Velour Leggings for a funeral?

[MrBallensWife]

My ex partners dad passed away recently,he is my daughters granddad so I want to go to the funeral to support my daughter (12) and also because I was very fond of him and we got on well.
I've bought a lovely smart blazer and top to wear in black and now I'm struggling for trousers.I have some brand new black velour/velvet leggings but is it inappropriate to wear leggings to a funeral do you think?

Some people really don’t give a stuff. Turning up to a funeral wearing joggers - what next a pair of pyjamas because they are comfy?

Those nearest are unlikely to notice what you are wearing, just appreciate your presence.

However, if you are in doubt, I wouldn't do it. Choose something else.

Someone I know was boasting about going to the corner shop in her pyjamas. She seemed to think it was something to be proud of. Seems to be becoming more common . I blame working from home.

Honestly, no. Not a good look any time, particularly not a funeral.

Exactly. I had people contact me as next of kin because they weren't sure about funeral attire. I told them all that I didn't care what they wore, just come in whatever they want as their being there was the important thing.

Exactly. I was in a (pretty rough & ready ) pub a week ago and the post funeral gathering was there. All men in suits with black ties, kids smartly dressed, women in dark clothing.

Note this was not the wake. That’s the bit where you sit round the deceased in their open coffin and drink tea before the funeral.

If you live where I live and have been to & seen as many funerals as I have, you'd be surprised what people wear, from everyday clothes to filthy old farm wear. Your outfit will be fine.

I wouldn't wear velvet leggings, but I'm very traditional. But OP, I really doubt people will notice, as you'll be wearing a smart blazer. As an aside, I'm London Irish RC, and for close family funerals I wear a black mantilla, which is what used to be worn way back, but it's what I like to do out of respect (my choice). I'm usually the only one wearing one.

Thankyou for all your replies and suggestions.Im not keen on ordering any more online because I am plus size and they don't normally fit well,ie too small in the waist but too big on the leg,Ive already ordered 2 pairs and theyre going to have to go back as they dont fit right,Id rather just go to a shop and try them on before parting with any more money and then inevitably have to wait for a refund.

Primark is out of the question due to sizing,Asda is a bit hit and miss in choice for a size 22,the one closest to me has no changing rooms and doesn't stock much Plus size.There is a 'Yours Clothing' shop in my town so I'll go there on Monday and have a look.When you're non plus size it's easy to just go to a shop and pick a pair but plus size is not so easy 😔.
I appreciate all replies though.

At my late sisters funeral everyone wore Striped tops, jeans and smart raincoats. It was her signature style and in tribute to her.
We also drank copious amounts of coffee and ate Cornish pasties and sausage rolls followed by scones and saffron cake.
If you recognise the menu you will know where she lived.
I think if you wear a smart pair of boots with the leggings you’ll be fine. No one goes to a funeral to judge other people’s outfits. If you want to draw attention from your leggings add a nice scarf.

Yes but nobody other than maybe immediate family would wear all black at an Irish funeral. And it's even becoming unusual for family to wear all black these days.

I go to loads of funerals but I don't possess a black dress. I would wear something reasonablly respectable and not totally bright. So black trousers and a red/blue/whatever top. But jeans wouldn't be unusual so a removal.

OP, I would consider the outfit unsuitable but only because it's all black. However, it seems to be more normal in England to go with all black. I'd say if the leggings are heavy weight and not obviously leggings (I.e look more like skinny trousers) then they'd be fine.

What does make people tidy themselves up and look smart? Clearly for some it’s not funerals!

Worried about weddings now….

Where are you getting the notion Irish people wear all black to funerals? I've been to 2 so far this year. Nobody, including immediate family, wore all black.

Of course they are. I'm that size and have plenty of black trousers from M&S suitable for a funeral.

No OP you can’t wear leggings to a funeral! If trousers are too tricky with sizing buy a skirt or dress. I love leggings and wear them all the time working out or chilling at home but they are completely inappropriate for a formal occasion where people are grieving. You don’t have to wear ball gown or even black but you should make an effort and leggings are about as low effort as it gets.

This. I don't recognise the type of funeral people think is normal on this thread with people turning up in leggings, hi Viz jackets, jeans, track suits etc, I suppose it depends on what circles you move in. I would think those outfits were disrespectful to such a serious occasion.
I've been to 3 funerals in the past couple of years, one was my father's. We said to just wear whatever people wanted, the others had no requests regarding attire. Without fail, every man, whether 20 or 80, at all those funerals, wore a grey, black or navy suit, shirt and dark coloured tie, and women wore smart black, navy, dark green dresses, skirts or trousers. No one turned up in leggings or in any form of casual clothing. These were non religious funerals in England or Wales.

I agree, I always think the majority of posters have not been to a lot of funerals the way the carry on. Anything pretty much goes now as long as clean and respectful. Sounds fine OP.

There's a few posters on this thread mentioning it!

Really?!

One poster, who said she is Irish but lives somewhere formality is the norm recommended getting a black dress but I don't think anyone who is Irish said black would be normal here. All black is very unusual at an Irish funeral these days. The last funeral I went to I wore black trousers and a red top. There were people in jeans, some older men wore suits, some older women wore their funeral coat which is usually a muted colour. Nobody, including family, wore all black.

I attended a funeral for a former pupil who was the foreman of the local council yard.

The funeral took place first thing in the morning. Family and friends wore normal funeral attire. His workmate all wore their work clothes and then headed off for their shift. Indeed, this was referenced towards the end of the celebrant's address.

It was very appropriate, since the deceased's job was very important to him: he loved his work.

The person is deceased, you're going to support your daughter. Neither care what you're wearing. You're doing good thing OP, that's all that matters. It's all anyone should see tbh.

Leggings are far too casual and not befitting of the occasion. Dressing well and appropriately for a funeral is a form of respect and good manners. It’s wild to me how slovenly we’ve become as a country.

I think it’s fine given you have a smart blazer and top to go with them.

I think it depends on how formal the funeral is. Personally I wouldn't even consider wearing leggings to a funeral of any other formal occasion. I am also of a somewhat rotund shape and I wear leggings a lot as they are so comfortable, but I have a set of clothes suitable for funerals ( also job interviews etc.). I am, however, probably 20 years older than you.