Velour Leggings for a funeral?

[MrBallensWife]

My ex partners dad passed away recently,he is my daughters granddad so I want to go to the funeral to support my daughter (12) and also because I was very fond of him and we got on well.
I've bought a lovely smart blazer and top to wear in black and now I'm struggling for trousers.I have some brand new black velour/velvet leggings but is it inappropriate to wear leggings to a funeral do you think?

I know this is not the point of the thread but I now want some velour leggings. Where did you get them op?

At my Mummy's Irish funeral last year, I did bring a funeral outfit, wore exactly the same to my MILs (ex, but she was Nana to our three children). I was one of only a handful wearing formal type clothes, but I wanted to wear it and felt comfortable in it.

People wore all kinds of outfits and my son, who watched it online from England with his two sisters, said it was lovely and everyone seemed to wear what they were comfortable in.

I think you'll be fine as long as the leggings don't look like 'tights under a blazer'. Funerals have got more casual lately, but as with weddings, there may be some drama llama who lives to throw shade on other people's clothes and make it All About Them never having been so shocked in their life etc... 🙄

My niece wore a coloured print dress with a long black cardigan and DMs at her gran's funeral lately. The main thing is she was there to comfort her Dad when he was upset. ❤️

And I second @theyreallyaredicks - I'm at the age where I have a smart black skirt, top and appropriate accessories that I just keep for funerals! So easy knowing you have something to pop on, like a man's suit. 🕴

I agree with this (and I'm not Irish). I've got a short sleeve black linen dress from The Shirt Company that I bought in TK Maxx for a funeral a few years ago which is a good basic as it can be worn for any season with a blazer, mac or heavy coat. Alternatively I'd opt for some black trousers and shirt or top. My own personal feeling is that leggings would look out of place - sorry.

No awful leggings are not appropriate for a funeral unless you want to look like a chav

Sorry OP, leggings aren’t at all appropriate for a funeral at all. I don’t agree with the above poster that just turning up after throwing on whatever is a show of respect. A satin skirt or wide leg trousers are a good shout.

Not leggings of any type of material.

Trousers.

Definitely not. And who goes to a funeral in a high viz??

They will been fine Op

Sometimes if you are too overdone, it can seem to be all about you

nice.

OP they will be absolutely fine.

Not appropriate at all. Especially given you are close family.

just pick up a pair of black trousers.

What a ridiculous comment 😂 I would love to critique your outfits!

I'm a fan of leggings, love them. BUT leggings are NOT trousers so make sure your top is below the bum length (like a tunic) and it should be fine.

Funerals are so mixed these days it's hard to know what to wear isn't it?

Sorry to read of your loss and I agree you should support your DD.

As for leggings, no.

I wouldn’t.

They will be fine and look more like a skinny trouser than leggings anyway

Leggings are a gym thing imo, I wouldn't wear them to a funeral, velour or otherwise! Can you not get something a little more appropriate? Vinted?

I got them from Asos,they are by 'Yours clothing' and they are on sale from £22 to only £7.You can also get a further 25% off if you enter the discount code.I thought I'd order them to see what they're like and honestly they're lovely,they are so comfortable and soft.Ill probably keep stroking my own leg when I wear them as they feel so lovely 🤣x

@saveforthat

My late father’s funeral was summer 2019 - we
said no black and please come as you like, he was mad for all sports, especially football so a few footy tops were worn. Was lovely, colourful and relaxed and certainly no judgement by anyone.

i don’t think it’s necessarily since the pandemic, more of an ongoing trend/shift to funerals being a celebration of the life rather than the somber and foreboding affair they once were.

I agree,I don't think many people even notice what the other attendees are wearing anyway,obviously if it's something completely outlandish then they would bit I doubt I'll be remembered for my velour leggings!.
At my sons funeral I asked if everyone could wear red as my son was an avid Liverpool fan and some of his friends turned up in Liverpool shirts which I thought was fab!.If you asked me what guests wore what I wouldn't be able to tell you as my focus wasn't on people's attire.
I wore a lovely black flowy dress with little red stars on for his funeral but I've never worn that dress since and never will as its precious to me now.

I personally would say they are not appropriate OP

The point is it doesn't matter. The main point is showing up.

It’s showing respect not just turning up as though you have just come from work or just pulled on some cheap leggings.