Velour Leggings for a funeral?

[MrBallensWife]

My ex partners dad passed away recently,he is my daughters granddad so I want to go to the funeral to support my daughter (12) and also because I was very fond of him and we got on well.
I've bought a lovely smart blazer and top to wear in black and now I'm struggling for trousers.I have some brand new black velour/velvet leggings but is it inappropriate to wear leggings to a funeral do you think?

I think they’ll be fine.

The last funeral I went to we all wore onesies or pyjamas.

When my sons came to their grandmother’s funeral I wasn’t proud they were attending- that was a given. Have we stooped so low that there is an option they wouldn’t bother!

Not necessarily.

In Ireland, it is 1-2 days later. I believe in the UK, for certain religions, it is similar.

Because some people cannot cope. We need to appreciate that, and not make it compulsory / a given. I know my autistic daughter couldn't cope with a family funeral - neither should she be made to, but if she wanted to attend in whatever clothing she chose, yes, I would be damned proud of her.

This has verged off subject - it's about clothing. Black leggings are black leggings, not pink. Velour ones are smarter than faded, holey Primark ones. That said, I think more of people than of clothing.

Of course not. But anyone who thinks what you wear that isn’t appropriate to the situation you are in doesn’t matter, whatever it is, is kidding themselves. Because yes it does still matter.

If you were part of a Community that holds its funerals within 2 days of the person dying, then you would keep suitable clothing in your wardrobe then as many, many people do anyway .

Completely agree with this.

Thick black leggings with a smart blazer is absolutely fine. At most of the funerals I’ve been to the women wear black or dark coloured trousers and ditsy print blouses in darkish colours.

And i Don’t just mean funerals. I mean any situation. You dress appropriately. I know “comfort” seems to be the only criteria on mn but in the real world, you dress for the situation.

Every Irish person in the country is part of a community that holds funerals within 2 days. Not every Irish person keeps funeral suitable clothing in their wardrobe.

I've been to funerals where I wore jeans. I did not stand out in any way. I've been to others where I wore a dress. I did not stand out on any way. So long as your clothes are clean and decent, it's perfectly acceptable.

Oh and just to add, I have never worn all black to a funeral. If I had, I would have stood out. The most recent family funeral I attended was fil. The only person to wear any black at all was one of his other dils. She stood out and not really for the right reasons.

Which suggests to me, @OchonAgusOchonOh , that you are agreeing with the principle that you should dress 'suitably' for the occasion.
It seems in your family, that is 'casually' - which means, you are dressing appropriately by fitting in with that culture.

But, if you don't know that to be the case at a funeral you are going to (and presumably the OP wouldn't have asked if she did know), then the default position in the UK is smart clothing, and sombre colours.

I've been to a good 30 odd funerals and I've never ever seen anyone wear jeans

Back to my 30 odd funerals, loads of people wear black or predominantly black . Never seen a veil or anything like that but definitely lots of black, am in England. I'd say the older the deceased the more likely most will be in predominantly black

Then you have presumably never been to a funeral in Ireland.

I don't think I've ever been to a removal (the first part of the funeral) where there haven't been people wearing jeans.

My point is that "suitable" is a very broad spectrum. The dil stood out because she tends to be attention seeking rather than because of what she was wearing. I realise I was not clear in my post about that. Yes, certainly, some types of clothing are unsuitable for a funeral but clean and decent, which the op seems to suggesting wearing, is always suitable. A blazer, a long top and a pair of heavy velour leggings that will most likely look like skinny trousers is decent.

And my mother would be horrified if you suggested casual was her norm😂She always dresses smartly and would never go to a funeral or any other occasion wearing jeans. I don't think she actually owns a pair of jeans. However, she would not judge anyone else's attire so long as they were clean, neat and decent.

The only problem I can think of @MrBallensWife is if most other mourners are more formally dressed you might feel too casual. You don’t want to spend the funeral and maybe afterwards feeling awkward or uncomfortable. If you can find a pair of trousers in time I’d go for those.

I probably wouldn't choose to wear them but the bereaved aren't going to notice, and nobody will ever remember, so do whatever suits you.

I don't know about appropriate, but I find it hard to picture. Wearing a long blazer and effectively tights, wouldn't you just look like you forgot your skirt/trousers? Something about a jacket doesn't seem to work with a bottom that is tight fitting to the ankle to me.
But I loath and despise wearing leggings, find them horribly uncomfortable and unsupportive, so I'm probably not a good person to ask as they aren't something I'd ever think to just grab.

If it was me I would be desperately trying to persuade myself that jeans were acceptable as they are my safe place clothing!

Is this a joke post?

Sounds like a lovely outfit, you are more than welcome to attend my funeral dressed like that!

I don't think it is OK to substitute leggings for trousers or skirts.

I've always been of the thinking that if leggings are not being used for gym wear then they should be considered similar to tights. Worn with longer tunics or dresses or at the very least something that covers your bottom. I also do not think it is appropriate to wear leggings with a blazer to a funeral.

I wore trainers to a wedding as I had no choice due to a problem with my foot. It wasn’t obvious as thanks to the trainers I wasn’t limping so no doubt some twats judged me.