btw! And was so excited to get it done, it’s been an exhausting day, but rather then a “it’ll be worth it in the end” experience it’s now a complete waste of time and money!

Crikey - that’s hard! I would make her keep them for at least a few days. See if she settles? I would imagine she’s tired and cranky now

Aww no advice but feel so bad for you 😢She might feel differently tomorrow x

It's probably just the shock of such a drastic change. Did she voice any worries in the salon?

Personally I'd tell her to give it a few days, once the shock has worn off she may well change her mind again. 10 year olds are fickle creatures.

Take her mind off it and let her have a good nights sleep - she may well change her mind. You sound like an awesome mum xx

Perhaps she just needs a few days to get used to it with it being such a big change

I’m assuming she is mixed race or black?

If she’s white she is going to get no end of harassment at school about cultural appropriation…

Most of us get a massive shock when we change our hair or looks drastically but she might start to love it once she gets over the change, tell her to stick with it until the end of the holidays at least and then see how she feels then?

Don't undo it. Let her learn how to cope with disapointment and imperfection.

I’d ask her to give it a few days. Not only is it a massive change, but they can hurt quite a bit , be quite heavy and feel totally different on her head. A lot of sensory input there. So give her (and the braids) time to settle. If she still hates them , then have them out.

I agree

Agree give it time, distract her, but I would reassure her that if she does still feel unhappy then she can get them removed. Maybe agree a time frame if you can't afford it right away, but I think she should know that she can undo it if she's really miserable.

Is she white?

Nobody likes their hair at first. Give it a couple of days and she might get used to it and it could be more of a dramatic reaction because she’s tired from sitting in a salon all day.

In future might I suggest you not pay £150 you can't afford just because your DD nags you for it.
She is 10 and paying that much for hair is crazy unless you have it to spare. I could afford that but wouldn't do it even so.
If she really hates it 24 after having it done than take it out and don't cave in next time

I would say this highlights why she is too young for this. Regardless of the style, spending £150 and 7 hours on a 7 year old’s hair is risky. She won’t quite grasp how much money it is and at that age she hasn’t got the capacity to cope with the results if she doesn’t like it.

My 8 year old pleaded and pleaded with me to buy her an £7 milkshake today. I said ‘no way’. After the nagging for 10 mins I succumbed. She tasted it, didn’t like it, started crying as she knew it was expensive. I said never again. It’s exactly the same principle. It’s too much for them to just flippantly say ‘don’t like it.’

Braids always feel weird and heavy the first time you get them. Guessing she’s black or mixed race? She’ll adjust. It’s one of the easiest ways to style afro hair, but they can be uncomfortable until they settle.

I agree with leaving it for a couple days and see how she feels.

Either way the money is gone so dont dwell on that

Why is this even a question? What's skin colour got to do with hair

I'd make her keep them in for a few days to see if she changes her mind.

Lol.

There have been a number of threads on MN in the past where there's been massive disagreement about cultural appropriation with regard to braids, plaits etc, so perhaps that is why the pp asked for clarification.

This is a pertinent question given the hairstyle.

my DD has a lot of black friends and wouldn’t dream of getting braids because of cultural appropriation but also because Afro hair is a different make up to Caucasian hair and the braids would simply break her hair. However I do know that some of her friends are already losing their hair at 17 due to how tight the braids are - they must hurt, especially with the weight of added hair, and I think with her being 10 I’d take them out.

lesson learned OP - £150 on kids hair is not money well spent.

10 years old? £150? And, you can’t really afford it! Mate, you’re mad to spend that. Did your DD at least contribute with her pocket money?

Oh really! 😬

Why would you assume someone’s mixed race or black because they don’t like their hair?