Velour Leggings for a funeral?

[MrBallensWife]

My ex partners dad passed away recently,he is my daughters granddad so I want to go to the funeral to support my daughter (12) and also because I was very fond of him and we got on well.
I've bought a lovely smart blazer and top to wear in black and now I'm struggling for trousers.I have some brand new black velour/velvet leggings but is it inappropriate to wear leggings to a funeral do you think?

Exactly. Sorry but leggings are just not appropriate for a funeral.

The fact that the OP even had to ask shows she knows they really aren’t.

I think the fact you are asking, means you feel you want to be wearing "the right thing".
So, whereas on paper posters are right to say the important thing is that you are there and it doesn't matter, in real life, you clearly want to be respectful and do the right thing.
I agree with most that leggings are not appropriate for a funeral.
But a pair of smart black trousers are the easiest thing to find, whatever your size - including supermarkets and charity shops if you don't have the funds to spend a lot.

Not at a size 22 they aren't easy to find at all if they were we wouldn't be having this conversation

I can’t believe the amount of people saying it doesn’t matter and that funerals are ‘casual’ now… 😮 No. People may have stopped giving a shit but that doesn’t mean that it’s acceptable. You dress respectfully to honour the person that’s died. Velour leggings don’t tick that box imo. It couldn’t break the bank to buy a basic black jersey dress and tights from Asda surely?

I couldn't tell you what anyone wore to DM's funeral, I was just glad they were there to support me. The could have been in shorts and t shirts for all I cared.

I don't own a 'funeral outfit', I've got to 50 and didn't realise it was a thing. I don't own a 'smart' coat either, my warm padded coats have always sufficed.

Wear the leggings, OP. No one will care.

That’s a question not an answer to what I asked. Try again

I've been to far too many funerals,No one dresses in black formal clothes any more.

Ah so wide legged trousers = honouring. Tight trousers = fuck you all then

H and M have some great wideleg trs at the moment

Isn’t everything on here?!😂

OP, I think they sound fine but if you do look for something else, I’ve had these in a 22 before and they’re lovely. I didn’t get them for a funeral but would wear them for one if needed.

www.marksandspencer.com/jersey-straight-leg-trousers-with-stretch/p/clp60506862?intid=mobile_app_pdp_share

Absolute rubbish, I went to one last summer, that of a 53 yr old guy, I wore navy but most were in black, the next funeral I'm going to is my DF's and I guarantee most will be in black as will I and no I'm not Irish.

Black leggings could be smart.

I don't know if yours are or not but I don't think just because they are leggings they are definitely no no and I am someone who believes in dressing smartly at funerals.

If anyone wears black wide leg trousers at my funeral I will come back and haunt them.

I don't think they will be appropriate. You don't have to wear black with your blazer - do you have anything in dark green? At the last funeral I went to, a lot of women were wearing navy.

At my husband's funeral we asked people to wear bright clothes - it didn't mean people didn't respect his memory, it meant we were honouring his personality.

The last funeral I attended the family asked people to wear something red,There were also people in work uniforms who attended in their lunch hour. It would have been more disrespectful to ignore the families wishes because of some old fashioned idea of what you should wear to a funeral.;.

I'm from a head to toe black plus hats at funerals family and think it sounds fine. Anyone really grieving won't judge.

The last funeral I went to there was 1 lady in her asda uniform. 1 bloke in joggers. Rest just in everyday clothing except the older generation who were in suits.

It's about making an effort to look smart and presentable at a sombre formal occasion.The black clothes do not have to be expensive.I have a smart black pair of trousers from Asda.

I really don't think leggings are appropriate. I would buy a simple grey dress. Or possibly wide legged grey or black trousers. M&S would be a good place to look.

Rubbish.
I was visiting a friend in a funeral home yesterday and people were arriving for a 'tea' after the funeral of one of the residents.
Almost everyone was wearing black - including the teens (I am assuming Grandchildren). Those who weren't were wearing grey or navy, and still all in suits, dresses, or smart trousers with a blazer or black coat.

That was people I don't know at all.

Unfortunately I've been to several funerals over the last 3 years, and again, virtually everyone has worn black, or a dark, sombre colour in smart clothes.

I’m wondering about those who feel it doesn’t matter what you wear to a funeral. Is there any occasion when you feel it matters? Wedding, christenings, interviews? Or would you just wear what you felt like?

How about these? They would look good with a blazer and are a reasonable price.v

www.marksandspencer.com/textured-wide-leg-trousers/p/clp60733478?color=BLACK&extid=ps_ps-pla-pmax_ggl_ww_ch__-UK-_-_bau&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwv_m-BhC4ARIsAIqNeBsz7tuk-IBeC8hOiUcBSXx8IX6D_nTdcroy2L7cfqrB4Fd9BTke5QMaAp79EALw_wcB

When is the funeral? I have some black trousers on Vinted, can’t remember if they’re a 20 or a 22 - I can sell them to you for a couple of pounds if you like - message me if you want me to look. Your outfit sounds fine though 👍🏼