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Anyone else awake?

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:07

Is so, why? I'm awake as my DH told me he wanted us to go our separate ways tonight and so I can't sleep. Have started a thread already so don't really want to bore everyone by going over it again.
Just wanted to chat.

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Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:10

Whats dh please? And here to talk if u need x

SaltyPig · 02/02/2025 03:10

Chat away. I'm not surprised you can't sleep. How are you? Are you at least making sure you drink plenty, and try to eat, even if it's toast. x

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:12

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:10

Whats dh please? And here to talk if u need x

DH usually means dear husband. DM is dear mum etc. Are you new on here? Mind you, it's not dear husband now...

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SaltyPig · 02/02/2025 03:12

It could stand for Dick tonight...

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:13

SaltyPig · 02/02/2025 03:10

Chat away. I'm not surprised you can't sleep. How are you? Are you at least making sure you drink plenty, and try to eat, even if it's toast. x

I couldn't manage toast tbh. I'm just managing to keep water down at this stage. Found out about 5 hours ago.
Why are u awake at this unearthly hour?😊

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Dontneedthedramaimtooold · 02/02/2025 03:14

I’m awake because we went to help today at my sons new home with something and his brother had a can of pop and his partner saw it on the ring door bell and text and I see * had one of my Pepsi Maxs with an angry emoji

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:15

Yes! That's made me chuckle. Thank you.

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Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:15

Yes i am single mom stuck in the house and keeps me
sane looking on here and chatting! Im sorry to hear that how long were you together? is it out of the blue? Did u have children?

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:15

Sorry also forgot to add im crap with the abbreviations 😂😂🙈

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:16

Dontneedthedramaimtooold · 02/02/2025 03:14

I’m awake because we went to help today at my sons new home with something and his brother had a can of pop and his partner saw it on the ring door bell and text and I see * had one of my Pepsi Maxs with an angry emoji

No way!

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Dontneedthedramaimtooold · 02/02/2025 03:17

Then he had a snack and we had to hide the evidence.. we’ll just take a packed lunch next time 😂

YourHappyJadeEagle · 02/02/2025 03:19

I’m awake (again) at this ungodly hour because I just never sleep. Lucky if I sleep 4 hours a night. At least the restless legs have stopped moving.
Do you know or suspect why he wants to separate?

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:19

Is this serious? 😂😂😂

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:20

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:15

Yes i am single mom stuck in the house and keeps me
sane looking on here and chatting! Im sorry to hear that how long were you together? is it out of the blue? Did u have children?

Many years. Yes 2 x dcs. Teens.
Thought we making progress after a tricky time. Sex life still there etc. So yes in some ways a shock. Still reeling.

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Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:23

Wow must be something going on. Men are men and when they disconnect they arent going to sleep with you! Id give it time …makes no sense. Something deeper id say. I wouldnt say its over.

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:23

What reason did he give?

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:23

YourHappyJadeEagle · 02/02/2025 03:19

I’m awake (again) at this ungodly hour because I just never sleep. Lucky if I sleep 4 hours a night. At least the restless legs have stopped moving.
Do you know or suspect why he wants to separate?

Just not in love with me anymore. Still cares about me. No one else involved. Just fizzled I guess although I still love him.

Sorry you have restless legs. That must be a nightmare- probably wrong choice of words there. Isn't there anything you can take for that? No vitamin deficiency or anything?

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:25

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:15

Sorry also forgot to add im crap with the abbreviations 😂😂🙈

That's OK. I often have to Google the 3 letter ones on here! I've learnt so much via mn although my dcs always sat "where'd you read that mum, on mumsnet?!" and laugh.

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Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:25

sorry dont believe it your still sleeping together trust me its not over thats a good sign. U cant fake that!!! Course he loves u! Mother of his kids wouldnt sleep with u otherwise. Prob hving a crisis as men do! Keep ur chin up the signs arent saying his leaving. U would feel the distance before it happens your shocked…uv sensed nothing…somethings telling me its deeper and sometnings going on with him

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:26

😂😂😂 is dcs daughters btw? Guessdd that!

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:29

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:25

sorry dont believe it your still sleeping together trust me its not over thats a good sign. U cant fake that!!! Course he loves u! Mother of his kids wouldnt sleep with u otherwise. Prob hving a crisis as men do! Keep ur chin up the signs arent saying his leaving. U would feel the distance before it happens your shocked…uv sensed nothing…somethings telling me its deeper and sometnings going on with him

No as much as I'd like to believe that- it IS over. I'm sure he won't sleep with me again now he's told me and if I sleep with him then I'll lose all self respect. The thing is, not meaning to blow my own trumpet (wrong choice of words again!😄) but I'm good in bed and he knows it.

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Dontneedthedramaimtooold · 02/02/2025 03:30

Then he had a snack, then we were asked what our plans for dinner was because the food they had was theirs for the week!

considering we were there to help with something I’ve never felt less welcome

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Ironironiron · 02/02/2025 03:30

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:26

😂😂😂 is dcs daughters btw? Guessdd that!

No DD is daughters. DS is sons. There's a key with all the abbreviations on the mumsnet site somewhere.

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Blueberrymuffin8 · 02/02/2025 03:31

I'm awake because I went to bed top early as I have Covid. Really peed off I can't find my headphones!

Hearmeout2023 · 02/02/2025 03:32

doesnt make sense! Thats ur husband father of ur children if there was no connection he wouldnt sleep with u. Its not over im sorry im not trying to win u round or mess with ur head but he might say that and men say alot of things its us women that over think and ur sat there feeling lost awake strsssing. But no signs for u? Stil affectionate etc…just doesnt make sense id leave him id go quiet shut hom
out show him
what its like to rele lose u and he will soon be back guarantee u. He wil be lost without u no doubt and sometimes men say these things without thinking surely theres signs for u leading up to it? Is he seeing someone else?