Suddenly single - would you date again in your 50s

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I have been idly musing. If DH were to leave me there is no way of knowing for sure, but I highly doubt I would want another partner.

I cannot imagine starting over - all the uncertainty and compromise. For me it wouldn't be worth it. Also, I am not a person who relishes company 24/7.

Wondering if this is more the norm these days?

It’s not even that it’s too hard, it’s just I’m not sure I’d have it in me to give myself again (currently probably going through break up)

Yes I would.

I like being in a relationship, I don't need it, but I prefer it.

After 1st H and I split up when I was mid-30s I started dating and met 2nd DH.

After 2nd DH died when I was mid-40s I did OLD and met current partner.
I'm early 50s and we are soon going to be living together now my children are both adults.

Thinking about this as I think things between me and DH are not great, and I'm not sure what this year will bring.

Yeah, I'd want to date. It's been a long time. It would be nice to feel interesting and new to someone again, and to get butterflies and all that stuff.

Living with another man? Not sure.

I’m not sure I could be bothered. I’m 56.

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER i don't hold them in lol (farts) 🤣🤣

I've been single for 11 years, I'm 55 now. I have no interest in going there again.

Op I'm a definite no. Its too much hassle trying to find someone, who doesn't have excess baggage. I've been single 3 year's now and I don't miss dating. Just can't be arsed anymore 🫤

Would be very wary of nurse with a purse territory...

Nope. I'm 50. Single for two years. Still in the honeymoon stage of singledom 😂

There's a man on the horizon (a friend from many years ago) who I know is interested but I need to explain to him that I don't want sex, don't want to share a bed and don't want to live with him.

Ever.

Looking forward to seeing how that works out!!

I’m in my late sixties and I would be very unhappy without a partner. For a start what about sex? I’d be very miserable to give that up and all the lovely cuddling in bed by on a rainy morning, endless tea and chats. I love cooking and it wouldn’t be nearly such fun just for me.Dog walking and dining out, holidays without being alone, no, I’d want someone else. DH and I have a pact to come back and haunt if the one left solo isn’t looking after 3 months!

No, definitely not. I’m 57, divorced nearly a decade ago. I’ve never even considered dating/looking, absolutely not interested at all.

I got divorced at 48 and was convinced I wanted nothing more to do with men, but then I met someone at work and it's LOVELY. I have a new lease of life! I don't ever want to live with a man again but having someone to share life with is really fun.

I'm 55 and have basically been terminally single. Longest relationship was 4 years.

I gave up at 48. Anything I would gain from a relationship is massively outweighed by everything I would lose. I cannot be assed with any of it. I have turned into the stereotypical middle aged cat lady (I have 2) and I love it! I realised it's a stereotype for a reason, because it's bloody brilliant!

Very occasionally I miss the company and think maybe it would be nice to have someone to have dinner with or a couple of drinks and some chat. But realistically I'd want someone max once a month and no ones going to want that! And I have friends/family I can do that with. I kinda miss flirting sometimes, but a relationship, no I don't miss it.

I'm mid 50s been single years 5 years .. recently met a lovely man on OLD
Surprised to find he ticks all the boxes... but its ahigh bar with me...
If this doesn't work out , that's it, I'll get a dog...

Nope, I'm in my 40s and I wouldn't.

No way. Mostly because I can't put up with anyone else's children. And I don't want to care for a man other than my DH.

Absolutely not, no

In contrast, most men I know who are single in their 50s have immediately found someone else. Often 15 years younger. Mostly a nurse.

Same here. That's the path I took when my marriage ended in my mind 40s. I enjoyed dating (sometimes!) and met someone who I am happy with and if it doesn't last I'll date again.

I'm 60, and yes I think I would date again. Not a chance in hell I'd marry again, though.

I got very lucky with DH, we met quite young, married in our 20s and have managed to grow together and not have much friction at all, now I'm 40 if he passed or left I'd be happy to live alone or with the children, I wouldn't go out and seek a new man but if I did find someone else I wouldn't live together or get married to them.

Late 50s and absolutely would not bother with another partner if the worst was to happen to DH.
Just couldn’t be bothered with the whole rigmarole.

I am in my 50s, and have gone for the best of both worlds option: long-term committed relationship, but long distance and we both have our own houses, and time and space to ourselves. No plans to marry or move in together.

But I have been to two weddings this year of couples in their 50s, so clearly some people do want the whole togetherness and marriage thing.

I think I might be lonely as DC grown, but I would just move my mum in! I realise this is most people's idea of hell.😁

This what l would want - not to live with another man but someone to go out with and go on holidays with etc