Velour Leggings for a funeral?

[MrBallensWife]

My ex partners dad passed away recently,he is my daughters granddad so I want to go to the funeral to support my daughter (12) and also because I was very fond of him and we got on well.
I've bought a lovely smart blazer and top to wear in black and now I'm struggling for trousers.I have some brand new black velour/velvet leggings but is it inappropriate to wear leggings to a funeral do you think?

Yes. How is this even a question?!

Yes, probably inappropriate. What about a silk skirt? Sorry about your loss.

I just thought with them being velvet they wouldn't look so casual,but I think I'm just trying to convince myself here!,but that little voice in the back of my head keeps saying no,they're not appropriate for smart funeral attire.So I wanted to see what others thought.

Thankyou x

I think they will be fine.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I think what you wear depends on the family and how they dress or expect you to dress. I wouldn't mind you turning up in velvet leggings, obviously some think it's wrong.

Horribly inappropriate, much like wearing a thong at a children’s swimming lesson.

Surely you can nip out for some smart trousers. Primark are Asda will have them if they need to be cheap.

I work in a funeral home, and go to dozens of funerals every week, leggings will be absolutely fine.

i actually think the whole outfit sounds fine, respectful and appropriate.

I would think fine if they aren’t at all sheer and the blazer will cover most or all of your bum. If the blazer is cut higher it might look a bit weird though?

No,they're definetly not sheer,they're quite thick and soft,the blazer will cover my bottom too.Im a size 22 so I'm always conscious of covering my bum and belly x

In that case it seems perfectly fine to me!

I'm a Size 22 so Primark is out of the question,Asda is a bit hit and miss for sizing.I ordered some off Asos but they were tight at the waist and huge in the leg,I ordered some off Vinted but they didn't fit well either so I'm thinking shall I just wear the velvet leggings or keep hunting for trousers?

Put it this way, they’ll be fine for the people that favour freedom to dress badly, and not at all fine for everyone else. That’s the fact of the matter. You won’t get a consensual answer. You choose if you want to wear leggings or put the effort in for something with dignity and restraint as befits the occasion.

I’m a size 22 as well and have black trousers from M&S. Leggings at a funeral seems very inappropriate if you have other options.

I think your outfit sounds excellent for the occasion. I went to a funeral where black was not allowed as a dress code.

Funerals have changed a lot since the pandemic, and most people prefer a relaxed atmosphere and day of remembrance and fond memories, though of course the loss of a loved one is also very sad.

Ignore the rigid fashion police.

It’s really not

If the rest of the outfit is smart, understated and appropriate, I think it should be fine. Wouldn't be my first choice though....do you not have a plain black dress,?

Only the very rudest people will say anything. I personally wouldn't wear leggings to a funeral, but what matters is that you are there, supporting your daughter who's lost her grandad. Literally noone is going to be looking at you (in the nicest possible way). If you have smart shoes, and the blazer covers your bum, you'll be fine.

I think at a certain point in your life it’s expedient to buy a long sleeved black dress of some (any! Shirt, maxi, maybe not ballgown) kind in the sales as a wardrobe standby for these kind of occasions but then I am Irish and also from somewhere people dress more formally still so that probably slants my take on it.

Sorry for your daughter’s loss.

They sound fine - some people are very judgemental.

Sorry the Irish angle for those who don’t know is that we tend to go to a lot more funerals than some other nations as thw custom to go briefly to quite an extended network (work colleagues’ and old friends’ parents and so on).

All of the funerals I have been to, people wear all sorts, they will be fine.

Funerals are not about what you wear, it's attendence to respect for someone you loved. It doesn't matter what you wear, it's about you turning up. At my mums funeral, some people turned up straight from work on high viz jackets! It was lovely. Wear your leggings x