Suddenly single - would you date again in your 50s

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I have been idly musing. If DH were to leave me there is no way of knowing for sure, but I highly doubt I would want another partner.

I cannot imagine starting over - all the uncertainty and compromise. For me it wouldn't be worth it. Also, I am not a person who relishes company 24/7.

Wondering if this is more the norm these days?

For me i knew a lady that was middle to late 50's and after previous relationship wanted a more friendship style rather than full commitment

Absolutely not.

IMO some women just can’t do without a man. Not that I’m one of those!

I’m rather older, but even at 50 I don’t think I could have been bothered with another man. I’ve been lucky with dh - I doubt I’d be that lucky again.

And as someone once put it, dating is such hard work - always trying to look perfect, and pretending to be too ladylike to fart…

Never really thought of it to be honest. Who knows. Depends on the circumstances of the split I suppose and if the kids have flown the nest or not.

Good God No

I'm 50. If DH died or left me, I just couldn't be bothered with another man. I like men! But I can't be arsed with starting over again and sharing my life with someone else. I really like my own company and own space.

Not a bloody chance. I’ve been single for 7 years and I cannot imagine looking for a bloke again. Fuck the lot of them. 🤬

Absolutely not. Women ime that’s are single in their 50’s are much happier than men. I have my DD & dog and I really like my own company though.

I think absolutely not. Really can’t see the benefit in it and it all sounds like hard work where the best outcome is you’re then shackled to some old bloke, no thanks.

That said, I’m not in that position and who knows how I’d actually feel?

I was wondering about this today. DH is the love of my life. He's perfect for me. How could someone follow that? But then I had a dream last night that made me think that I would consider it if I was absolutely captivated and swoony. Realistically, that's just not going to happen.

I think I would be lonely though. I need very little interaction but I do need that shared life.

Nope.

I have male friends who I’d still see, but nothing romantic. Couldn’t be arsed with that.

Same and I'm 40. Fuck that!

I would date. I wouldhace relationships. I wouldn't move in with another man. I wouldn't marry again. I dont want to to look after or care for anyone else. A nice dinner, a bit of chit chat and a shag is as far as it would go.

I was convinced I'd never want to be with someone again when dh was alive. He died when I was late 40s. Turns out I like being in a relationship much more than I realised. Dp is lovely. If he weren't around I'd probably go looking again.

I'm early 50s (but feeling 19 or 25 or 34 or whatever) and suddenly single. At some point, I'll want the excitement of a new relationship.
Will I remarry? Almost surely not, but I'll want the flirtation and attention, the sense of occasion that dating and a relationship brings.

No. Why would you want to? I'd like another dog though.

Interesting that most wouldn't. I would love having a small cost flat, decorated and sorted just for me. Don't get me wrong, I love DH dearly but it would be nice.

All of the happiest people I know are widows or divorced.

Alone in theory and alone in reality are two very different things. I’m divorced and single and 40s with two teen DDs. I’m not going to lie, it is very lonely not having another adult to chat to, to share life with, to always fall asleep alone and wake up by yourself. Agreed the dating world is a binfire and it is very easy to say, I can’t do it. That’s where I am currently at, but am I happy? Not really. Would l like to have a lovely partner? Yes. Do I think it will happen? Probably not sadly.

I wouldn't date again in my forties.

Nope, far too much effort. If I met someone through work or my hobbies and it developed into a friendship and more then I might, but no OLD or anything like that.

Hell no.

This. Meeting someone through ‘natural causes’ is one thing, but OLD sounds brutal

I was chatting to my mum about the very same today! Mum is 80's and was widowed early 60's. She had been with my dad since they were teens and when he died she could not contemplate 'looking after an old man' . My dad was always a teenager in her eyes (as was she!)
I'm very happily married and have been for 30 yrs but if anything happened to DH I wouldn't bother with anyone else.
Well that's what I think at the moment anyway. It's hypothetical so the reality might feel different

NO.
I'm 45 and although I love my husband of 20 years and am grateful for much to him, I already keep thinking what's my life gonna be like when I'm left by myself.
Not a single thought includes another man, for eternity.
My husband is 75.
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