Herpes Medication found in my husbands bag

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I have just found empty packets of tablets from an online pharmacy box dated 17th dec 2024 for anciclovir in my husbands laptop bag.
All the empty packets and packing was also in the box, like it was hidden in there.
When I googled that medication it's used for genital herpes. He doesn't and never has had cold sores.
I am obviously thinking the worst seeing how it was hidden away. Please don't judge me, I wasn't actually looking on purposes, I happened to come across it.
Am I right to be assuming the worst?

She didn't notice them on his willy either and over at least 10-15 years she hasn't caught anything from his willy.

Omg, unless you haven't had sex in a long time you'd be showing symptoms of genital herpes yourself
Herpes never goes, it just gets treated.
This isn't good.
You need to speak to him and if it is herpes then it's the door for him.
You only catch genital herpes if someone is on a flare up so he must of been somewhere nasty

Cold sores and genital herpes are not the same. You can’t catch genital herpes from someone with a cold sore kissing your vag or penis. I can’t believe people are so uneducated.

Op for what it’s worth I believe him and were they hidden or just in his bag ?

I'm sorry so many people here want him to be going with prostitutes and having all sorts.

enjoy your happy marriage

Thats BS yes you can. I did. Talking about uneducated take a good long look in a mirror you are seriously misinformed.

Yes you can catch genital herpes from a cold sore. This is from the NHS site:
ou can get genital herpes:

• from skin-to-skin contact with the infected area (including vaginal, anal and oral sex)
• when there are no visible sores or blisters
• if a cold sore touches your genitals
• by transferring the infection on fingers from someone else to your genitals
• by sharing sex toys with someone who has herpes

You can.
Google HSV 1 or type 1 Herpes

@Agespot
Not necessarily.
I've been married to my husband for over thirty years and never caught a cold sore on the lips or 'down there'

• and they're interchangeable.

Of course I could be infected. I don't know. But I've never had a visible sign.

You need to read the OP's updates, she has already spoken to him and updated the post.

There are some disgraceful attitudes on this thread

Calling people with herpes nasty and dirty is exactly the reason so many people hide the condition

It's a virus fgs

OP so sorry for your troubles. Several pages ago there was a post (which I liked & replied to) about how MN tends to forget that at the heart of these threads there are real people and upsetting events. The point is that some posters are here for entertainment, and want to read about the worst.

Your story ends unproven, he has a rational explanation that stands up to scrutiny but cannot be proven. Some members don't believe him, but this is probably because of their own life experiences rather than your circumstances. Early doors you said that you would know if he was lying and your opinion is the only one that counts.

Having said that, and accepting his explanation at face value, I still think that he is in the wrong and owes you an apology and heartfelt discussion. For 15 years he has known that he has a virus which could (with intimate contact which I believe that you have been consenting to with him in that time period) infect you with viral sores up to and including genital herpes.

IMHO he has some explaining to do.

I don’t think I’d get past the lies and the hiding of them,that’s what would really piss me off. The trust would be gone.

colds sores are ten a penny and folks don’t bat an eye when someone has them so the I’m embarrassed doesn’t cut it.

Saying it is hidden makes it sound like something nasty, I just don't think I've ever mentioned the antivirals to him because we have other things to discuss and it hasn't come up. If he ever said, "Isn't it strange you don't get cold sores any more." or "Fred says his cold sores are killing him, I said I'd ask you how you've got yours under control." then of course I'd tell him and give him the name of the meds and how to order them for Fred.

Is there nothing in your life that you haven't discussed/explained to your DH?

The antivirals are doing their job and preventing outbreaks. I haven't had a visible outbreak in over ten years although I have had one up my nose, I'd run out of antivirals and by the time I'd ordered them and they arrived it was too late to stop the outbreak.

And the misinformation goes on and on.

the funny thing is that lots of the people saying people with herpes are nasty and dirty might well have it themselves. So many people think if you have the virus you have outbreaks but that isn't true and some people just don't have outbreaks for years and then suddenly do. It is a very cunning little virus.

Hilarious that someone so uneducated should call others uneducated.

@TheignT I'm one of the posters who are saying there should be no shame; that it's just a skin condition. A cold sore (if it's caused by HSV 1) can effectively be on your face or genitals.
It can be shit either way, or be a one off. If it's the latter tho, the virus will
Still be there.
We need to banish the stigma because jt makes no senses

@TheignT precisely - that’s what you do with your DH but the OP’s DH does keep them hidden from her, which does suggest something he is ashamed of/embarrassed about having them. He doesn’t keep his medication in their shared facilities but away from her in a laptop bag. She felt betrayed on discovering them. Which suggests something more sinister than having cold sores that he manages himself & just never mentioned before. That are enough for him to require higher doses & regular prevention.

I have no stigma towards either HSV 1 or 2 & don’t believe there should be any, don’t believe anyone should feel shame. But the OP’s husband does.

Anyway the OP has concluded her thread & what they choose to do going forward is her call. I’ll end this here too!

Never had ointment ever for genital herpes. Aciclovir tablets yes but no erp cream

Mmm yeah you can

Agreed.
Uneducated people should not be spouting silly comments around.

From the NHS website...

Do not have oral sex until your cold sore completely heals as you could give your partner genital herpes

I'm a believer in having STD screening before a new relationship gets physical, and have found that it's extremely difficult to get reliably tested for this if not symptomatic and with no history of symptoms.

Apparently, most people who are symptomatic show symptoms within two weeks of exposure. Around 75% of infected people either never have symptoms or have symptoms so mild that they miss them.

That's right, but either type can be transmitted to/from either end, ie you can have oral herpes on your genitals and vice-versa.

Additionally, both types of Herpes can also be caught via virus shedding, which happens randomly and without any signs of an outbreak.

I was agreeing with you. Sorry if that was confusing, I didn't make it clear.

From studies I've read shedding gets less frequent over time. So you are most likely to spread it in the first year or two. I think I was one of the exceptions as my outbreaks never got less frequent and I would have been shedding then.