Ok would it be desperate to text the man I sat next to on the plane?

[KeiraBlackDove]

Ok, name changed for this as I'm a 48 year old woman behaving like a teenager 🙈.

I sat next to an extremely handsome 6 foot 5 Canadian man on flight to Toronto a couple of weeks ago. He saw me my pen didn't work so let me borrow his and we got chatting.

Turns out he is a consultant Dr in the UK and was returning home to visit his elderly parents. We chatted so easily for hours and he told me he had helped organise a tour of Toronto and local areas for a dr he worked with so knew lots of nice places to visit. He showed me the itinerary he made for them on his phone and gave me his number in case I had any questions about the city whilst there. He didn't ask for my number.

He is a real dr as I've checked him out on LinkedIn 🙈 and Facebook, hopefully anonymously.

I messaged him when I returned to London to thank him for his hints and tips. He replied immediately and said he had hoped to see me in Toronto!

After a few texts back and forward he asked me to meet him for drink when one day when I returned from France - I was there with work - and he sent me a 'xx'.
A week passed and he didnt message! So I messaged him to follow on some chat we had. He immediately sent me a voicenote, said I was great to hear from me and tnat he had a couple of long shifts coming up but he would call me. He texted over the next l couple of days later to ask how I was doing and tnat he was on his shift but would be off this week and he would call me to meet.

5 days have passed and no message from him again! Should I just delete his no now? I know he was off this week and had no plans for NY so it would have been nice to have met.

hopefully anonymously made me laugh.

I bet you this guy is married but travels a lot and gets to have affairs, I've met so many of them... OP if I were you I would take this guy with a pinch of salt and do my homework before you start emotionally investing in him.

He seems keen, I’d message him not necessarily asking to meet but just general chit chat and see where it goes but only this once since I see you’ve initiated a couple of times now.

Nah forget it. He’s not interested in any meaningful way. He dangled a carrot of going for a drink in case he was bored but he’s not been that bored so he hasn’t messaged. Texts and voice notes are not indicators of interest. Men can do this with multiple women. He’s not trying to see you or arrange a date despite you giving him more than the green light to do so. You’ve initiated contact twice now. You’re in danger of looking desperate.
This isn’t a hallmark movie. If it was you’d have seen him by now.

Yep.

OP do a face image search if there's one you can take from FB or Linkedin...search on pimeyes and facecheck.id

Message him and initiate plans to meet up within the next week, preferably NYE (as he said he did not have any NYE plans) . If he doesn’t follow through, block and delete, unless you just want a shag.

If he follows through and you meet up within the week, make it your mission to determine if he is actually single.

Life is too short, text him. I asked an acquaintance if we could get to know each other better, we’ve been together 3.5 years now.

[He] gave me his number in case I had any questions about the city whilst there. He didn't ask for my number.

I messaged him when I returned to London ... He replied and said he had hoped to see me in Toronto!

After a few texts back and forward he asked me to meet him for drink when one day when I returned from France

A week passed so I messaged him He sent me a voicenote said ... he would call me. He texted over the next couple of days ... he would call me to meet.

5 days have passed and no message from him again!

I'd not message him.

You've re-initiated twice now. If he thinks of you he'll message.
Opinion is pretty divided here about do it/not do it.
My own feeling is that men like to chase and are happy to do so when they are keen. Old fasioned but <shrug> biology doesn't follow fashion.

This. ^ He's not interested in you @KeiraBlackDove Time to snap back into the real world. You're from different worlds, and you are doing all the chasing... Not a good sign. Nothing is going to happen. Let it go. It was a 5 minute fantasy (of yours.) Even if he's not married he's clearly not bothered.

I will wait a couple of more days then message him. Hi. Xxxc, hope you had s lovely Christmas, please let mr know if you still free and want ti meet one day.

is he single?

Married

Christ your definition of keen and mine must be very different. I honestly think some people on this forum like to see women make fools of themselves. Either that or they have very limited dating experience and very rose tinted spectacles.

😂

”if he was keen he would have messaged you" mentality. He might be thinking the exact same thing!
Really very unlikely.

I agree with pps that men who are interested will chase, and you’ve already indicated interest.

If you’re making excuses for someone at the start of a relationship, it’s generally not going to work.

Hmm. You have every right to message him and ask for a date but my guess is that he’ll be more likely to follow up if you don’t.
As to whether that’s a good thing, he may well be married and struggling with temptation over the holiday period.

I think posters have missed the part where you said that he said that he is off this week and that HE WILL CALL YOU.

If he said that, then no, I wouldn’t text him first.

Just message him. Don't make it a momentous NYE message. You've got nothing to lose! I'm willing to bet he'll be pleased to hear from you!

I've just been watching old re-runs of Sex and the City including the 'He's Just Not That Into You' episode. What Berger said to Miranda then still rings true now: if Toronto doc really wanted to see you again and take you out for a drink, it would have happened by now. Nothing would've got in the way, not work, not other commitments. Let this one go and find a guy who follows through on the chat.

please do
you have been messaging anyway
dont think too much

Trust me on this - a 40 something, good-looking, 6 foot 4 doctor is married. Probably to another doctor.

What type of consultant is he? Shifts are long and intense, with in between times rest and sleep. 5 days can go in a flash. Message him, you really have nothing to lose.

This. No way is he single. Tall, (6 ft 5) handsome consultant is interested in random woman on plane. Nah......... 😂 He is clearly messing with the OP and keeping her well at arms length!

@KeiraBlackDove You message him again and you're going to come across as desperate. Even if he does want to see you again, it will just be for a shag.

I would have lost interest by now, several texts and still no firms plans made…just a whole loads of if buts and maybes. If he wanted to meet a date would have been set already.

@BrooookeDavis - he is works in obstetrics and gynaecology 🙈.

Thank you everyone for your replies.
Im at the hairdresser but im going to man up and make a decision whether to text to delete today I promise.