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Ok would it be desperate to text the man I sat next to on the plane?

298 replies

KeiraBlackDove · 28/12/2024 15:30

Ok, name changed for this as I'm a 48 year old woman behaving like a teenager 🙈.

I sat next to an extremely handsome 6 foot 5 Canadian man on flight to Toronto a couple of weeks ago. He saw me my pen didn't work so let me borrow his and we got chatting.

Turns out he is a consultant Dr in the UK and was returning home to visit his elderly parents. We chatted so easily for hours and he told me he had helped organise a tour of Toronto and local areas for a dr he worked with so knew lots of nice places to visit. He showed me the itinerary he made for them on his phone and gave me his number in case I had any questions about the city whilst there. He didn't ask for my number.

He is a real dr as I've checked him out on LinkedIn 🙈 and Facebook, hopefully anonymously.

I messaged him when I returned to London to thank him for his hints and tips. He replied immediately and said he had hoped to see me in Toronto!

After a few texts back and forward he asked me to meet him for drink when one day when I returned from France - I was there with work - and he sent me a 'xx'.
A week passed and he didnt message! So I messaged him to follow on some chat we had. He immediately sent me a voicenote, said I was great to hear from me and tnat he had a couple of long shifts coming up but he would call me. He texted over the next l couple of days later to ask how I was doing and tnat he was on his shift but would be off this week and he would call me to meet.

5 days have passed and no message from him again! Should I just delete his no now? I know he was off this week and had no plans for NY so it would have been nice to have met.

OP posts:
Bournetilly · 28/12/2024 15:31

Message him, you have nothing to lose.

Mishmashs · 28/12/2024 15:34

I would message him. If he blanks you or is silly then who cares, you’ll never see him again.

MaryYellann · 28/12/2024 15:36

Message him - if he is keen, he'll be pleased to hear from you, and if he's not keen then it wont matter anyway.

Mamabear999 · 28/12/2024 15:37

Def message and see where it goes.

Fuckitydoodah · 28/12/2024 15:37

Bournetilly · 28/12/2024 15:31

Message him, you have nothing to lose.

This. What's the worst that can happen?

If he doesn't reply, or comes back with an excuse, then you move on, but at least you'll know.

Thefastplodder · 28/12/2024 15:37

No don’t message him - if he’s interested in that way he’ll contact you.

ZekeZeke · 28/12/2024 15:38

If he was interested in you, he would have messaged/contacted you.

BettyBardMacDonald · 28/12/2024 15:39

Message him.

Five days that included Christmas is nothing.

Neveragain8102 · 28/12/2024 15:39

Mamabear999 · 28/12/2024 15:37

Def message and see where it goes.

This

You only live once.

TwinkleLights24 · 28/12/2024 15:40

Leave him. He’s probably with his family and if a man wanted to talk he would.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 28/12/2024 15:41

BettyBardMacDonald · 28/12/2024 15:39

Message him.

Five days that included Christmas is nothing.

This.

Message. Even if it's to say "Hi. Hope you had a lovely Christmas"

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 28/12/2024 15:42

Oh goodness, enough with the should I shouldn't I and the game playing suggestions

Just message him! You like him so show it!

NotMeForBakeoff · 28/12/2024 15:43

He's not called several times now, so it depends what you want from him.

WetBandits · 28/12/2024 15:43

Some posters really love to make people feel silly and small for wanting to message first! One of them has to send the first message, why shouldn’t it be OP?

I’d message him, what do you have to lose?

isthismylifenow · 28/12/2024 15:43

I would leave it a few days and send a Happy New Year message and see what happens from there.

I would never message twice for a general hi. So the new year one gives a reason.

stripeystripedstripes · 28/12/2024 15:47

If it wasn’t Xmas I’d say he’s just not that into you, but he’s probably been busy and distracted.

Sidenote: Facebook searching isn’t anonymous, if you look people up you will often start appearing as a suggested friend. LinkedIn it depends on your settings.

Oodlesandoodlesofnoodles · 28/12/2024 15:48

Sorry but I think he was looking for a holiday shag/bit of company in Toronto. As others have said, though, nothing to lose.

unclemtty · 28/12/2024 15:49

As long as he's not married/in a relationship just message him.

KeiraBlackDove · 28/12/2024 15:49

Hi everyone - thanks for your messages.

I know he doesn't have family in the UK (he visited them in Canada this month) but he was working in the hospital Xmas and Boxing Day.

Mmm..maybe I will leave it to NY to message him ljke a PP suggested. Hate this malarkey!

OP posts:
leia24 · 28/12/2024 15:51

As long as you're not going to be devastated or moping over him if it doesn't work, just message him

Wimbledonmum1985 · 28/12/2024 15:54

He’s probably married OP.

drinkstoomuchwine · 28/12/2024 15:54

If it was me I’d hang on a few days ..

leia24 · 28/12/2024 15:54

Wimbledonmum1985 · 28/12/2024 15:54

He’s probably married OP.

I did think this but thought I was going too mumsnet

BiggyJ · 28/12/2024 15:56

I totally would.

Nothing to lose and everything to gain! 😉

A New Year's message would be perfect.

Something like -
Hi. Just want to wish you a HNY.
Thanks for those tips you gave me, I had a great trip. Let me know if I can return the favour x

Sassybooklover · 28/12/2024 15:57

Message him! You literally have nothing to lose! Life is too short to have 'what ifs'!!

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