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Bonnie Blue -sex positivity or old fashioned shame?

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mids2019 · 18/01/2025 05:49

Bonnie Blue.....just why?

I guess we have a woman that has made a lot of money and notoriety out of an act but I really can't see this as being a positive really. I guess it does highlight the age old question whether we should be against at female promiscuity or not be judgemental about how a woman use her body but it does seem rather crass.

Anyway I prefer other world records perosnally.

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SallyWD · 27/01/2025 07:17

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 04:15

What disturbs me is that before the 'event' started she went down to the queue of men and said that if they wanted they could spit on her and slap her if they wanted.

After the event she showed the fingermarks and bruises on her legs. There was even a bit mark near her groin.
She stated that it turned her on to think they were "putting their mark on her".

To me, this is further proof she has some kind of bizarre mindset and wants to degrade women in men's eyes and encourage sexual abuse of women and girls.

Looking at the demographic of men that attended it seems she is catering to and encouraging a subset of the male population that already thinks white women are 'trash'.

Just because you saw some brown skinned males were in attendance, it's a bit of leap to assume they think white women are trash. They are individuals with their own thoughts and ideas.

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 07:57

Who mentioned "brown-skinned males"? I didn't.

IMO any man who wanted to engage in sexual activities, on camera, with a prostitute, would regard women as "trash".

The fact that they chose to bite her, slap her and use other violence against her, (including leaving marks around her throat) further explains their derisory attitude towards women.

I find it concerning that you would try and defend such behaviour on behalf of the participants.

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 08:00

SallyWD · 27/01/2025 07:17

Just because you saw some brown skinned males were in attendance, it's a bit of leap to assume they think white women are trash. They are individuals with their own thoughts and ideas.

Who mentioned "brown-skinned males"? I didn't.

IMO any man who wanted to engage in sexual activities, on camera, with a prostitute, would regard women as "trash".

The fact that they chose to bite her, slap her and use other violence against her, (including leaving marks around her throat) further explains their derisory attitude towards women.

I find it concerning that you would try and defend such behaviour on behalf of the participants.

SallyWD · 27/01/2025 08:11

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 08:00

Who mentioned "brown-skinned males"? I didn't.

IMO any man who wanted to engage in sexual activities, on camera, with a prostitute, would regard women as "trash".

The fact that they chose to bite her, slap her and use other violence against her, (including leaving marks around her throat) further explains their derisory attitude towards women.

I find it concerning that you would try and defend such behaviour on behalf of the participants.

I'm not defending that behaviour at all. I find the whole business utterly vile. Can you clarify what you meant then when you talked about a demographic of men who think white women are trash? You can't have meant men who use prostitutes because you wouldn't have specifically referred to "white women".

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 08:22

demographic = a particular part of a population.

a subset = a part of a larger collection

Female porn actresses are usually white because for many years the porn industry was established and run by white Caucasian people.

SallyWD · 27/01/2025 08:24

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 08:22

demographic = a particular part of a population.

a subset = a part of a larger collection

Female porn actresses are usually white because for many years the porn industry was established and run by white Caucasian people.

It was clear to me what you meant but it's ok for you to back peddle 😁.

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 08:29

SallyWD · 27/01/2025 08:24

It was clear to me what you meant but it's ok for you to back peddle 😁.

If you can read minds then why ask me what I mean? 🤔

Unfortunately, I don't understand what your issue is with my original post.

SallyWD · 27/01/2025 08:36

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 08:29

If you can read minds then why ask me what I mean? 🤔

Unfortunately, I don't understand what your issue is with my original post.

Edited

I agree with everything you said apart from the last paragraph which clearly implied certain men (non-white men) viewed white women as trash. Whilst I'm sure this is true in some cases, I was picking you up on the comment because it was a huge generalisation. And it is what you meant, despite the back peddling. However, it's OK. We don't need to keep bickering.

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 08:44

@SallyWD the last paragraph which clearly implied certain men (non-white men) viewed white women as trash

Maybe implied to you.

I never mentioned race/ethnicity.

Please stop second guessing me.

BigAnne · 27/01/2025 08:57

What also shocks and saddens me is it's all available on X for the whole world to see. This will most certainly be viewed by young boys and girls which will cause them lasting damage IMO.

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 09:15

BigAnne · 27/01/2025 08:57

What also shocks and saddens me is it's all available on X for the whole world to see. This will most certainly be viewed by young boys and girls which will cause them lasting damage IMO.

I understand that Only Fans have banned her recording(s) of this event due to certain OF conditions not being adhered to.

A spokesman told MailOnline: 'OnlyFans is a platform designed for creators who have completed our comprehensive onboarding process and choose to monetise their content.
'To keep our community safe, OnlyFans also verifies the age, identity and consent of all parties featured in explicit content on OnlyFans.
'We do not allow a large number of non-OnlyFans creators to be featured on an account even where release forms have been provided.'

It remains to be seen if she will try and distribute it via another platform.

BigAnne · 27/01/2025 09:25

I'm really shocked that it's available on X for anyone to view.

IDontHateRainbows · 27/01/2025 13:36

It's on reddit as well. Easy for anyone to find

onwardsup4 · 27/01/2025 14:25

Why are people getting upset about her being called a come bucket etc? That's exactly what she wants to be and what she's making millions out of. The men are disgusting scum and she's a self made come bucket.

onwardsup4 · 27/01/2025 14:27

BigAnne · 27/01/2025 09:25

I'm really shocked that it's available on X for anyone to view.

Had enough of this world.

jolies1 · 27/01/2025 14:43

Daisychainsforme · 27/01/2025 09:15

I understand that Only Fans have banned her recording(s) of this event due to certain OF conditions not being adhered to.

A spokesman told MailOnline: 'OnlyFans is a platform designed for creators who have completed our comprehensive onboarding process and choose to monetise their content.
'To keep our community safe, OnlyFans also verifies the age, identity and consent of all parties featured in explicit content on OnlyFans.
'We do not allow a large number of non-OnlyFans creators to be featured on an account even where release forms have been provided.'

It remains to be seen if she will try and distribute it via another platform.

It seems rather convenient that she can’t share the evidence of this ridiculous event - so no real “proof” it actually happened

Daisychainsforme · 28/01/2025 03:52

BigAnne · 27/01/2025 09:25

I'm really shocked that it's available on X for anyone to view.

I didn't know that it was until I looked.

There are some small clips posted.

I didn't know such material was allowed on X ??

Sheknowsaboutme · 28/01/2025 06:47

sex positivity? Nothing positive about being shafted by numerous dirty dicks, one after the other. She needs her head looking at, and those who believes she is doing a great thing for women.

seriously, shes a dirty scrubber.

DMS88 · 31/01/2025 20:33

The reaction of disgust and, in my case, unadulterated rage, is nothing to do with slut shaming and that's an overly simplistic view to take. This isn't about a woman consensually, enthusiastically having sex with men for her own enjoyment. This is about a woman putting herself at significant risk and publicising her own exploitation and the degradation of her body for financial gain and fame, regardless of the consequences.

There is nothing empowering or 'feminist' about treating a woman's body (even if it's your own) as a commodity/object to be sold, used or abused. Men have done that since time memoriam and just because some women are now 'consenting' and financially benefiting from it does not make it a feminist act. It just makes them complicit in their own objectification. 'Choice feminism', IMO isn't feminism at all. It's handmaiden bullshit.

This is not sex positivity in any sense, it is reinforcing the idea that a woman's body is there to be used and abused by men. She also openly admitted that safe sex practices were disregarded a number of times, by a number of different men. These anonymous, balaclava wearing men who are now taking god knows what diseases back to their wives and girlfriends. That alone should be criminal.

As a woman, I do have some concern/empathy for her state of mind and the damage this will do to her in the long run but I am FAR more concerned about the damage she and the media who publicise it, are doing to 1000s of women. She is actively promoting harm and violence against women and is, on the face of it, proud of that. It is morally repugnant. There are women who are trafficked, abused, exploited and murdered every single day - they are the majority of women who make up 'sex work' trade. This isnt a casual, lighthearted topic to giggle about on podcasts as she boasts about the money she's made while young, impressionable girls and women watch along. That is where I lose ANY sense of care or sympathy for this woman.

The men involved are vile, disgusting pigs. No newsflash there.

Applecharm25 · 31/01/2025 21:17

I honestly don't care what she does.

We all have free will.

If she wants to, let her.

IDontHateRainbows · 31/01/2025 22:20

Am I wrong for saying part of me admires her for nor giving into societal shame? I mean, shame controls most of us, the need to avoid it. But she's essentially free of it.

Sunshineandblueskysalltheway · 31/01/2025 22:34

'I asked my husband what he thought about her and he said that he thought she was a repugnant cum bucket.

I'm glad that there are still decent men around.'

Quite. You must wish your husband in particular was among them. @SkiingIsHeaven

Daisychainsforme · 01/02/2025 06:10

Applecharm25 · 31/01/2025 21:17

I honestly don't care what she does.

We all have free will.

If she wants to, let her.

Have you not read (and taken in), anything that DMS88 (20.33 yesterday) has written?

What she (Bonnie Blue) does affects all of us.

We all have free will but we also have a responsibility to society. That is called "social responsibility". Social responsibility is one’s responsibility to society and to humanity in general. It involves adherence to law and established standards of behavior in and for the general public. eg: we don't throw our rubbish into other peoples' front gardens.

Individual responsibility is ones responsibility to one’s self and can include one’s family and close friends an associates.

Disregarding social responsibility in favour of individual concerns is known as social pathology.

Daisychainsforme · 01/02/2025 06:12

IDontHateRainbows · 31/01/2025 22:20

Am I wrong for saying part of me admires her for nor giving into societal shame? I mean, shame controls most of us, the need to avoid it. But she's essentially free of it.

You can say what you like, but please see my post above.

mids2019 · 01/02/2025 07:30

Is the internet partially to blame for all of this? Especially the rise of SM and the dark world of Only Fans where Instagram meets pornhub? It seems Only Fans has a veneer of respectability as a 'modelling ' site but appears something akin to a gateway drug for women into the world of porn.

Also column space in the tabloid media. Is there something more worthy of reporting on this planet than Lily Philips anal preparations?

One thing I do think needs highlighting that being a poem actress is statistically one of the most fatal jobs on the planet with an average death age of 40 K believe with auicide, mental breakdown, overdose etc. to blame.

Do these women hope to buck that trend and escape mentally unscathed with millions in their back pockets?

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