Herpes Medication found in my husbands bag

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I have just found empty packets of tablets from an online pharmacy box dated 17th dec 2024 for anciclovir in my husbands laptop bag.
All the empty packets and packing was also in the box, like it was hidden in there.
When I googled that medication it's used for genital herpes. He doesn't and never has had cold sores.
I am obviously thinking the worst seeing how it was hidden away. Please don't judge me, I wasn't actually looking on purposes, I happened to come across it.
Am I right to be assuming the worst?

You need to talk to your hubby about the tablets you found only way to find out the truth

You don't say.

You missed my point. Completely.

Get yourself checked!!!!!!! Asap

Bear in mind heroes can lie dormant for years and years and then flare up.

This is one of the most ignorant posts here. There’s a magic button on the OP labelled ‘see all’. I suggest you use it and read the OP’s updates. This whole thread is a clear demonstration of why people don’t tell. Because there is so much misinformation, ignorance and suspicion around the disease that there will always be someone there to tell you your partner has cheated when they haven’t. Bit like you realy.

I contracted genital herpes in my early twenties..I am 61 years old.
Herpes comes back if you're really run down. It doesn't mean he has contracted it recently.
I have had it return twice since then.the most recent bout was last week and I have had sex fr 15 years!
I am sure that this might be the case for youth husband.

Sorry. I meant I haven't had sex for 15 years

Make sure they test you for IgG AND IgM antibodies and explain to you which is which (I can’t remember but one is for past exposure and one is for more recent exposure). It’s possible you have been exposed but your body is just very very good at keeping it at bay. For instance I have tested positive for the oral type of HSV (herpes) but have never had a cold sore.

Like everyone else says... ask him. And don't have sex until you do. Herpes 2 is far worse for women.

Sorry, but he's playing away, especially as you say you don't have a sex life with him. Pin him down and ask him.

You are very correct. And this is very likely the case.
Although I will say that this is what I believed. Until my husband who I thought would never cheat did. After 8 months of no sex through the end of pregnancy and having the baby etc. he assured me he wasn’t bothered about sex etc and then I found clamydia medication, asked him to move out for a break to see what we could do to fix it and found out he had been seeing someone for a few months.

so you can never know until you know if that makes sense. Even my friends told me he was incapable due to the type of person he was but my gut was right.

it’s about what your gut is telling you.

OP i don't think you are wrong to be suspicious, like you say if it was something usual, you would know about it and he would have gone to your GP. It's a horrible situation to find yourself in. It would probably ne a good idea to get yourself tested too. Sorry OP 😞

You can't.

Does he have no interest in sex? I gather you don't.

He probablyhid the medicationbecause he was worried you would asume he caught it recently.
you must talk to him frankly there is no where to hide with this one.
Good luck..

Ask him!

Gosh there's a lot of misinformation on here about herpes. It's extremely common to have and carry the virus. It can be passed on in childhood just by kissing. I have herpes. My husband probably does too, as we've been together so long, but has no physical signs that we know of. Neither of us gets cold sores that are obviously cold sores. The first outbreak I had was when I was run down - was in a monogamous relationship, and had been for 20 years. I don't know how or where I contracted it, and neither of us has been cheating. It's likely one of us contracted it before we met - and there's nothing either of us can do about that. Getting medication is usually through a sexual health clinic. The NHS being what it is, in the past I have bought medication online when I had an outbreak and couldn't get an appointment. It also took ages to get diagnosed, because by the time I could get an appointment there was nothing to see, and it didn't correspond to descriptions online, so I was treated for other things. When I did find out, I was embarrassed and ashamed because of taboos and misinformation. And because of how long it can take to show up, I didn't know whether my husband might assume the worst of me! Do not assume the worst until a/You get some accurate information about how common it is and how it's passed on. b/until you talk to your husband about it. He could be suffering psychologically from the shock of learning that he has it and wondering what a difference it will make to your lives, especially if your first thought is to assume he's cheating. He may be, but it is also just as highly likely that he is not, and he is another unlucky sufferer whose stress has made symptoms appear.

Yes, @Stalygirl
And if you read the history of the virus and its public health story it's easy to pinpoint when the shame began - when antivirals came along and needed to be marketed! Suddenly a virus which was present in a large swathe of the population was portrayed as something g that needed sorting.
No doubt anti virals are great. But the message that went along with them wasn't!

Couldn't agree more. I've had cold sores for 70 years and hated them because they hurt and looked horrible (I had particularly bad outbreaks) but there was never any shaming about being dirty. I feel sorry for young people who get the virus now.

I remember the first time I heard the shaming when a bitch at work announced I had herpes and laughed. It was about 20 years ago.

Men don’t cheat all the time. You need to meet better men. The OP knows her DH far better than you

Yes. You can.

Not without open sores you can't. OP doesn't have open sores to check.

(The blood tests are notoriously unreliable.)

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, scars and acyclovir thanks.

You really can't

I tested negative in my blood for years and then HSV2 sores popped up on my shoulder (which were misdiagnosed as shingles for years until I insisted on a swab). If I hadn't insisted on a swab and paid for it privately, I would never have known it was 2 rather than 1.

Now it shows in my blood but I can only have picked it up from one person back in 2016 and it was negative in my blood for ages.

@carpevitam Honestly, I seen it as he was clearly too embarrassed to say. It's not a big deal he always takes his medication and I have never had it, touch wood. I kind of just chose to understand rather than judge.