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Ok would it be desperate to text the man I sat next to on the plane?

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KeiraBlackDove · 28/12/2024 15:30

Ok, name changed for this as I'm a 48 year old woman behaving like a teenager 🙈.

I sat next to an extremely handsome 6 foot 5 Canadian man on flight to Toronto a couple of weeks ago. He saw me my pen didn't work so let me borrow his and we got chatting.

Turns out he is a consultant Dr in the UK and was returning home to visit his elderly parents. We chatted so easily for hours and he told me he had helped organise a tour of Toronto and local areas for a dr he worked with so knew lots of nice places to visit. He showed me the itinerary he made for them on his phone and gave me his number in case I had any questions about the city whilst there. He didn't ask for my number.

He is a real dr as I've checked him out on LinkedIn 🙈 and Facebook, hopefully anonymously.

I messaged him when I returned to London to thank him for his hints and tips. He replied immediately and said he had hoped to see me in Toronto!

After a few texts back and forward he asked me to meet him for drink when one day when I returned from France - I was there with work - and he sent me a 'xx'.
A week passed and he didnt message! So I messaged him to follow on some chat we had. He immediately sent me a voicenote, said I was great to hear from me and tnat he had a couple of long shifts coming up but he would call me. He texted over the next l couple of days later to ask how I was doing and tnat he was on his shift but would be off this week and he would call me to meet.

5 days have passed and no message from him again! Should I just delete his no now? I know he was off this week and had no plans for NY so it would have been nice to have met.

OP posts:
dottydodah · 28/12/2024 16:32

Just a HNY would be fine I think .You got on well,wheres the harm? If nothing comes of it you will have tried your best.Maybe you will have a hot new romance for New year .who knows Good Luck anyway

Resilienceisimportant · 28/12/2024 16:33

BettyBardMacDonald · 28/12/2024 15:39

Message him.

Five days that included Christmas is nothing.

Agreed and he sounds like a busy doctor so time may be a bit different for him.

ChilledBeez · 28/12/2024 16:34

I have always thought where there's a will - there's a way. When guys havn't bothered and i've made excuses, Christmas, long shifts, etc. it's just been as they do not want to pursue you for their own reasons. I personally wouldn't bother. So he has long shifts. If a guy is interested he will find a few minutes. Delete his number and find someone else.

BusyPoster · 28/12/2024 16:34

I wouldn’t, you’ve initiated contact a couple of times now, he has your number if he wants to contact you.

Gall10 · 28/12/2024 16:36

Go with the Geordie saying….shy bairns get nowt.
What have you got to lose….could end up with wedding bells & you might even be able to sell the film rights to Hollywood.
Who would play you?
best of luck!

Stillhere2024 · 28/12/2024 16:37

I would send a generic 'happy new year!' message as if you were sending it to 10+ other people on new year's eve evening. I wouldn't send anything personal to him, he isn't initiating op and you are on the cusp of starting to look a bit too keen. If he was available and keen, I think you would have heard more from him already. Sorry op.

Hesonlyakidharry · 28/12/2024 16:37

Who sent the last message? If it was him, maybe he is waiting for you to message again? He already told you he had wanted to hear from you in Toronto but you didn’t message so maybe he is just playing it carefully in case you’re not that interested in him?

You won’t lose anything by messaging him so go for it!

OnePeppyDenimHelper · 28/12/2024 16:38

Kindly, I would let this go. If you know he was off and no plans for NY and he hasn't been on touch I think thats your answer. Probably in a relationship.

GivingitToGod · 28/12/2024 16:38

Thefastplodder · 28/12/2024 15:37

No don’t message him - if he’s interested in that way he’ll contact you.

This and what is his relationship status?

BusySittingDown · 28/12/2024 16:40

I don't get the "if he was keen he would have messaged you" mentality. He might be thinking the exact same thing! Message him @KeiraBlackDove! You have nothing to lose.

And please keep us updated 😉.

superplumb · 28/12/2024 16:40

Message in the new year..xmas is busy for everyone esp a working dr.
Life is too short..text in new year...then invite us all to the wedding 🥰

MamaorBruh · 28/12/2024 16:41

Crikey just message him! You are wasting so much time going back and forth over whether to message him or not.
Just message a merry Christmas and a couple of days you are free for a drink then leave him to choose.

Sunbeam01 · 28/12/2024 16:41

Also invested! But then I love Jane Austen!

Another vote here for generic happy new years message on NYE!

Augustus40 · 28/12/2024 16:41

As you both live in different countries then there is very little point. Sorry just my view.

PoodleFaceAche · 28/12/2024 16:41

OnePeppyDenimHelper · 28/12/2024 16:38

Kindly, I would let this go. If you know he was off and no plans for NY and he hasn't been on touch I think thats your answer. Probably in a relationship.

Or busy as hell working and he might feel hassled if you text again. I wouldn't like it. Let him answer when he's ready. Or you will look needy and high maintenance.

teatoast8 · 28/12/2024 16:43

Just message him

Augustus40 · 28/12/2024 16:43

Or does he live in the uk?

Hwi · 28/12/2024 16:44

WetBandits · 28/12/2024 15:43

Some posters really love to make people feel silly and small for wanting to message first! One of them has to send the first message, why shouldn’t it be OP?

I’d message him, what do you have to lose?

this

KeiraBlackDove · 28/12/2024 16:44

Yes he lives outside London - I live in London

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cryinglaughing · 28/12/2024 16:47

Just message him!
You have nothing to lose, it's not as if he's your next door neighbour who you will definitely bump into at some point. Are you even in the same area.

Nothing ventured nothing gained 😃

WalterdelaMare · 28/12/2024 16:48

I wouldn’t message him. Not saying that’s right, but if he was interested, he’d have messaged you.

CluelessAsFuck · 28/12/2024 16:51

KeiraBlackDove · 28/12/2024 16:44

Yes he lives outside London - I live in London

Go for it and update us all!!

ChristmasKelpie · 28/12/2024 16:52

Go for it or you will always wonder.

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 28/12/2024 16:54

Following as l have nothing interesting going on in my life and love me a romance story!

YesIdolovehim · 28/12/2024 16:55

Seize the day, OP! Contact him rather than passively waiting for him to contact you. Best to know for sure either way whether he is interested.

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